How Involved is FH in the planning?

Original post by michesq

Mar 23, 2008 09:36 PM

Hi Ladies,

We're all busy and involved in our wedding planning and chit chatting about it but was just curious as to how involved your FH was in the planning? Mine is very involved- he reads the bridal mags, makes the appts, seacrches for vendors, really is honest about what he likes and doe snot like, etc.

How about yours?

fiore76 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 07:18 AM

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He helps me to make the decisions.

PrincessBride09 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 08:04 AM

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Posted by maggiejoe

FH is just as involved as I want him to be for the most part....he comes to see the vendors but I make the appts and everything else....he just kinda agrees with me on what I like (annoying sometimes)

He is really only concerned with what TV he's going to have, how comfortable the couch is going to be and what kind of food we're going to have at the reception.

That is too funny! I have been the one doing all of the searching for vendors, but FH and I decide together who to go look at and when. He definitely has opinions about all of the vendors we see. So far, the decision-making process has been pretty smooth. I am glad that we have agreed on a lot. We actually got into one little fight when I made an appt. for a vendor and then told him the day and time. I asked him if the day and time was good for him, but he felt like I planned it without him. He got upset and said that he does want to be involved. Since that talk, it's been better.

michesq Posted: Mar 24, 2008 08:05 AM

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Posted by fiore76

He helps me to make the decisions.

great since it's his wedding too. I love that the guys want to be involved

amunson Posted: Mar 24, 2008 08:43 AM

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FH and I make most of our decisions together. We just registered this weekend and it was soo much fun!

kabo0831 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 08:47 AM

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fh is invovled but not as much as i hoped

WinterGrl09 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 09:16 AM

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It takes some pushing but he's always there with opinions and at every single vendor.

baba022 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 10:19 AM

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He is on the 'whatever makes you happy' side...but if there is something he def doesn't like, he makes a strong case for it :)

baba022 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 10:20 AM

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Posted by bkposh

LOL..he wishes i would just stop talking about it. my house is full of wedding mags..tv is always on wedding shows and i am constantly emailing him venue stuff. he hates it. his mom is against a wedding as is my parents. they feel its a waste of money and i think he secretly hopes i would just drop it. we got our first venue quote yesterday and he looked like he was about to have a heart attack...

yeah me n fh had the thought today... why are we having a wedding when we could just use the money as a down payment on a condo

yah the money spent on a wedding is nuts...the truth is we have been together 9 years so i think people are like...whatever.....i would probably rather just have a nice long honeymoon and then buy a place but then will i regret it later????hmm i dunno i think i probably would.

We were just talking about that yesterday with my fam- that all the $$ we are spending we could have just had like a destination weddind with just the immediate fam, and put the money down towards a newer house....but I feel the same way - i don't want to regret not having a traditional one....

kimiequa Posted: Mar 24, 2008 10:33 AM

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he was more involved than i expected with choosing the RH.... i went alone to LI and he was back in SC. every night i sent him pics and we discussed what we liked/didn't like. my parents of course had their own opinion, and this conflicted with FH.

since then, he hasn't been involved at all, but i've only been doing CP's and whatnot. he's cute though... he asks me all the time about how its going, and he gives me his honest opinion whenever i ask.

coley1027 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 10:52 AM

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at the beginning he was SO involved. he had opinions on what he wanted and didnt like anything i wanted... which led to arguing.. and now every time i ask him something he says 'its more important to you.. in 20 years i wont care about the color ties the groomsmen wore, or the dresses the bridesmaid wore or what kind of flowers we had as centerpieces.. but you will'. so unless he ABSOLUTELY hates it, whatever i say go. plus hes probably going to get his dream honeymoon so its a happy ending for both of us!

redvelvet Posted: Mar 24, 2008 12:15 PM

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he helped with the RH, limo, HM, officiant and photographer...everything else is like' whatever u want babe'. he listens to me when i'm ranting and raving and about my ideas, though.

curlyq4458 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 01:38 PM

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My FH is involved, but only to an extent. First I went with my mom to look at RH, I filtered out a bunch and then he came back with me and we both agreed on what we liked. He let me pick the florist i wanted and photography. We saw the DJ together. He knows I have good taste and I consult everything with him before I book.

My mom is also very good. I'm the 3rd girl to get married and the same on FH side, so both of our parents know the drill.

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 01:47 PM

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FH is totally involved...I think we might even have a groomzilla on our hands...for instance...i told him I wanted yellow lillies...and was told 'No, those are ugly...yellow gerber daisies would be better' I was like ummmm...ok groomzilla whatever you want!

Summertimegal424 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 01:55 PM

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he has been very involved in the last few decisions...now its my turn to show w/ my momma and my moh

FutureMrsFass Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:05 PM

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My Fhubby is pretty involved...I def can't complain. He lets me do the research and make the appointments but he always comes with me and gives input and opinions...he gets excited at appointments when he sees the vision

Im a Pepper Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:10 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsMacci

Honestly FH is tired of talking wedding lol

But for his benefit, it is tax season, his worst time of year and I have not stopped talking wedding since we got engaged, and I have been driving him crazy because I want all of our vendors booked! So basically he has had no breathing room

I CANT HELP IT!

same here. FH is busting his a$$ during tax season and i have him driving back to NY every saturday after work for different appointments.

i'd say he's at a medium level of involvement, although i'm sure it's taking a toll on him, since he's so busy at work right now!! thank goodness tax season is over in a few weeks!!!!

JnA823 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 07:38 PM

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I wouldn't make a decision without talking to FH about it, but I do the research and make the phone calls and make the appointments. We don't get to see or talk to each other much during the week (eventhough we live together). And some weekends he wants to be involved with other things besides wedding planning.

Christine N Ralph Posted: Mar 24, 2008 10:41 PM

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At first fh was very involved...he went with me to see all of the rh's but now I want him to come and look at photographers and hes not really interested in any of that...So I think im doing that by myself...but he was really involved in the engagement party planning...