How involved were you with your...

bridal shower?

I don't really want to have anything to do with the planning of mine and my MOH and family know this. My MOH is planning my shower and she is working so hard to make it great - max capacity is 50 people but FMIL calls FH and me today to add more people. MOH says they're out of invites, over-budget and can't add anyone else. My FMIL and I discussed 'her' guests weeks before I gave the list to my MOH but she said she'd like it if some of her co-workers and good friends could come plus she's already invited them anyway! FH and I are trying to stay united and tell her, They can't come - we didn't even have them on our A-list of invites (which already went out at the end of June!) How rude to invite these people to the shower if we dont think we can invite them to the wedding! That bumps four people I'd like to have at my special day so that FMIL can have her co-workers (whom I haven't met yet!) get invites.
Sorry for the vent!!
I think FMIL needs to un-invite her friends, but she's not backing down. I don't even know these people!

Thanks, we tried to tell her that we couldn't accommodate everyone and she said it doesn't help the situation if we make her feel bad about it. She thinks we should have invited them all in the first place. I've told her that my mom is not making any of these requests, and I have dear college friends who can't be invited. She sent FFIL over to make peace....

This is one of those moments where you need to really put your foot down and say 'no' to your FMIL about her friends stating that your friends are more important in times like these for support, etc. Good luck!!