How many girls will be in your bridal party?

omg I feel ridiculous even saying how many people are in our wedding party. We started with 10 and it's more than doubled.

There are so many people in my wedding party I wonder if I'll have any regular guests haha

1 maid of honor (my sister)
5 bridesmaids (2 cousin, 3 friends)
1 Junior bridesmaid (my cousin)

1 best man (fiances friend)
6 groomsmen (Fiance's 3 brothers, My brother, 2 friends)


oh and I can't forget my
3 flowergirls
and
3 ring bearers.

Including Jason & I .. 22 people in the wedding party

Our part is

1 MOH my sister
3 BM my FSIL and 2 cousins
1 Flower girl ( maybe 2)

1 BM FH best friend
3 GM FH friends
1 RB my cute future nephew

so that is a total of 10

Originally I came up with 8
2 MOH
6 BM

My FH has 4
2 BM
2 GM

we haven't announced our picks yet. but i've been trying real hard to scale the number down, i have 3 (2 moh, 1 bm). i'm thinking i should match my FH's (4). but i'm so close to a lot of my friends that's why i would like to have 8 but OMG i can't afford them all.

what is typically what they pay for and what am i expected to pay for? when i ask them - should we bring up the topic about who's paying for what (and how should i bring it up?)

do you think it's unreasonable to have 8 girls???

I wouldn't bring up cost with the girls. At least 1 of them will know proper etiquette regarding who will pay for what.

I think the only thing you need to pay for them is the gifts. I could be wrong though but I know I spent like $100 per person on a gift and I have a huge bridal party. I am not paying for dress/hair/makeup/etc.


Plus it's customary for the girls to throw u a bachelorette party. Most people don't consider the shower part of what they have to pay for.

I forgot to mention I was in someones wedding party and I spent more than $2k between her engagement party, bachelorette party, shower, dress, hair/makeup and gift. (and I was splitting the cost between me and the 4 other bridesmaids!!) And all the cost came within a 4 month period and it was insane trying to come up with the cash while I was away at college.

I really don't expect my girls to have to pay that much, or throw me any party other than the bachelorette. It's too much pressure and financial burden to put on a person, it will make them less than thrilled to be in your bridal party.

I hope that was helpful.

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

I forgot to mention I was in someones wedding party and I spent more than $2k between her engagement party, bachelorette party, shower, dress, hair/makeup and gift. (and I was splitting the cost between me and the 4 other bridesmaids!!) And all the cost came within a 4 month period and it was insane trying to come up with the cash while I was away at college.

I really don't expect my girls to have to pay that much, or throw me any party other than the bachelorette. It's too much pressure and financial burden to put on a person, it will make them less than thrilled to be in your bridal party.

I hope that was helpful.

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I like your thinking - I may just have to hopefully go with that. Do you think 8 in my bridal party would be too much or should I limit it to a manageable size of 4?

lol you're asking the wrong person. I have 11 girls.. (3 flower girls included) so 7 bridesmaids, 1 Junior.

I originally wanted to keep it small but now that I have an insanely large bridal party I wouldn't change it for the world. Everyone in it is so excited and I'm excited to have them! I love it.

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

lol you're asking the wrong person. I have 11 girls.. (3 flower girls included) so 7 bridesmaids, 1 Junior.

I originally wanted to keep it small but now that I have an insanely large bridal party I wouldn't change it for the world. Everyone in it is so excited and I'm excited to have them! I love it.

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Oh WOW - are you paying for all of them or are you just like what you said previously buying them a gift? I would love 8 in my bridal party but then again I don't have that kind of cash. are you encountering any issues with them - with picking out dresses?

I'm just buying them gifts.

I bought them all gold necklaces at $100 a piece.

I haven't started looking for dresses yet - I'm going to make sure to keep that cost low too though - I saw some really nice dresses for under $150. I was in a bridal party a few years ago (different one than I previously mentioned) and the dresses were like $250 and it was just too much for a dress I wore for 5 hours. Plus add on the alterations and shoes and it was over $300. (That's not even including hair and makeup!)

I really like floor length dresses and most styles I like are strapless... but I think no matter what dress I pick I'm going to make sure it has the option for spaghetti straps in case anyone is uncomfortable with strapless.

Above everything I don't want people to think of being in my wedding party as a burden so I want to work with them in any way I can to make it as pleasant as possible. I've seen too many people as bridesmaids end up being mad at the bride at the end of the wedding (myself included).

I am having a Matrong of Honor, a Maid of Honor, and my other bridesmaids consist of my 2 cousins and my FSIL. So 5 girls plus 1 flower girl.

I thought about doing just the MOH but decided not to in the end.