How much do you give?

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Posted by BklynItaliana

With knowing the prices that are out there i give 300 to any wedding, if i know i am not going to have that kind of money i kindly decline.. i don't want to go to a party and not be able to cover my plate.

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I don't agree with this at all. I didn't invite people to my wedding and expect them to cover their plate. I wanted my guests there because they are my friends and my family and I wanted them to share our day because they are important to me. I would be extremely upset knowing that someone declined because they didn't think they could afford it. Call me crazy, but I think that's the wrong attitude to have. You don't get married and have a reception with friends and family expecting to get reimbursed for your costs. I would never decline a wedding because I didn't feel like I could cover the plate cost. I give what I could afford, regardless of the location, and hope that the couple invited me because they want me to share in their day. If the couple chooses to have an extravagant wedding with very expensive per person costs, how is that my problem to cover what kind of wedding they chose to have? If a lot of people declined for this reason, the couple might not even make their minimum and will wind up paying for people who aren't there! Anyway that's how I feel. I just think it's sad that people decline invitations because they think they can't cover their plate. That shouldn't be.

For friends, usually $200 - $250.

For family, usually $300

I don't take into consideration the location of the wedding. That was the couple's decision as to where and when they chose to get married. I base my gift more on the relationship with the couple.