so if my mom had help from my bridal party do you think asking for $100 each is to much. I have no idea I really dont want my girls to go broke just to be in my wedding. I had a hard time asking them to buy the dress I just feel bad.
So if they pay $100 for the shower and the dress is $165 then they have hair and makeup Im paying for the nails
am I asking for to much from them
Future Mulligan
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i dont think so.....but i wouldnt want them to pay for the shower at all - they already have to buy a dress and shoes, hair and make up, nails, engagement party gift, wedding gift, shower gift, bachelorette party, hotel room the night before and night of the wedding, etc. and those things tend to add up rather quickly....i feel bad asking people to spend all that money b/c of me that i wouldnt want to ask them to shell out even more....but that is just me......im actually trying to see if i can afford to pay for my girls hair or make up the day of.....and get them gifts on top of that.....i want them up there when i get married, to stand by my side - being a bridesmaid is more of a sentimental thing to me - if i was rich i wouldnt have let them spend anything!
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I dont want them to pay at all either but it would be helping my mom and dad out which would be nice.
no engagement party for us and no hotel room the night before and no big bach party for me
Future Mulligan
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Posted by Bellez95
I dont want them to pay at all either but it would be helping my mom and dad out which would be nice.
no engagement party for us and no hotel room the night before and no big bach party for me
i dont think its a big deal - i think techincally they are supposed to help with the shower.....
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Personally* I would see this as a bit too much b/c remember they do contribute for your bachelorette party, buy you a gift at your shower. and buy their dress on top of shoes., hair/makeup and give you an envelope at the reception.
I mean $100 is not much to ask for and i would go ahead and contribute but I would kinda say WOW thats asking much.
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Posted by Bellez95
I dont want them to pay at all either but it would be helping my mom and dad out which would be nice.
no engagement party for us and no hotel room the night before and no big bach party for me
I don't think that is too much. Especially if you mom gives them so notice but I always think when I am in a bridal party that I will be expected to contribute to the shower and then if I don't its a bonus. You said no bach party? Well then they are saving on that.
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not at all....i am going thru all this for my MOH wedding in 11days!
we each gave her sister ( her MOH) $50 for the shower ( but there are 10 BMS) after alterations the dress came to like $200, the bachelorette party is gonna be $135 each, then a gift plus the shower gifts we gave.........
for mine its pretty much the same
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i always thought the BP was suppose to help with the shower
Mici n KC
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It's very understandable and I am going to try my best to keep their costs at a minimum. But don't forget, they do know there are expenses being in a wedding. Keep in mind they don't have to get their makeup done. When I was in a wedding I paid to get my hair done, but did my own makeup. To be honest I couldn't afford to pay for the makeup and I rather had given the money I gave to the bride and groom and all the other stuff I did for her.
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i wouldnt ask them 2 pay for the shower, if they offer than you can put an amount on it.
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I think it depends on ur girls financial situation. My FSIL had to pay for part of the bridal shower and She was not too happy about it. bc she really didn't have the extra money to give. I personally think 100 dollars is not too bad.
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Are they married? I was in three of my BM's weddings already and none of them asked me to contribute for the shower. I paid for dress, shoes, hair and makeup, shower gift, bachelorette party , and wedding gift. So i am going to do the same with them.
