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How much to give?

Lolablue34 Posted:

How much to give?

Thanks for the input ladies!

Lsorrent Posted:

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When I was a BM in my bff's wedding, I gave her $500 from FH and I. I probably wouldn't give less than that as an MOH. But you do what you can, I'm sure she knows you've been shelling out a lot of money.

PS - I don't think your gift should be dependent on what type of wedding they're having. It should be dependent on your relationship.
SoonToBeMrsCampos Posted:

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Wow! That's a LOT of money you've spent! I would feel compelled to give at least $300 for me + FH. But that's just me.

futurestevens Posted:

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Posted by Lsorrent
I don't think your gift should be dependent on what type of wedding they're having. It should be dependent on your relationship.


I agree. And you do what you can- she knows you're saving for your wedding too.
NY031978 Posted:

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when I go to a wedding I give btw 200-300 and thats as a guest...
for my BF wedding and I was her MOH as well...I gave 500
FutureJOC Posted:

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when I was the MOH in my friend's wedding we gave $500. It really does depend on how close you are to the person though.

Also something to consider, which is what my brother did with his wedding and his friends wedding, is to just not give gifts. There weddings were so close to one another and they were both in each other's weddings that it just didn't make sense to give a gift that will be given right back.
wo0shply Posted:

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my moh gave me 350 and she paid for so much. I guess if anything try to cover your plate

Jna2010 Posted:

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I would say at least 500

Mommy2BeBride Posted:

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I was a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and my FH was a groomsman and we gave them $500.

Moonmist09 Posted:

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i was my sister's MOH and i gave her $1K as my gift (but i spend a carp load between the dress, shoes and i paid for her bridal shower and gifts)

FutureMrsPanuch Posted:

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When FH and i went to a wedding over the summer... he was a GM in the wedding i believe he gave 400.00 as a gift... it might have been 500 though im not sure...

IrinaBNY Posted:

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I gave my best friend $700 last year.

Michi Posted:

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i AM NOT TRYING TO BE RUDE BUT THE PRICES PPLE GIVE ARE SERIOUSLY SHOCKING ME. 400-500 dollars as a gift when u already paid hundreds to be part of the day? I would say maybe give $250. That is more then enough imo.

GiannisWifey Posted:

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I am in my best friends wedding in June and in addition to the money I have already spent on BM dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, shower gifts, Bachelorette party, FH and I will be giving her a check for $500.

FutureMrsLots Posted:

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I was the MOH at my best friends wedding, I probably spent the same amout as you did between the dress shoes, etc...I gave her $500.

leeza81 Posted:

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WOW. I feel horrible. my BFF got married 2 years ago and I gave her $300. I was not in the position at the time to give anymore. I was single and living on my own. Do what you can. If it were now, I would have given $500 since my finances are better.

christine2010 Posted:

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsSemetis

i AM NOT TRYING TO BE RUDE BUT THE PRICES PPLE GIVE ARE SERIOUSLY SHOCKING ME. 400-500 dollars as a gift when u already paid hundreds to be part of the day? I would say maybe give $250. That is more then enough imo.


ITA.

When I was in my friends wedding 2 years ago, between engagement gift, shower gift, b-party, clothes for those occassions, day of dress & shoes as well as hair & make-up, I had already spent close to $2K & I was still in college & working part time. FH & I gave $250 & after the wedding my friend gave me the check back. She did that to all of her bridesmaids. I even told my bridesmaids that they should not feel obligated to give us a gift at the wedding. They are already spending so much money.
elp6421 Posted:

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Wow! I have to say I'm orginally from Ohio and things are waaay different there when it comes to gifting.

I would say give what you can comfortable afford. This is your friend and she knows what you have spent so far for her wedding.
JLWSJC Posted:

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsSemetis

i AM NOT TRYING TO BE RUDE BUT THE PRICES PPLE GIVE ARE SERIOUSLY SHOCKING ME. 400-500 dollars as a gift when u already paid hundreds to be part of the day? I would say maybe give $250. That is more then enough imo.


ITA. This gift giving crap in NY is something that really bothers me. People's expectations and their reasoning behind them I often find ridiculous. And I did grow up here.
I would never expect my BM's or MOH especially, after all their help and money spent to give me an extravagant gift. Espcially if they are getting married/still in college/working part time etc.... I'm not cheap, but I can't squeeze blood from a stone and I don't expect anyone else to try either.

GAAAAAH, lol, I was gonna keep my mouth shut and I couldn't resist...
JBC12510 Posted:

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I was in a friends wedding about two years ago and I gave $300.... All together I probably spent $1500 to be in her wedding. I thought $300 was enough but now reading these posts I feel like I should have given more!

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