FH and I are invited to a wedding soon and do not know how much to give as a gift. It is one of FH old friends from high school that is getting married. He talkes to this person 2 or 3 times a year and has seen them once in the last 8 years.
FH and I will only be going to the ceremony, we cannot make it to the reception (which they are paying $55 a head).
Anyone know how much we should give as a gift?
Thanks ladies!!
Stacey04
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I would say $100, more if you want to be generous. You could also just buy a gift.
Bebalina
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Posted by Stacey04
I would say $100, more if you want to be generous. You could also just buy a gift.
i would do the same... are you inviting them to your wedding?
kiwijonze
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I'm going to throw a number out and say $100...too cheap??...too much?? I don't know what's the norm to give when you don't attend the reception. But if you all live in New York, then I guess you'd give a little more than, say, an out of state guest who can't attend?
Summer05
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Thank you all! We were not going to invite them to our wedding, but since we were invited, now I think we are obligated to invite them.
PrincessRose
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I'd send something off the registry.
patti08
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I'd send something off the registry.
Same here
BCTM33
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I would go with a registry gift...
chichila15
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Posted by Summer05
Thank you all! We were not going to invite them to our wedding, but since we were invited, now I think we are obligated to invite them.
You're not obligated to invite them to your wedding. Just because they had space to invite you, doesn't mean that you will.
I'd also give either $100, or send a gift off the registry.
CaCRmr
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If you're not going to the reception I would get a registry gift if I were you. GL
smitten
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I just re-read your post...if your not going to the reception $100 is more than generous, or a gift off their registry.
sammi102
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A registry gift is a great idea, otherwise I would say $100
smkkjm
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I would give 100 or get something off there registry
oakslady
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i agree - registry gift if you arent attending the reception
soxfan
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Registry gift is more than appropriate. I would not feel obligated to invite them to your wedding.
charlotte227
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nothing less than $100 pp so send $200 and your ok
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nothing less than $100 pp so send $200 and your ok
huh???? $200 per person????????for $55 plate per person they arent eating???? thats nuts!! lol Definitly a gift off the registry.. or at most $100
Ang&Rich
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Since this is a friend (not family) I would agree with the $100 cash or a gift from the registry at an equal value to that amount.
lullabella
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Personally I don't think it matters how much the person is paying per plate. Even if someone was having a BBQ wedding in their backyard. Who cares how much they spent? I would give what you would normally give. I think $100 is being cheap and I defiantely wouldn't give something off their registry. It isn't a shower. JMHO
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If you don't go to the weddign, you arne't obligated to invite them to yours. But you are attending the cermeony, so I'm not sure where that leaves you. I gave a co-worker $100 from both of us when I didn't attend her weding, but I see her everyday. Iwould have gone if it wasn't in Florida. I went to her shower. We are not that close outside out of work, but she is invited to my wedding.
So, I thought $100 was appropriate. And I couldn't affor more at the time. If it was someone I wasn't close to & I got the invite, and I was like' I'm invited to their wedding????' I would just buy something off the registry, around the $50 dollar mark, probably.
