How other peoples wedding dates affect yours!?!??!

I found out last night that one of the groomsmen has decided to move his wedding date from a month before ours to 2 weeks before ours!!!!

Now normally I wouldn't care as much if it was in the state but the wedding is out of state and FH is a groomsman and 2 of our groomsman are also in this wedding that is out of state.

Am I wrong to think this is ridiculous??? Out of all the Sunday's (she is Jewish so I guess the rule is she can't get married on a Saturday - I hope that's right, if not im sorry) they had to pick one 2 weeks before our wedding? The wedding that has been booked since October of 2009!?!?!

I'm a bit disgusted right now b/c this is supposed to be a 'friend'?? It's a bigger issue then just the date, it's the travel involved for everyone, the money that most people dont have to be flying all over the place, hotel rooms, gifts...

I had a friend who got enagaged 2 weeks after me and she set her wedding date 4 months after mine which I find to be totally appropriate!!!! I think that a 2 week difference (especially before) is a big of a slap in the face.

Thoughts?

How far are we talking here?

I'm honestly thinking about it and maybe they didn't even think about your wedding or even if it would effect your wedding. Sometime people are so wrapped up in themseleves that they don't realize the damage they do to our after the matter.

I would totally be pissed and annoyed like you are but from a personal experience (can't write here, lurkers) I don't think it was on purpose

sorry you have to deal with this

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Posted by Kuklitsa143

How far are we talking here?

I'm honestly thinking about it and maybe they didn't even think about your wedding or even if it would effect your wedding. Sometime people are so wrapped up in themseleves that they don't realize the damage they do to our after the matter.

I would totally be pissed and annoyed like you are but from a personal experience (can't write here, lurkers) I don't think it was on purpose

sorry you have to deal with this

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Miami - so yea, we aren't talking time zones here. But that's kind of the problem - is that they didnt think and that's what annoys me. For someone who is supposed to be a friend, and someone who was just at our engagement party i find it to be unacceptable. I feel bad for FH b/c this puts him in a really bad spot - along with 4 out of the 5 groomsmen. ug

i don't think the world revolves around us as brides. our wedding day is important to us, not everyone else and it doesn't affect their lives the way it will ours.

that said, if a friend of mine just got engaged, i would not expect her to book her wedding way before or after mine so it wouldn't mess up the flow for mine.

I WOULD however, expect someone in my BP to have common sense and say, hmm... maybe 2 weeks before someone else's wedding (where a bunch of the same people are in the BP) isn't a good idea! Why did he move it up anyway?

This really is stupid b/c people have to shell out money for a ton of things in a very short period of time.

Mmmm...a friend of one of my bridemaids got engaged after me and just set the date as the weekend before mine. Not sure yet if my other two bridemaids will be invited to it since they are not as close with the girl as the other bridemaid. Was kinda bummed to hear that the date is so close since I really wanted them to be pumped for my wedding. I hope they are not too partied out.

same thing happened to me. one of my close friends just recently got engaged.. and there were rumors that she was planning to have her wedding the weekend before me.. and she hadn't decided whether it was going to be a destination wedding or local...

even at the sound of that, i was really annoyed... i've been putting a lot of effort into planning this wedding.. and it felt like she was stealing my thunder -sort of speak..

so i think you have every right to be annoyed, but just like how some other brides mentioned... when you're a bride... the world is revolving around you, but others involved don't see it that way... so that's probably what happened. i highly doubt it was intentional...

I hate this! That's ridiculously close. One of FH's GM got engaged a few weeks after we did. We had talked to him and his fiancee about when we wanted our wedding and told them we were looking at May 1st, 2010 as it would be our 5 year anniversary. Well, the next week they went out and booked their wedding for April 24th, 2010. Sh!tty much?! You bet! Fortunately, we hadn't booked anything so we tried to push the date until June, but June didn't work for our OOT guests so we pushed it back again to May 14th.

Thanks ladies - I just know I wouldnt have done that to one of my BM's. I would have really thought it out.

FH and this particular guy have been friends for a long time - he even made the trip from FL to come to the e-party which was really great.

Honestly if it was 2 weeks after ours that would be great - but 2 weeks before really is just a slap in the face from a 'friend' but what breaks my heart the most is FH is going to have to make a really hard decision and have a conversation w/ a friend and he hates that kinda stuff. I dont want FH to have this kind of conflict when trying to plan his own day!

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Posted by WeezyGirl2354

I found out last night that one of the groomsmen has decided to move his wedding date from a month before ours to 2 weeks before ours!!!!

Now normally I wouldn't care as much if it was in the state but the wedding is out of state and FH is a groomsman and 2 of our groomsman are also in this wedding that is out of state.

Am I wrong to think this is ridiculous??? Out of all the Sunday's (she is Jewish so I guess the rule is she can't get married on a Saturday - I hope that's right, if not im sorry) they had to pick one 2 weeks before our wedding? The wedding that has been booked since October of 2009!?!?!

I'm a bit disgusted right now b/c this is supposed to be a 'friend'?? It's a bigger issue then just the date, it's the travel involved for everyone, the money that most people dont have to be flying all over the place, hotel rooms, gifts...

I had a friend who got enagaged 2 weeks after me and she set her wedding date 4 months after mine which I find to be totally appropriate!!!! I think that a 2 week difference (especially before) is a big of a slap in the face.

Thoughts?

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Ok don't worry about it. You have every right to be upset. However, you can do it and it will be fun! Weddings are fun! You already knew it was going to be a month before, so you were already planning on spending the money right before your wedding. Now its just a little bit closer. You will have all of your planning done and you might need that wedding to relax yourself. You are going to start feeling nervous and anxious at that time and this wedding might take your mind off of it. It could be a good thing. I think it *****, but it is going to be totally fine. Its not worth the stress. You have a wedding to plan! Don't let the small stuff stress you out.

Plus, it could be worse....they could be getting married the week before you.

you have everyyyyy right to be upset!

I totally totally understand!

Obviously this person must be close to you so yes it is a sh*tty move for them to make...

its not just about stealing your thunder but it is also a financial burden and a time consuming ball of stress!


one of FHs friend insisted on having his wedding at atlantis in april...which was the month we were planning for a long time and they knew very well about this...soooo we pushed our wedding to June to accomodate that...and PS they NEVER booked their wedding!

so we push to June and my BFF/BM gets engaged last week...and tells me 'dont pick june 25' bc im using that date... knowing very well that i was picking june!!!
it puts you in an awkward position and as much as you dont want to care, you can't help it, it's annoying and frustrating!


and for me the most annoying part of having a wedding so close to a friends is the HM issue...will they be back in time for your wedding???

cause i know I may not be back in time to make it to my BFFs wedding if she does pick June 25

Join the club sweetie. My cousin who got engaged in sept almost a year after dave and I were engaged where our wedding was almost done with the planning who told me that they would wait a few month after us to get married who is in my wedding as a bm booked her wedding for this august. It ticked me off but then realized ha now I can see what ur wedding is like and then turn my wedding up a notch :o)

And then with everything going on with my grandpa it ticks me off I've waited so long to get married.

It will all work out xoxoxoxoxo