Why do the brides to be always have people so happy for them and congratulating them..while the grooms to be have to put up with such grief!!!
My FH constantly has co workers and other guys telling him that hes making a big mistake..they say congratulations and then still tease him about getting married...theyre all miserable in their own marriages that they cant truly be happy for him... Annnnd the friends complain about the fact that they barely see him now, and that theyll never see him once hes married....news flash..GROW UP. this is what happens, its the nature of things..u move on!
sorry, i had to vent...anyone else getting this?
PrincessBride09
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We both get this a bit. People say we are too young. Older guys tell him to wait. These are people that barely know us too! I have people tell me this too, especially men, and especially at work. They need to mind their own business! People who are unhappy in their marriages are sad and bitter! Sorry we're happy! lol
KristiAnn923
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People can be really annoying! That stinks. As long as you FH doesn't listen to them and sticks up for the decision he has made then it's fine.
My brother and brother-in-law tease my FH all the time about getting married but they are just joking and we all laugh about it, but I would definately be offended if a stranger or someone other than my family was saying these things.
yngcpl92203
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the other guys at FH job joke with him too. when they found out he got engaged they put signs around that said. 'one foot in the bucket'
tye85
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yea guys do that all the time, most of them are joking i realized. i would b offended however if they were serious, that sux!
cammolax23
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my FH is FDNY so one of the guys just got engaged and they all showed up at work with those tshirts with the bride and groom that says 'Game Over'
( have to admit it was kind of funny--)
little34
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Just keep telling FH to tell these miserable people that he is happy. FH gets this all this time and he just shuts them up by telling them he asked me to marry him....he wanted it and he is happy. LOSERS!
longislandlibrarian
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I hear guys say that all the time to other guys!!!!!!!!!!!Even my FFIL says to my FH... 'Enjoy your last 14 mos of freedom' It used to bother me.. now I just let it roll off my shoulder... FH and I are inlove and the 2 of us know that a life together is sooooo much better than anything else.... so that's all I need to know
Jflod710
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We had a bunch of friends around us when my fh propose to me and one of his friends sat there and said dont do it. Guys dont like change and they dont know how to accepting of good news!
crazeee18
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their just jelous and they r trying to bring him down because hes happy and they r miserable....
beram63
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FH's cousin (who is now going through a divorce, btw) would chew his ear off about how all women change after the wedding and it's just a matter of time before i become a cranky, controlling nag. at first i was a little insulted that FH didn't defend me and instead just listened to him rant. now i realize that it's just a simple case of misery loving company. whatever--it can only affect you as much as you let it.
Ann 52409
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We get this all the time, out of all of FH friends only one of them are married and they do try to tease him. Just because they are scared to grow up doesn't mean that FH is
PoppedInASnap
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I agree, Princessbride...
We get a little of both. Because I do not have a official 'ring' yet I get alot of the 'Oh he knows what hes doing, pulling the wedding without the promise act'
Or I hear him say when he talks to other guys about the wedding he hears 'Your whipped man'
and 'You shouldnt do it. Once u have the ring on its like a chastity belt'
makes me mad
Dreemer107
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thanks for any advice...i know i shouldnt let it bother me, i just wish these people he sees day after day would be a lil more supportive...even his 'mom' at work was saying negative things...
but whatever..he loves me and cant wait to marry me... it'll be the greatest day of our lives
ANT-N-BON-09
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it seems guys always tease other guys. My good friend had the guy who was totally against marriage, and to our surprise, got married before us! I knew he would too, he couldnt hide it behind all those comments. we have been dating almost 6 yrs, and them almost 4! He just had this hang up, but knew he loved her and wanted a family. He was the biggest ball buster to everyone! They hate to admit they love what they have, its not manly!
