You may be asking for trouble if you ask her to be in the BP. But if you are going to, I would casually mention it and see what she says-it all depends on the response.
I would not invite her to be in the BP. Moreso, I would go out to dinner with her and tell her that you are not having her in the bridal party for these reasons. Try and talk through them, if you have some life altering break through or she breaks down and says she is jelous then re-evaluate but it is important to get it all out in the open.
Posted by Val
Sorry to hear this. I would throw the ball in her court. 'If you would like to be in my bridal party and participate in the wedding, you are welcome.' You are not actually asking her which make the approach easier. You are giving her an open invitation. There is no accepting or denying. I hope this works for you. Let us know what happens![]()
THis is EXACTLY the situation I'm facing. I'm asking her because she is my sister and I feel it is the right thing to do. I have a feeling she'll be in it, but it probably will be drama filled. I'll keep you all bposted on what she says. I think I'm going to ask her tonight.
Before I even mentioned the idea of her being in my bridal party, I would have a long talk with her about why she feels the way she does about you and FH. Depending on how well that goes, then I would ask her to be in my bridal party, but if things don't improve between the two of you, I personally wouldn't ask her to be in it at all.
Posted by Shmar
So I asked my sister last night.
I was pacing for about 10 minutes before I did it. Well in any case, her response was'I don't know'. I'm sort of hoping she says no because it will be much less stressful, but she will still want to bring her BF.
I told my mom her BF was not allowed to come unless she was in the party. No one has met this guy yet, and apparently he doesn't have a bright future. Uneducated and works in a factory I'm told.
I'll keep you posted on what happens.
