how tacky is it ...

jersee3380 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:08 PM

how tacky is it ...

to ask for the people in the bridal party to give their (hopefully $$ gifts) at the rehearsal dinner?

my FH and I are coming up short and would appreciate the gifts early to pay for things that day.

has anyone done this? is there a polite way to ask?

piat79 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:09 PM

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super tacky.

Donna&Joe708 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:10 PM

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I don't think this is an option. Sorry!

hbradio Posted: May 16, 2005 03:11 PM

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I wouldnt ask them that!

jersee3380 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:11 PM

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i know! its sooo not me to do it either .. even if someone said it's ok i dont think i could bring myself to do it.

was just wondering b/c i've seen posts on here about being short of $$ and people have responded w/ saying to ask for gifts at the rehearsal instead ...

takeoutcook Posted: May 16, 2005 03:16 PM

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Can you borrow some money from your parents?

unicorn1178 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:18 PM

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I wouldnt ask the bridal party unless they were my family which they are. My sis is my MOH, his sister is a BM, his brother is a groosman and my brother in law is a groosman. My other BM is my cousin, his best man is his best friend. I may ask some to give cash, like my sister because I did that for her, and she would give it to me the day before if I asked. It's up to you and your relationship with your bridal party. I wouldn't throw out a general request, but I would say to the ones you are closest to that you are going to be short and were hoping to get some gifts early and see how they respond.

jersee3380 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:20 PM

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my bridal party and i are super close, all of us, like sisters. but ya know, i don't think i could do it!! was just trying to get some opinions!!

thanks ladies!!!

KimberlyBride Posted: May 16, 2005 03:29 PM

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I agree that is a last resort.

MrsA814 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:33 PM

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me to that is my last resort to

simbacat Posted: May 16, 2005 03:35 PM

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I'm sorry, but I don't think you should do this. We are in the same situation and although we thought to ask, we just cannot do it. Instead, we're either going to take out a loan or borrow the money from his mom. Then we'll pay back whatever we owe. It's just too tacky. JMHO

jersee3380 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:36 PM

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Posted by simbacat

I'm sorry, but I don't think you should do this. We are in the same situation and although we thought to ask, we just cannot do it. Instead, we're either going to take out a loan or borrow the money from his mom. Then we'll pay back whatever we owe. It's just too tacky. JMHO

yea, its looking like credit card time for us!

12-3Princess Posted: May 16, 2005 03:37 PM

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I would not do that, ever. JMO.

SUNSHINE24 Posted: May 16, 2005 03:38 PM

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Dont do it!
The people in your wedding party have spent enough money just being a part of the wedding, i wouldnt expect much from any of them.
Ask a relative to borry money.

simbacat Posted: May 16, 2005 03:43 PM

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Posted by jersee3380

Posted by simbacat

I'm sorry, but I don't think you should do this. We are in the same situation and although we thought to ask, we just cannot do it. Instead, we're either going to take out a loan or borrow the money from his mom. Then we'll pay back whatever we owe. It's just too tacky. JMHO

yea, its looking like credit card time for us!

Don't feel bad. The majority of our wedding is on our credit card

hocus Posted: May 16, 2005 04:02 PM

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Maybe you can cut back on something if you are coming up short?

Remove some food during the cocktail hour? Or cut the dessert hour.?

In the long run it will be better.