How to deal with a mean fsil

blondybride Posted: Mar 01, 2011 10:39 AM

How to deal with a mean fsil

My future sister in law is so so mean. She is very fake and is an attention seeker. She has a crappy life (guy wise) and she is my age. When we got engaged she ha a baby with anrandom person just to get attention put on herself. I am always so nice to her bc I have to be the nice guy all the time. I'm worried he will RUIN my wedding. How do I deal??? Btw she has already announced she is getting plastic surgery done just for the wedding. Last time I checked my day wasn't a runway show for her!!!

LBUDA Posted: Mar 01, 2011 10:42 AM

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Unfortunately there isn't much you can so, especially since she is part of the family. Try your best to ignore her attention seeking ways.

futuremrso Posted: Mar 01, 2011 10:45 AM

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Oh boy, she sounds awful. I would just kill her with kindness, and if that doesnt work, maybe tell your fh to talk to her (without her knowing its coming from you of course). If shes getting plastic surgery for your wedding, imagine what a bridezilla she will be for hers!!

blondybride Posted: Mar 01, 2011 10:50 AM

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I try to kill her with kindness and there is only so much u can take. What annoys me is that FHs parents feel bad for her so anything she does and wants she gets, and not only do they back her everytime but they foot the bill as well. I just know when it comes time for me to pick bm dresses and stuff it's going to be a nightmare bc she is going to take over the whole thing and steal the show, and his mom will have her side, regardless of the fact that it's my decision. For example when my dress came in I was in it in front of the mirror with everyone behind me and she was standing in front of me!!! Blocking my view with her body yelling to everyone how much weight she has lost and how good she looks... *** my mom was ready to take her down lol

anjelagain Posted: Mar 01, 2011 10:56 AM

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Posted by blondybride

I try to kill her with kindness and there is only so much u can take. What annoys me is that FHs parents feel bad for her so anything she does and wants she gets, and not only do they back her everytime but they foot the bill as well. I just know when it comes time for me to pick bm dresses and stuff it's going to be a nightmare bc she is going to take over the whole thing and steal the show, and his mom will have her side, regardless of the fact that it's my decision. For example when my dress came in I was in it in front of the mirror with everyone behind me and she was standing in front of me!!! Blocking my view with her body yelling to everyone how much weight she has lost and how good she looks... *** my mom was ready to take her down lol

My FSIL is also s a t a n Theres only so much you can kill w/ kindness. Trust me ignore her, she will look like a FOOL trying to look so good at your wedding TRUST ME i have seen girls do this at other weddings, its soo sad and pathetic.

AwaitingAugust Posted: Mar 01, 2011 11:14 AM

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can you have your FH talk to his parents .... or kick her out of the wedding party?

i agree with the others that you should try to ignore her as much as possible and not include her in anything.

justnicethings Posted: Mar 01, 2011 11:25 AM

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don't include her in anything anymore.
i am in a comparable situation and i leave FH's entire family OUT of all planning. for BM dresses, i picked them with my closest girls, and sent out an e-mail with the dress and where to go. no questions asked. these people need to be bossed around.

blondybride Posted: Mar 01, 2011 11:30 AM

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those are good ideas, but not for me. this is why... fh has 2 sisters this one and a younger one who is special needs and i adore soo much. then my other bm is my bff and then moh is my little sister. in total I have 4 bms. If my bp was bigger it would be easier just to pick out the dress and email everyone saying to get it. I really want 3 of my bms there when we pick the dresses but i cant just exclude the evil fsil bc it would make me look so evil. the problem with not including just her is that it perpetuates the drama. If i purposely dont include her guess who looks like the bad guy... ME lol it sucks because I cant delete her from the bp because his parents would talk so much c r a p about me saying i did it bc im mean. they never see that she is the problem. plus i am afraid that if i did not include her in things she would make it her personal mission to absolutely ruin my day!!

ChristineNorah Posted: Mar 01, 2011 11:42 AM

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It's sad how some people are emotionally incapable of being happy for others. I sympathies with you, I too have a horror of a family member in our party. The best thing you can do is to continue to kill her with kindness. It will become very obvious to everyone around you who is wrong in this situation. You do the right thing, allow her to make a fool out of herself, it sounds like she is already doing an excellent job of that.

kdm822 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 11:45 AM

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sounds like my sister!!!! lol.. my sisters have plently of work experience at doing hair & makeup for weddings and are pissed at me for not wanting it done by their friends and alwaysss have an opionion on w.e i say or do. I stopped telling them what is going on. I should be a bridezillaaaa and make them get their hair and makeup done by w.e i choose and make them get a dress I pick and a hairstyle i like.

blondybride Posted: Mar 01, 2011 11:51 AM

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Posted by kdm822

sounds like my sister!!!! lol.. my sisters have plently of work experience at doing hair & makeup for weddings and are pissed at me for not wanting it done by their friends and alwaysss have an opionion on w.e i say or do. I stopped telling them what is going on. I should be a bridezillaaaa and make them get their hair and makeup done by w.e i choose and make them get a dress I pick and a hairstyle i like.

omg this evil fsil of mine is a hairdresser and asked me if i wanted her hairdresser friends to come and do the hair for everyone at 90$ a girl and i said no because i didnt want my day turning into a free for all hang out for her and her loser buddies. NEEDLESS TO SAY FHS MOM AGREED AND NOW SHE IS PLANNING ON HAVING HER FRIENDS COME ANYWAY AND DO HER HAIR MY OTHER FSIL AND FHS MOMS HAIR IN THEIR HOTEL ROOM!!!!
I already dealt with that issue. my fh was like whatever let them do what they want, now u can relax with ur BFF and moh and get ur hair and makeup done by a professional and fh said he would pay for my bff to get hair and makeup done :) this way fsil will be so jealous and feel like a moron for being alone with her dumb hairdresser friends.

AwaitingAugust Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:17 PM

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Posted by blondybride

omg this evil fsil of mine is a hairdresser and asked me if i wanted her hairdresser friends to come and do the hair for everyone at 90$ a girl and i said no because i didnt want my day turning into a free for all hang out for her and her loser buddies. NEEDLESS TO SAY FHS MOM AGREED AND NOW SHE IS PLANNING ON HAVING HER FRIENDS COME ANYWAY AND DO HER HAIR MY OTHER FSIL AND FHS MOMS HAIR IN THEIR HOTEL ROOM!!!!
I already dealt with that issue. my fh was like whatever let them do what they want, now u can relax with ur sister and moh and get ur hair and makeup done by a professional and fh said he would pay for my bff to get hair and makeup done :) this way fsil will be so jealous and feel like a moron for being alone with her dumb hairdresser friends.

i agree with your mom - you should be with just your family the morning of your wedding ... especially if most of his family is annoying

kdm822 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:19 PM

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hahaha good!!! atleast she wont be around to have her bug you with stupid comments....

Its your day either way so she wont be able to take the shine away from you and if she does just put her in her place.. isnt that what sisters are for??
me and my sisters have a fight everyday - so let the family bonding begin

blondybride Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:27 PM

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i know but what kind of nerve she has!!! inviting her own freaking beauty makeover team on my wedding day!!!!!!

kdm822 Posted: Mar 01, 2011 12:31 PM

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annoying!!

anjelagain Posted: Mar 01, 2011 01:02 PM

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im sorry but, arent YOU supposed to choose ur hairdressers??

blondybride Posted: Mar 01, 2011 01:05 PM

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Yes lol but they decided that since FHs parents have a hotel room too they would just do their own thing I guess, whatever lol

StephanieJoy Posted: Mar 01, 2011 01:12 PM

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i would not include her just tell her what when were stuff

i have my fsil in my wedding she dose not seem to be like this hope it dont happen

HSsweethearts Posted: Mar 01, 2011 01:17 PM

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I'm so sorry. My FSIL is the same way. A total attention seeker. let's just say my niece was born 9 months to the day after we got engaged 7.5 years ago..and now that we replanned our wedding, she's 8 mos preggo again and I'm pretty sure her shower is the same day as mine!

And she's a total B. I can't even get into it. The best thing I can say i have FH draw the line