My future sister in law is so so mean. She is very fake and is an attention seeker. She has a crappy life (guy wise) and she is my age. When we got engaged she ha a baby with anrandom person just to get attention put on herself. I am always so nice to her bc I have to be the nice guy all the time. I'm worried he will RUIN my wedding. How do I deal??? Btw she has already announced she is getting plastic surgery done just for the wedding. Last time I checked my day wasn't a runway show for her!!!
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I'm so sorry. My FSIL is the same way. A total attention seeker. let's just say my niece was born 9 months to the day after we got engaged 7.5 years ago..and now that we replanned our wedding, she's 8 mos preggo again and I'm pretty sure her shower is the same day as mine!
And she's a total B. I can't even get into it. The best thing I can say i have FH draw the line
omgggggg
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I'm so sorry. My FSIL is the same way. A total attention seeker. let's just say my niece was born 9 months to the day after we got engaged 7.5 years ago..and now that we replanned our wedding, she's 8 mos preggo again and I'm pretty sure her shower is the same day as mine!
And she's a total B. I can't even get into it. The best thing I can say i have FH draw the line
omgggggg
yeah...that is like 1% of her insanity.
Hi Hall twin!
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yeah...that is like 1% of her insanity.
Hi Hall twin!
hii- i love how under your hall it says lots of chandeliers... this is one of the reasons i fell inlove with it.. It reminds me of my gmas house and she passed away so it was perfect!
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my SIL was a nightmare to deal with as well. she engaged 3 months after DH and I did, after we had picked out venue, put down deposits, etc... and then picked a wedding date 6 WEEKS before ours without so much as a bat of an eyelash.... and THEN thinks that we're the dramatic ones because we were taken aback that she wouldn't at least give us a heads up, but instead let us find out over Facebook that they had to courtesy of giving our families 6 weeks apart for 2 weeks. i still have a very hard time believing it 'would've been completely fine' if we had pulled the same stunt.
i bit my lip HARD during the entire wedding planning and now i just pretty much ignore her. it's taken a lot of time to get over it, but now i just think she's kind of sad, so i leave her and everything about her at an arm's length. also let your FH deal with her... he'll be your biggest support through it all.
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Posted by ChristineNorah
It's sad how some people are emotionally incapable of being happy for others. The best thing you can do is to continue to kill her with kindness. It will become very obvious to everyone around you who is wrong in this situation. You do the right thing, allow her to make a fool out of herself, it sounds like she is already doing an excellent job of that.
THIS! Sorry you have to deal w/ this, but I agree just be the bigger person and ppl will realize that she is in the wrong!
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I'm so sorry you are dealing with this - I hate her already if that helps.
My FSIL has registered for a house warming party because she is tired of giving gifts to people. lol
There's always one in every crowd
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Ahh that is crazy
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I try to kill her with kindness and there is only so much u can take. What annoys me is that FHs parents feel bad for her so anything she does and wants she gets, and not only do they back her everytime but they foot the bill as well. I just know when it comes time for me to pick bm dresses and stuff it's going to be a nightmare bc she is going to take over the whole thing and steal the show, and his mom will have her side, regardless of the fact that it's my decision. For example when my dress came in I was in it in front of the mirror with everyone behind me and she was standing in front of me!!! Blocking my view with her body yelling to everyone how much weight she has lost and how good she looks... *** my mom was ready to take her down lol
My FSIL is also s a t a n Theres only so much you can kill w/ kindness. Trust me ignore her, she will look like a FOOL trying to look so good at your wedding TRUST ME i have seen girls do this at other weddings, its soo sad and pathetic.
true. everyone knows its the BRIDE's big day. anyone who tries to out do the bride just looks like a moron.
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if it makes you feel better, the DAY i got engaged she texted me saying 'Remember, a fat bride is an ugly bride - that should motivate you' .... you're not alone!!
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wow. I've heard of annoying and jealous FSILs but yours takes the cake!!
If it were me, Id ask my FH to have a sit down talk with her and his mother explaining everything you just said. This can not continue to go on, it's not healthy especially since she's going to be apart of your life forever. If she doesn't want to play by your rules for your wedding, then explain to her nicely that this is how things are going to go and are going to be handled and if she doesn't agree, then she doesn't have to be apart of it. Let her make that decision.
I had the same talk with one of my BMs and low and behold the day all the girls went dress shopping, she showed up, bought her dress, and things are much better now because of that talk. When she saw that I wasn't giving into her demands, and that NOBODY was missing her, she felt left out and decided to change her ways.
I hope everything works out, but regardless your going to have an amazing wedding day! Just remember that!
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Posted by ChristineNorah
It's sad how some people are emotionally incapable of being happy for others. The best thing you can do is to continue to kill her with kindness. It will become very obvious to everyone around you who is wrong in this situation. You do the right thing, allow her to make a fool out of herself, it sounds like she is already doing an excellent job of that.
THIS! Sorry you have to deal w/ this, but I agree just be the bigger person and ppl will realize that she is in the wrong!
This is so true. She sounds like a very sick person. Just spiritually and emotionally sick. She prob hates herself and no matter what she tries to do it'll never be good enough, even for herself... if you can, pray for her. It's always worked for me. She will prob never change, but you can always change how you deal with you. Take a breath, don't react and think, 'sick person'.
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Awww I'm sorry you have to deal with that! I would just try to ignore her, and to not let her bother you.
