how to deal with people who assume they are bridesmaids??

how to deal with people who assume they are bridesmaids??

How do you deal with the girls who when you tell them you got engaged assume they are in your bridal party? So far one girl has said when are you telling everyone Im your MOH? Another girl said you better not pick any ugly bridesmaid dress for me. And another girl is already planning all of the bridal party events...

I've only been engaged for not even 2 months and already these three girls have claimed themselves a spot in my bridal party....and the kick is 2 out of the 3 I wasnt even considering having them in the party. One girl I see once every three months and we fight when we see each other and the other girl moved away 4 years ago and I barely talk to her anymore....

How do you deal with these girls when it has become all they talk about??

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Re: how to deal with people who assume they are bridesmaids??

Just never ask them to be a bm. If they ask why they're not involved in any wedding-related stuff, just tell them the truth... I think it's rude of them to make comments like that to begin with, so you shouldn't feel bad. I'd never assume I was in someone's bp!

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thanks for the advice girls!!!

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your very welcome! good luck!

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omg i would die! lol thank god i haven't opened my mouth about anything in that area yet! im sure ill have a few friends like that

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I had a 'friend' who moved away and barely called me tell me 'I KNOW im in the wedding!' I told her alot of people are in my wedding but I never told you that YOU were in my wedding... her reply?
'I dont care about other people I know Im in it somewhere!' And then had the nerve to be upset that her children arent in it either! I told her if she wanted to get dumb over something like this then she really isnt a friend....haven't heard from her since!

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It just really annoys me that people always assume, I can't stand it.

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That's crazy... I understand one person but two? Good luck. Be honest!

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I had a similar situation with someone who I heard was hoping to be asked. The thing for me was that I did not want to be looking at my album 10 years from now, seeing pictures of people in my BP that I don't even talk to anymore. I made the decision to pick people that I knew were gonna be in my life no matter what. Luckily for me, a mutual friend was totally on the same page as me and casually mentioned to the other that she knew I wanted a small BP with close family only. That kinda saved me the trouble of dealing with an awkward situation. Good Luck!

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Posted by angl2001

just let them know it is too soon and you havent decided how many BMs and who they are yet. Please don't pick anyone you DO NOT WANT in your party!!! if they get mad at you ....oh well. You do njot wanna deal with a BP full of people you dont even want there!! If you dont say something now it could get ugly lol, say something before its too late!
Good luck

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I second this!

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I had someone assume she was my MOH and out of guilt I had her and then of course my best friend. this girl was a disaster and ended up bossing me around so I kicked her out - be careful!