How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications...

I'm finding that planning my bachelorette party is more stressful than planning my wedding! (Ha ha, you can see right there that there is a problem!) So, first of all, I don't have a MOH. I don't have any sisters, and I have three close female friends who were part of different aspects of my life, so they are all equal bridesmaids. (I may regret that decision later!) They are spread out in different locations, and none of them has a lot of money.

Anyway, I've asked them to arrange a bachelorette party in a city that's close to where I live and close to where one of the three lives. We've come up with some great ideas (including a trampoline party followed by pole dancing lessons! Woohoo!) but we haven't discussed price or who pays. I know one of them in particular is struggling financially at the moment, but none are very well-off, and I'm not sure how to handle the finances of the bach party. And my DH and I are paying for a big chunk of the wedding ourselves, so I'm not exactly flush with cash either!

Who traditionally covers the cost of the bachelorette? Is it reasonable to ask all guests to chip in, and who would do that ask- me or the BMs? Most of the guests will already have to travel (probably fly) to get to the party, so I hate to ask for too much more money from anyone. And who generally plans the bachelorette party- is it exclusively the MOH, how much do brides help with this, etc?

So as you can see, I have a lot of questions, but mostly I just wanted to vent my frustrations over a complicated situation that shouldn't be complicated! Thanks for reading.

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

I think the bride usually gives input about what she wants and what she doesn't want, and the MOH plans it.

One point I would make, I believe ALL guests should contribute. It isn't right to invite 5 extra girls and expect your 3 BMs to foot the bill.

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

all of the guests contribute and pay your way- you shouldn't have to pay for anything

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

Yea for something like you are saying the price should def be slit amongst bridesmaids and not the bride.

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

The bride gives general input on what she wants or specifically does not want. MOH heads up the planning and includes the bridesmaids in the decision making. Guests chip in to cover their portion of the expenses plus some additional money to cover the cost for the bride.

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

The bride usually tells what she wants to the bridal party and the party makes all of the arrangements. I'm a little more involved in mine only because everyone is out of town, but I did tell my bridal party some ideas I had.

Every bachelorette party I've gone too, it was all split, and everyone added a little extra to cover the cost of the bride.

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

Perfect! I'm glad to hear that the costs are split among everyone, that will make things a lot easier. Thanks! :)

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

For my sisters the bridesmaids paid, we asked for any contributions would be appreciated. My sister found out and flipped out saying it was tacky to ask people to pay. Any other bachelorette party I have been to besides for a sleep over style one in someones home I have been asked to contribute I don't think it is taky at all. For one of my friends the matron and maid who were her sisters did not want to participate in the bachelorette party that the bride wanted so me and one of the other bridesmaids planned and paid the whole thing including the guests. So it varies on the bridal party and what the bride wants. I would ask your girls if this is something that they can swing if not then have the other guest contribute.

How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications... - Long Island Weddings

For any B-party I attended I paid my own way, whether in the bridal party or just a guest. When I was a Bridesmaid I would chip in extra to cover the Bride or buy some extra treats/decor but generally every guest paid for themselves. I don't think its tacky at all, it's always the way I've seen it.

Re: How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications...

Thanks, everyone. This is really helpful. I don't think anyone I invite will mind chipping in for their share, and I don't think we'll get too crazy with the costs, anyway... as long as no one winds up in the hospital from the trampoline party!

Re: How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications...

Every Bach party I have been to - including my own last month - everyone involved splits the cost and the bride isn't allowed to pay for a thing. I tried to buy coffee for the girls on our drive down to NJ and almost got my wallet thrown back in my face! I gave my input on what I think would be fun and my MOH planned everything with help and input from the rest of the revellers.

Re: How to handle bachelorette party expenses? Oh, complications...

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Posted by cets1290

all of the guests contribute and pay your way- you shouldn't have to pay for anything

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This!