How would you feel?

How would you feel?

I'm really upset right now...I just got off the phone with my mom who told me that my cousin's fiance's bridal shower is the day after my wedding. I'm so mad. I'm worried that our mutual family will leave my wedding early or not have as good of a time because they'll have to go to her shower the next day. I feel like it was done out of spite and it just makes me so upset Am I being ridiculous for feeling this way?

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i think they may not make the shower and just send a gift bc they would have more fun at your wedding!

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I don't think you are being rediculous at all. Who the heck plans a bridal shower the day after one of the other family members has a wedding? Not for nothing but I wouldn't go to the shower. If I were a family member I would just send a gift to the shower because I'm going to a wedding the night before....PARTY TIME!!!

Don't be upset. If someone did do it on purpose-this is the reaction they want from you.

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I would be upset also! Why is it necessary for them to make it the day after why not the week after? Did you talk to any family about this?

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aww, I'm sorry that you're upset!

I think that you do have reason to feel upset right now... but I don't think they would have done that out of spite! (at least i hope not!)

i don't think that people will leave your wedding early... they'll be having too much fun!

just focus on your day... you get to marry the love of your life! and you can go to your first event as Mrs!

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You have every right to feel upset. I don't understand why people do this..

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i would be upset and annoyed. Oh well its her loss that so many people wont be able to make her shower she shouldve thought about that when she picked her date! And if i were you i wouldnt go and just send a gift. Some people are just clueless i guess

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ur not being ridiculous, i would have the same reaction. however with that said, don't worry about it, think about it this way. most people will too busy at ur wedding enjoying themselves and will probably either be hung over or late to her shower. heres a

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I would be really upset as well...that was poor planning on their part. Like another poster said...people not make it to her shower. If I were her mother or bridal party, I would change the date.

Feel better

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I am sorry!!! I think she will understand!!

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Honestly, I would be more mad if I was your cousin's fiance...I think everyone will have such a great time at your wedding and they will be too tired to go to her bridal shower!!! Even though I would be annoyed to, don't worry a wedding always takes precedence over a shower!!!!!

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You have every right to be upset......but hands down people prefer going to weddings over going to showers.....so too bad for your cousin's fiance if people either don't go to her shower, or show up a little hung over lol!!! If your cousin's fiance isn't actively involved with the planning of her shower than most likely this wasn't maliciously done, but I would think your aunt should reach out to her FDIL's bridal party or mom and tell them what an inconvenience it is to have it the next day. She can even make it sound as if she's looking out for FDIL saying that there's a possibility less people will go to the shower. Sorry your in this situation!!

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Don't worry....Your wedding will be the big hit...Not some bridal shower....

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Dont worry, I am sure that everyone will not leave to go to her shower !! ITS YOUR WEDDING !!!

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I would think if her BP knew about the wedding the day before, they would change the date. It sounds like the mom is planning it and doesn't realize younger ppl will be drinking and dancing the night away and prob won't make it to her daughter's shower. NOONE will leave early! Above posters are right, weddings trump showers!!!

Don't be upset. It'll all work out.

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aw Im sorry that you feel this wayDont worry, I think people will be having too good of a time at your wedding to leave early