You FH was in another state and was going to hang out with an old high school friend who is a GIRL? And you DON'T know her!
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well i was def in this situation before with FH...
as you know he is in San Diego and me here and he made friends with the girl who worked at the starbucks on base....he is very friendly FH and alwyas chats it up with people lol
but they started hanging out like once they went to the movies and dont get me started on that one haha but he understood why i felt the way i did..and then they really didnt do that too much anymore but they would go out to breakfast on sat sometimes or to the mall but never in her apt alone (cause all she wanted to do was stay in her bedroom) and I said NO to that and he said No as well haha
But i told him i completely trusted him i just hated it haha and after some minor arguments i realized this is the man who wants to spend the rest of his life with me and i know he would never do anything and he would always get upset when i would when he would hang out with her- he used to say that it hurt him to think that i was thinking bad things were going to happen...
I got over it but it was also cause i wanted to be doing things with FH and I couldnt
But thankfully she moved hahaha but I think maybe talk to him about it cause i wouldnt at first and just start little fights haha
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I trust my FH and I kinda had the situation except that it was me hanging out with one of my friends who was a guy - FH didn't know him but he was okay with it.
On the flip side I'd be okay with it.
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if my FH were in another state and asked me if he could meet up with an old pal, i would be jealous that someone else gets to see him in person when i couldnt. it would drive me nuts, but i would let him go because i know he would never be unfaithful, and if all it takes is meeting an old friend to make him stray, well good riddance!
i would probably ask him to call me right after his time with her to soothe the green-eyed monster in me, lol.
haha exactly what i was trying to get at in my earlier post haha
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I don't care if they go to dinner, but if they hung out all the time, I'd have a problem with it. Only if I knew her, then no biggie
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Posted by ant n tilde
honestly i know this is TABOO on these boards
but FH doesn't 'let' me do certain things and don't 'let' him do certain things ( shocking i know )
that would be one of them though - definitely.
no its not taboo...i mean i let Fh do things but there are some things that are just no way its not happening lol...like hanging out with certain people.
Hmmm this is a tough situation, but no matter what any of us think youre the one who has to deal with it so do whatever makes you comfortable. We can give you all the advice there is but its not us who will sit there all night driving ourselves crazy thinking about this ya know. I say be honest with him, say you trust him but it kind of bothers you.
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I just don't know. I DEFINITELY trust him. I don't trust her because I don't know her. I would feel incredibly uncomfortable if they did hang out....BUT I don't want to come off as a JEALOUS FW! Blahhhh....
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Tell him 'No' then - there's no shame in it... It's all about compromise now, if you feel uncomfortable - he shouldn't do it...
DnellD809
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Yea...I'm definitely going to tell him I don't like the idea of it... AHHH this *****!
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let us know what happens...
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Posted by ant n tilde
honestly i know this is TABOO on these boards
but FH doesn't 'let' me do certain things and don't 'let' him do certain things ( shocking i know )
that would be one of them though - definitely.
It's not taboo, it's respect!!!
Go us old fashioned ladies!!!
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thats a tough one...I would think I'd be okay with it if I trusted him. My theory...Steven would have never asked me to marry him if he didn't want to get married or if he still wanted to 'hang out' with other girls.
I'm sure its innocent. If you feel uncomfortable with it...ask him not to go...he should respect your feelings (in a perfect world). Think about it...he did tell you he was going to see her...chances are she is just a friend. You have guy friends, right? ...and you would probably want him to trust you if you were going out with an old friend who was a guy, right? I think he would be happy to see it didn't bother you.
Good Luck...it doesn't really matter what we say, go with your gut instinct.
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I just don't know. I DEFINITELY trust him. I don't trust her because I don't know her. I would feel incredibly uncomfortable if they did hang out....BUT I don't want to come off as a JEALOUS FW! Blahhhh....
don't worry about how you'll come off.... your FH loves you for you, and if you're upset about something... you should be able to tell him! he loves you.... which means he'll probably understand. i think that a little bit of jealousy is completely normal. in similar situations, i usually just voice my opinion about the situation to my FH, and then let him make the decision himself. he always chooses not to go... he wouldn't want to do something that he knew would upset me! and if he did decide to go, i'd just bite my tongue and try to have a little faith in him. know that your FH wouldn't do anything to jeapordize your relationship! and like a previous poster said, if seeing an old friend is enough to make FH stray... then you might have some things to think about.
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WELL...he's NOT going to hang out with her.... BUT it took a while. He kept saying that they are JUST friends and that he loves me and wants to be with me forever and that he would NEVER do anything to compromise that. So I gave up and just said WHATEVER....but then the more we talked the more I thought HEY if I said it makes me uncomfortable DON'T talk me into it...RESPECT it... Sooo he's not going to now...not until I move out there and meet her! Then i'll feel mre comfortable cause right now to me she is SOME girl I DON'T know... GOD I feel like such a jealous BIATCH!!! Ahhh
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WELL...he's NOT going to hang out with her.... BUT it took a while. He kept saying that they are JUST friends and that he loves me and wants to be with me forever and that he would NEVER do anything to compromise that. So I gave up and just said WHATEVER....but then the more we talked the more I thought HEY if I said it makes me uncomfortable DON'T talk me into it...RESPECT it... Sooo he's not going to now...not until I move out there and meet her! Then i'll feel mre comfortable cause right now to me she is SOME girl I DON'T know... GOD I feel like such a jealous BIATCH!!! Ahhh
You shouldn't!! You feel just like anyone of us would feel! I'm glad he's not going. Even if you do trust him 101%, you wouldn't have been completley comfortable with the situation. The fact that he's not going thus proves why your marrying him!!!!
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WELL...he's NOT going to hang out with her.... BUT it took a while. He kept saying that they are JUST friends and that he loves me and wants to be with me forever and that he would NEVER do anything to compromise that. So I gave up and just said WHATEVER....but then the more we talked the more I thought HEY if I said it makes me uncomfortable DON'T talk me into it...RESPECT it... Sooo he's not going to now...not until I move out there and meet her! Then i'll feel mre comfortable cause right now to me she is SOME girl I DON'T know... GOD I feel like such a jealous BIATCH!!! Ahhh
dont feel like that...thats exactly how i was with FH when he started hanging out with that starbucks girl and i know he never meant to hang out with her to cheat on me or anythin he was bored in San Diego with not alot of friends since he just moved there like 2months before he met her and started to hang a little bit and we talked about it alot and he understood and i met her and i realized i didnt have anything ot worry about hahaha but i still didnt like it but after i met her i let it go and didnt have my comments hwen he would goto the mall with her
but i am glad it worked out ofr you hun!!!
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THANKS!!!!
AHHH I just hate that i'm soooooo emotional, I realllllly am! I wish I could be one of those girls who is just confident enough to be like WHATEVER and not start crying or get BLAHHH I know most of it has to do with the fact that he JUST moved away like a a couple of days ago...but WOW...i'm taking it REALLLLLY hard!!!!
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i'd tease him... i do that to my fh. it's okay with me. what matters is that he told you about it.
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THANKS!!!!
AHHH I just hate that i'm soooooo emotional, I realllllly am! I wish I could be one of those girls who is just confident enough to be like WHATEVER and not start crying or get BLAHHH I know most of it has to do with the fact that he JUST moved away like a a couple of days ago...but WOW...i'm taking it REALLLLLY hard!!!!
