I have been so stressed lately--the wedding is coming up so soon, and we are closing on our condo this week. Anyway, FH made the mistake of calling at a bad time, and we had a huge fight, basically because I am so stressed and not used to having an empty bank account after we give everything for the mortgage. It's just so hard--I feel like getting through all this is such a trial! Anyone else feel like that (say I am not alone please!!)?
Corduroy94
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You are totally not alone! I feel like everytime we save a substantial ammount of $ I have to hand it over or lock it away in a savings account I can't touch. Then I look at what's left and feel so down. I mean you work & work (sometimes more than 1 job & sometimes on top of school) and it feels like you should be ahead of where you are....
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I understand... we actually closed on a house a few months ago and between that and the wedding, I was extremely stressed. Good luck on the closing and congrats! FM me if you need to talk!
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I totally feel that way too!
We just signed the contract on Friday for our co-op! handing over that huge check was hard! and then next month the rest of the down payment will clean us out! AHHHHHHHHh. PLUS all the wedding payments are starting up in Sept. so it 's never ending! PLUS- one of my BM's is getting married in Feb and I have all stuff related to her wedding to start paying for! we're getting our BM dresses this week! AHHHHHHHHH I have no money too!
We can all be down together!
we should all set up a car wash fundraiser together to help fund our weddings! ha ha.
nov04LIbride
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Posted by suezboss
I totally feel that way too!
We just signed the contract on Friday for our co-op! handing over that huge check was hard! and then next month the rest of the down payment will clean us out! AHHHHHHHHh. PLUS all the wedding payments are starting up in Sept. so it 's never ending! PLUS- one of my BM's is getting married in Feb and I have all stuff related to her wedding to start paying for! we're getting our BM dresses this week! AHHHHHHHHH I have no money too!
We can all be down together!
we should all set up a car wash fundraiser together to help fund our weddings! ha ha.
Totally understand. A few days ago we were talking about all the things we were spending money on and he says 'Someday we are going to regret spending all this money on 5 hours of a day' and I totally flipped.
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i feel the same way. my fi and i haven't had a huge fight, but we are bickering a lot more which is unusual for us. i'm working going to grad school, planning this wedding and in the process of buying a house. needless to say it has been stressful.
my fi has beenwonderful because he knows how much pressure i have with school. i think that we would both feel much better once we knew when we were closing on the house.
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I am so sorry that you had this fight. This is so normal, though and the more I am on this website, it makes me feel like I am normal :) Planning a wedding is stressful enough, let alone making a huge purchase such as a house.
We are closing on a house next week and both my fiance and I are maxed out and seeing that money pour out and not as much coming in is such a scary feeling. Just try to keep in perspective how much you love each other and try not to let all of the stresses affect your relationship. I know that's easier said than done! I am going through it too and I am trying to make a conscious effort not to blow my lid- its so hard sometimes. When I feel like I am going to go crazy, I just take an hour to do something that I enjoy and that means no wedding planning, no house, and no fiance. It has seemed to help so far.
no stress bride
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I Know things will work out Beth Hang in there!!
JRG71
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We're fighting more too! Everyone is telling me that it's normal.
Trya not to worry too much.... everything alway's works out.
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i think all of us have been fighting more..and we're broke also..we close on friday and i have never fought like this with fh before..i think its a combination of nerves and excitement but you know how it is..all the negative takes over the positive..let's just be happy we are all where we are and try to let that overcome the negative..for once
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You are so normal!
We aren't buying a house, but I am quitting my job - this week - to start grad school at Columbia this Fall. I'll be putting us $40,000 in debt each year for three years, we are losing my income AND we have the wedding in October so we are so STRESSED out! We've been fighting about money a lot recently.
We have two more wedding (he's in one) before ours and I have no idea how we are going to afford it!
JimmysBride
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You're not alone!!! WE had a HUMONGOUS fight last night... hang in there!!!
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I agree..My FI and just argued about how much debt we are accumulating..We both go to grad school and bought a condo. Our wedding is less than 2 mths away and we were just going over the hugh list of payments to come..paying off the Honeymoon, our furniture, wedding rings...etc.
By the time we get married, I will have no savings left..that's scary for me because I always have money in the bank..
Hang in there...that's what we are here for..to vent!!
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Wow! Reading your post made me feel like we are living paralell lives! I am getting married in November too, and the contract for our new (hopefully) house was just sent to our attorney today. I am freaking out just thinking about it all because we still didnt even buy rings yet and have balances to pay with all our vendors.
I dont know where the money is going to come from!
Here is what FH said to me that makes me feel better---
He said 'I know buying a house and planning this wedding seems crazy and impossible, but we'll do whatever it takes. It will be one big adventure for us.'
This really made me feel better. Try thinking of it as your big adventure with FH--the start of your new life together.
lillian771
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You are definitely not alone. The only thing FH and i ever fight about is money...its both a wonderful and stressful time for us.
I hope everything works out!
Janine24
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money can be very stressful.... and I know how it is to get in a fight just b/c you are stressed... just talk through it...
LADYLUV69
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I feel you pain and I can truly relate. Trust me you will get through it. I did. Do not throw in the towel.
Bride2B93
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Beth, you are totally normal! FH and I are getting married in 2 weeks and closing on our house next week...we are going through a lot of stress right now also! Don't worry...anyone that I talk to says that we will feel such a relief when the wedding and the purchase of the house is over with!!
I hear you about the money!!! It is so hard to see all of the money that I've been saving disappear!!
Hugs for you!!
Russo'sbride
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yes I know how it feels. My FH and I are always arguing what to spend money on and what not too. Now my FH and I are under lots of strees b/c he is going for interviews for a new and better position in his company. He's getting frustrated and I am too.
