I accept the flaming that will follow this post...

Original post by DebMaher

Oct 04, 2004 09:03 PM

but I find it remarkable that the folks who create the most

are the ones to complain about it most vividly with that drama exists.

lolita4life Posted: Oct 04, 2004 10:18 PM

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Posted by ckgmwedding

perhaps you should FM the hypocrite directly to share your concerns. .

i agree!!!!

DebMaher Posted: Oct 04, 2004 10:25 PM

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LP, I think you missed this one. Aw, shucks, and how many times to I get to reference the enchanted forest!

DebMaher Posted: Oct 05, 2004 11:56 AM

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BUMP for royalty -- here you go, LP

LadyPrincess Posted: Oct 05, 2004 11:58 AM

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ok got it

LadyPrincess Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:01 PM

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i miised the EF invit as i was back & forth
on the other chast invit

Sorry

BTW - what it the lastest on the EF & Mother IL
(i think)

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:01 PM

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i am lost as usual!

LadyPrincess Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:03 PM

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla

i am lost as usual!

we highjacked this one BKZ

Aga Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:03 PM

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla

i am lost as usual!

stay where you are, I am coming to get you

DebMaher Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:04 PM

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She wants to put up (this is based on this big wedding that was written up in Town and Country weddings) like green silk all over the walls with tons of flowers and candles and transform the space. It is actually kind of romantic and she hs this remarkable plan -- it is just not me. I am one of those get married in a backyard girls.

CubanBride Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:05 PM

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FLaCaTaCa Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:09 PM

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DebMaher--
I hope you do NOT take this offensive or personal but I have got to say this or it is going to kill me. While I agree that it is extremely hypocritical to start drama and then complain about it. I just also feel like threads like these are unnecessary and meant to start some sort of drama. When you started this...you had an idea that you would get flammed, so my question is why post it?

The 05 board has been through quite it's share of drama and I am hoping it ends and soon but with a thread like this...how could it?

Please don't hate me or take this the wrong way, I just felt like my opinion needed to be brought out in case anyone felt the same way.

gtsgirl Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:13 PM

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I agree with Flaca...we don't need more drama on the 05 boards and threads like these cause controversy...especially when I thought the drama was squashed last week.

pickles16 Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:16 PM

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I agree with Flaca 100 percent. This post is not necessary, we were all getting along fine for a few days

CubanBride Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:16 PM

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Posted by FLaCaTaCa

DebMaher--
I hope you do NOT take this offensive or personal but I have got to say this or it is going to kill me. While I agree that it is extremely hypocritical to start drama and then complain about it. I just also feel like threads like these are unnecessary and meant to start some sort of drama. When you started this...you had an idea that you would get flammed, so my question is why post it?

The 05 board has been through quite it's share of drama and I am hoping it ends and soon but with a thread like this...how could it?

Please don't hate me or take this the wrong way, I just felt like my opinion needed to be brought out in case anyone felt the same way.

*nods in silent agreement*

DebMaher Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:20 PM

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Flaca (edited to say, et al):
No flame, I hear you and completely respect what you have to say. I wanted to be open about my feelings on hypocrisy. Other people I respect have asked me to be general when I make such a point so to honor their feelings, I remained neutral and just stated my opinion (punctuated with a cute smiley). I would hope there would be this openness in a forum; the ability to vent without flaming but since it so frequently follows (flaming of the poster, that is) I acknowledged up front that I was willing to take what was coming next. I do think as long as it is not insulting, even a controversial statement should be alright without judgement.

To respond specifically to your post, I would never take as personal your posting your opinion.Of course, you and all our wonderful girls are entitled...that is the beauty of the open forum. It is when people post one thing one day and then act another way that gets me which is all I was commenting on. That is part of a forum too, being true and in this sense, being supportive. Meanness, even if due to a lack of experience or understanding, stinks in any setting.

Again, I would never hate anyone for posting their genuine, heartfelt opinion about anything. I would also not expect someone to 'hate' me for doing the same. It is what makes me a better friend, FI, daughter, and colleague -- speaking up for something I view as wrong.

Going forward, I would hope there would be no nonsense. Indeed, after expressing my opinion one time, which I did, I moved on. Flaca, let's keep enjoying each other and this process. I feel fortunate to have found this board and the daily dose of pleasure it brings and I hope to not have cause to vent about such things again. Peace to all and much love.

FLaCaTaCa Posted: Oct 05, 2004 12:26 PM

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Posted by DebMaher

Flaca:
No flame, I hear you and completely respect what you have to say. I wanted to be open about my feelings on hypocrisy. Other people I respect have asked me to be general when I make such a point so to honor their feelings, I remained neutral and just stated my opinion (punctuated with a cute smiley). I would hope there would be this openness in a forum; the ability to vent without flaming but since it so frequently follows (flaming of the poster, that is) I acknowledged up front that I was willing to take what was coming next. I do think as long as it is not insulting, even a controversial statemtn should be alright without judgement.

To respond specifically to your post, I would never take as personal your posting your opinion.Of course, you and all our wonderful girls are entitled...that is the beauty of the open forum. It is when people post one thing one day and then act another way that gets me which is all I was commenting on. That is part of a forum too, being true and in this sense, being supportive. Meanness, even if due to a lack of experience or understanding, stinks in any setting.

Again, I would never hate anyone for posting their genuine, heartfelt opinion about anything. I would also not expect someone to 'hate' me for doing the same. It is what makes me a better friend, FI, daughter, and colleague -- speaking up for something I view as wrong.

Going forward, I would hope there would be no nonsense. Indeed, after expressing my opinion one time, which I did, I moved on.
Flaca, let's keep enjoying each other and this process. I feel fortunate to have found this board and the daily dose of pleasure it brings and I hope to not have cause to vent about such things again. Peace to all and much love.

Thanks!!! I appreciate your respect and hope that we can all just get passed this and everything else that 05 has been through. So!!! Cheers and Let's move on!!!!

Backinneyork Posted: Oct 05, 2004 01:40 PM

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I hate the fact that I always miss the drama!!! I really wish I didn't have to work!!

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Oct 05, 2004 01:58 PM

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If possible - I am in complete agreement with Deb and Flaca.

I would hope that one could say what they think - respectfully - with out getting flamed. IMO - what good would the board be if not to share an honest opinion?

Now back to planning!

lolita4life Posted: Oct 05, 2004 02:42 PM

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i also think topics like theses are a set back and do not see how any good can come out of it. Why not FM someone if you have a problem with them? Maybe you would actually realize that their intentions are possibly not as you percieve them to be.

i also feel that maybe you havent been involved in the actual drama, but you sure have a way of starting it!

DMcK Posted: Oct 05, 2004 02:53 PM

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Posted by lolita4life

i also think topics like theses are a set back and do not see how any good can come out of it. Why not FM someone if you have a problem with them? Maybe you would actually realize that their intentions are possibly not as you percieve them to be.

I agree with this 100%