I accept the flaming that will follow this post...

Original post by DebMaher

Oct 04, 2004 09:03 PM

but I find it remarkable that the folks who create the most

are the ones to complain about it most vividly with that drama exists.

Bunnymonkey Posted: Oct 05, 2004 03:28 PM

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Posted by lolita4life

i also think topics like theses are a set back and do not see how any good can come out of it. Why not FM someone if you have a problem with them? Maybe you would actually realize that their intentions are possibly not as you percieve them to be.

i also feel that maybe you havent been involved in the actual drama, but you sure have a way of starting it!

alot of us have a WAY of starting Drama here.

This said whilst saying: I'M NOT TRYING TO START DRAMA HERE!

Different things irritate different people - and can oftentimes be perceived as Drama. For example: Someones insensitivity toward a topic that might be very sensitive to someone else can often start drama. If we think before we speak, we can avoid the flare ups that make the 'speaker' go 'Hey! where did that come from?!'

I do find it incredible that the people who create the most drama are alot of times the ones to complain about it most vividly that the drama exists.

Just a thought....

LuvMyMichael Posted: Oct 05, 2004 03:51 PM

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Hey backinneyork.....I love the fact that I have to work and miss all this. I have NO idea whats going on, and I like it that way!

Happy Posting Girls!

alexlynn7 Posted: Oct 05, 2004 04:02 PM

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Posted by panapoli

Hey backinneyork.....I love the fact that I have to work and miss all this. I have NO idea whats going on, and I like it that way!

Happy Posting Girls!

i have been at work so i don't know what's going on either! wow... i didn't think that i would ever find a positive side of sitting in a dark room reading x-rays all day...

lolita4life Posted: Oct 05, 2004 04:13 PM

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i dont think there are any 'certain' people that are 'usually' involved in 'most' of the drama.... and i think we all are allowed to complain about it... obviously if you are the one involved in it, wouldnt that bother you??? wouldnt you hate being taken the 'wrong' way all the time? i think in all honesty, even though i have no problem with her, i think cranesgirl has been the one on the board that has been involved in most of the 05 drama, and i dont see her complaining about anything.
i know ive been in my share of drama as well, but it has mostly been on other boards. i think fingering ppl out, with or without saying their names is quite rude. i was very hurt to see the other day that DebMaher posted a thread about drama something like 'so are you guys gonna start up again? cranes? lolita?' i think that is very rude, and NOT a way to move forward. I am trying NOT to get involved in any drama, but DebMaher keeps posting things like these that are little jabs at me, and i really find it uncomfortable. even if shes NOT talking to/about me, i feel self- conscious becuase she has in the past. Also, I have tried to FM her on this matter and she will not respond, so there goes that idea! I understand she has been on this site for awhle, and alot of ppl love her, but i think she is truly TRYing to start drama, or a tLEAST trying to make me feel bad or guilty for soemthing. I just dont see the point.

QueensBride Posted: Oct 05, 2004 04:30 PM

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Posted by lolita4life

i dont think there are any 'certain' people that are 'usually' involved in 'most' of the drama.... and i think we all are allowed to complain about it... obviously if you are the one involved in it, wouldnt that bother you??? wouldnt you hate being taken the 'wrong' way all the time? i think in all honesty, even though i have no problem with her, i think cranesgirl has been the one on the board that has been involved in most of the 05 drama, and i dont see her complaining about anything.
i know ive been in my share of drama as well, but it has mostly been on other boards. i think fingering ppl out, with or without saying their names is quite rude. i was very hurt to see the other day that DebMaher posted a thread about drama something like 'so are you guys gonna start up again? cranes? lolita?' i think that is very rude, and NOT a way to move forward. I am trying NOT to get involved in any drama, but DebMaher keeps posting things like these that are little jabs at me, and i really find it uncomfortable. even if shes NOT talking to/about me, i feel self- conscious becuase she has in the past. Also, I have tried to FM her on this matter and she will not respond, so there goes that idea! I understand she has been on this site for awhle, and alot of ppl love her, but i think she is truly TRYing to start drama, or a tLEAST trying to make me feel bad or guilty for soemthing. I just dont see the point.

Lolita...I tend to agree with you on this one.

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Oct 05, 2004 04:39 PM

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Its like bizarro-world....

you can go from have complete disregard about people's feelings to being the poster child for cyber respect.

ETA: And I don't mean Deb.....

lolita4life Posted: Oct 05, 2004 04:59 PM

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well if thats how you feel, thats how you feel.
I'm sure alot of people made their own assumptions of me just cuz i was involved in drama, but that doesnt necassarily mean thats how i am. Mature people that actually take the time to get to know me realize I'm actually a nice person. And for MOST of the people I WAS involved with in the drama, I have made peace with. Some people can not handle that I guess. I'm not asking for anyone to like me, just stop making me out to be some horrible person. And if you dont like, why bother talking about me?!

Butterflybride Posted: Oct 05, 2004 06:40 PM

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Posted by alexlynn7

Posted by panapoli

Hey backinneyork.....I love the fact that I have to work and miss all this. I have NO idea whats going on, and I like it that way!

Happy Posting Girls!

i have been at work so i don't know what's going on either! wow... i didn't think that i would ever find a positive side of sitting in a dark room reading x-rays all day...

Yeah, I'm actually kind of glad I have work and I miss the drama

dm24angel Posted: Oct 05, 2004 06:41 PM

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I noticed this as well, but take all the drama in stride ( look at me 5000 plus posts later, LOTS of drama later and I hate no-one....a miracle I must say!)

ckgmwedding Posted: Oct 05, 2004 06:53 PM

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Posted by dm24angel

I noticed this as well, but take all the drama in stride ( look at me 5000 plus posts later, LOTS of drama later and I hate no-one....a miracle I must say!)

Unfortunately, you have more important stuff to worry about right now.... Reminding all of us that there are worse problems in the world. Sorry to sound preachy- tough school counselor day- I need hugs