I am absolutely devastated! My dress doesn't fit and it has to be changed. UPDATED WITH PICS

Original post by glinda_goodwitch

Apr 28, 2006 07:42 PM

I worked sooo hard. I lost weight, went to the gym and did a LOT of weight lifting. I went for my first fitting today and my dress fit perfectly around my hips and waist. But I gained 2 inches in my bust and it won't button up the back. They can't let out the dress because I got a size that fit perfectly when I ordered it, and there are no real seams. So they have to put a panel in the back and put a corset in. It won't button all the way up like the original dress I fell in love with. I am so upset and there is nothing I can do about it. My shower is tomorrow in Boston and I don't even care. I'm just so sad it's not going to be the dress I fell in love with. I hope I can love it again when the changes are made. This totally ***** and I didn't even enjoy my first fitting. I cried the whole time.

UPDATE:

Well, I looked at the pics, and while I'm not happy with this, I can see what the back will look like and it probably won't be so bad. You can see the corset in the 3rd pic and it will look like that, but only more finished. I figured I'd share some of my horror pics with you girls

EJSD2006 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 09:24 PM

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awwww Beth, don't be sad...think of it this way, you have bigger boobs now!!! pass some my way please!!!!

you will look gorgeous no matter what! the corset will still look beautiful!

MsKitty1274 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 09:28 PM

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BETH!!!!!! I am so sorry to hear of your experience during your first fitting!!!!!! I can only imagine how you're feeling. I am sure your dress with look amazing when it's done!!! It will look the same, just with the corest!! The front won't change, the train won't change. But most importantly....your FH will see you as the most beautiful woman on that day, no matter what the dress looks like!!!!!

sr081906 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 09:31 PM

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

Yes, lots of chest presses. I didn't know

Bump for update with pics.

Stop the chest and back exercises. FM me for more info. I used to be a personal trainer (in my younger age). I will try to find exercises for you.

CC59 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 09:35 PM

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Beth...your dress is gorgeous! I remember meeting you when you found it and I loved it then. The dress, and you the bride, will look beautiful buttons or corset.

DUCKS2001 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 09:37 PM

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I HONEY I AM SO SORRY THE CORSET ALSO LOOKS PRETTY AND YOU WILL ALSO BE COMFORTABLE. I WISH I HAD GOTTEN A CORSET NOW.... BUT TOO LATE

DONT WORRY THINGS WILL WORK OUT

cjb88 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 09:39 PM

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i think the dress looks great on you!! the front and the back!! the corset looks great and no one will even know that it was changed!

pebbles Posted: Apr 28, 2006 10:12 PM

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When you tried the dress on for your fitting did you have a corset longline bra on? If you did not then I recommend you get one because that will knock about 2 inches off you.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 10:21 PM

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Beth, I'm so sorry. BUt you will be a gorgeous June bride...I PROMISE you!

I know it will be difficult, but please try to put the dress out of your mind for your shower. We only get to have these 'milestones' once in our lives...so please enjoy every minute of it!!!!

This will all work itself out. Corset or not, the dress of gorgeous, you are beautiful, and your FH is a lucky man!!!!

ENJOY YOUR SHOWER!!!!

kittythestray Posted: Apr 28, 2006 10:35 PM

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Try to enjoy your shower!! I'm sure the corset looks just as beautiful as the buttons! I think it looks like it was supposed to be that way!

KarAnthony Posted: Apr 28, 2006 10:52 PM

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This may sound really stupid, but are you due for your period? I found that when I had my period I was 3 inches bigger in my chest then after a dress was ordered (a bridesmaid dress)...and I didn't lose any weight but yet, when it finally came in I suddenly 'lost 3 inches' around my bust...

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Apr 28, 2006 10:54 PM

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Posted by KarAnthony

This may sound really stupid, but are you due for your period? I found that when I had my period I was 3 inches bigger in my chest then after a dress was ordered (a bridesmaid dress)...and I didn't lose any weight but yet, when it finally came in I suddenly 'lost 3 inches' around my bust...

Unfortunately, no.

KarAnthony Posted: Apr 28, 2006 10:57 PM

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

Posted by KarAnthony

This may sound really stupid, but are you due for your period? I found that when I had my period I was 3 inches bigger in my chest then after a dress was ordered (a bridesmaid dress)...and I didn't lose any weight but yet, when it finally came in I suddenly 'lost 3 inches' around my bust...

Unfortunately, no.

You have time...don't eat any salt/limit your carbs for 3 weeks/increase cardio, then make your fitting for the last weekend in May, I bet you won't need the corset...

FrogGirl0917 Posted: Apr 28, 2006 11:17 PM

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you look great in the dress...I know they will do a great job to get it to fit right in the bust and it will still be gorgeous on you!!

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Apr 28, 2006 11:24 PM

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Posted by KarAnthony

Posted by glinda_goodwitch

Posted by KarAnthony

This may sound really stupid, but are you due for your period? I found that when I had my period I was 3 inches bigger in my chest then after a dress was ordered (a bridesmaid dress)...and I didn't lose any weight but yet, when it finally came in I suddenly 'lost 3 inches' around my bust...

Unfortunately, no.

You have time...don't eat any salt/limit your carbs for 3 weeks/increase cardio, then make your fitting for the last weekend in May, I bet you won't need the corset...

Yeah, but why am I going to kill myself for the next 1 1/2 months when there is no guarantee I'll lose weight in my bust? I don't need to lose in my waist at all, just my bust. I'm just going to have to go with the corset. I have my next fitting may 12.

JazzyT Posted: Apr 28, 2006 11:27 PM

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So sorry

BKtoLI Posted: Apr 28, 2006 11:36 PM

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Woman!!! I am so sorry you are going through this, my dress had to be let out slightly and I worried it would look stupid because the skirt had been shortened as far as it could go.

All I can tell you is do more cardio and less weight training. You get more bulky from weight training. Or if you want to get toned down, use lighter weight with more reps. This might help you!!!

Otherwise, it looks perfectly fine with a corset, but ultimately you have to be happy!!!

chander618 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 12:27 AM

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waterspout4 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 03:37 AM

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Let me tell you one thing. Corsets are the only thing that will fit exact on the wedding day. It's the only thing that expands and contracts with you.

Also, they are easier for the DH to take off on your wedding night than small buttons.

OctoberPrincess2006 Posted: Apr 29, 2006 04:17 AM

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Posted by greenfreak

Beth, I just looked at your pictures.

Girl, you are stunning.

Don't worry about a thing and enjoy your day. You're never getting another bridal shower, so put this out of your mind for one day. Enjoy it, and then come back and tell us how wonderful it was. Then take the suggestions here and work on it with us.

I'm serious, you're beautiful and no alterations to that dress will change that.

I agree...I know that the situation must have made you feel horrible BUT your dress looks beautiful!! The corset back will look great!! Have fun at your Bridal Shower..it only happens once!! Good luck!!

October Bliss Posted: Apr 29, 2006 11:28 AM

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Awww, Beth, I'm so sorry that your first fitting was not a joyful and wonderous experience for you!

I KNOW that with or without a corset back, you will be a beautiful bride!!!

Don't let this take away from enjoying your shower. There are many people who love and care for you that will be in Boston. Put aside the disappointment with the dress long enough to feel the love.