I am annoyed with my church!

I am really annoyed.
We are supposed to have our rehearsal with the Deacon. Even though, the Deacon will not partake in the ceremony at all. The priest doesn't do the rehearsals the Deacons do.
So I spoke with the Deacon's wife yesterday since he wasn't home and she informed me that the way they do it in the church is the girls walk down with the guys (I want the girls to come down alone). She told me WHO is going to be up at the altar next to FH and I and that FH and I don't make that decision. Is this for real? I was fuming when I got off the phone with her because she wasn't listening to me at all with what I was saying. Then she had the NERVE to say why isn't my mother walking down the aisle with me. And made some sarcastic remark when I told her because she isn't! According to her, in the church its tradition to have the girls walk with the GMs. I have NEVER heard in the Catholic church it being tradition that the bride walks in with both her parents!
To boot, we can only have the rehearsal on a Thursday which of course is the day before my wedding. Then she was arguing with me on the time. She kept saying 7:30. HELLO!!! I don't want to go to bed at midnight the night before my wedding!!! That because the priests have dinner at 6:00, we can't have the rehearsal at that time. I don't see what the problem is since none of the priests will be assisting and its not like we are going to have a party in the church to intterupt their dinner! They have dinner in the rectory anyway, which is across from the church.
I may be acting selfish and I understand that churches do have their rules, but she wasn't being accomodating at all. I will talk to my priest in more detail next week and get his take on what is appropriate to do. He is the one doing the ceremony not her nor the Deacon. So ultimately, he can make the final decision. The fact that I have to pay so much money to get married their, the 'donation' as they call it, irritates me as it is..

I am sorry you are going through this. For some reason, churches seem to have a lot of rules about weddings that almost make you NOT want to have a church wedding. You would think they would be happy that people want their marriage to be recognized in the eyes of God and maybe they would be more accomodating. I have seen this 'only-one-rehearsal-time' thing from my church too. My brother's rehearsal was at 6:30 on a Thursday because that was the time that they said it was. No choice.

If your priest isn't helpful in changing the day, the only thing I can suggest is to push it back a week and have the rehearsal on the Thursday a week before your wedding, rather then the day before. I have known a few people to do that and it worked well and it just extended the festivities. It was a nice build up to the wedding...

Good luck

I've never heard of BOTH paretns walking down the isle as a catholic traditon. I thought that was traditionally a Jewish custom, and now a modern custom people were adopting, but not the standard. My rehearsal is at 7. I think we are skipping the rehearsal dinner because of the timing.
How come your church is scheduling the rehersal around the priest's schedule if the deacon is the one who is going to be running it?

See Tourist--you get it. I am not one to follow my faith that much but I KNOW that I have never read, seen or heard of the father and mother walking the bride down the aisle. So I have no idea what planet this woman is on.

We have a meeting with the priest on Monday so I will square it away then. I was not a happy camper last night.

i am soooooo happy i don't have to deal with these things...

my pastors response to me is always 'it is your day, do what you want' and FH's jaw always drops as he remembers his good old altar boy days where that was NEVER the case...

just go with the flow. we were all shocked at my FSIL's rehearsal because the priest was rather abrupt and did not explain anything. the day of, he was a TOTALLY DIFFERENT person and his sermon was witty and wonderful...truly bizarre...

Maybe the deacon serves the preists dinner. . .

Churches are weird, when I was trying to find one that would marry out of towners soem said no and were shocked I was even asking, but then others were like, of course, why would anyone say no.
The Catholic church has SO many rules as it is, I don't understand how things can vary so much from one parish to another.

We were not really give the chioce of a ceremony or a mass- we're both Catholic, so to the preist, that means we must have a full mass.
Never mind that the groomsmen are both Jewish & no more than 10 people are going to receive communion.

I am so glad that I do not have to put up with this now that I have switched my priest. The catholic church has a stupendous amount of rules, including the 'donation'. Why is the woman telling you all that stuff anyway. who is she? You have meeting eith your priest so he can tell you what to expect

She is the Deacon's wife. I didn't get to speak with him. I understand if the church has rules. But the way she was coming across and to say some stupid remark after I said I am walking with my father alone... I hope she isn't at the rehearsal. I will not be happy!