i am crying...UPDATED AT BOTTOM

because my friend kim stinks!! after i talked to her about how noone's boyfriend was invited to my eparty, she proceeded to tell me how they are getting married soon (what...he hasn't even said i love you...) and he is the most wonderful thing to ever happen to her etc etc... AND to tell me how much I have changed, how I am not as much fun as i used to be and I am more conservative-

So I said, THANK YOU I am glad I am more mature than when I was 20...and I told her don't worry about coming to my party, that we will have dinner another time.

It just ***** that this is supposed to be about Evan and I and she is the ONLY ONE giving us trouble- I have pretty much decided that I can't deal with her unhealthy impact in my life right now...and I am sad.

I guess I have to realize that the most important thing right now is me and fh...

Thanks for letting me vent

aww sweetie. don't cry...a 'friend' like that is not worth your tears. this is about you and your FH...anyone that takes that away from you should not be in you celebration.

Enjoy your e-party and all of the wonderful days to come.

sorry sweetie- thats pretty silly of her to go nuts just because you didnt invite her bf to a party.
she sounds a little selfish to me. maybe she will change her mind.

you totally dont deserve this stress. maybe she is jealous.

either way, the party will be fine with or without her.

i hope you feel better!

I am sorry you have to go through this, Chloe. I think we have all come across friends we thought were good friends and then all of a sudden changed when we got engaged. Unfortunately there are events in our lives that let us know who our true friends are, and this is one of them. Just remember that you have many other friends who are happy and supportive of you, and you always have the girls at LIweddings!
Many hugs your way..

thanks girls

i guess it is almost like breaking up with a boyfriend- she has been my 'best friend' for 7 years but i have about had it with all her selfishness

this is my time to shine- NOT HERS

thats awful. she isn't very nice.

You have a lot going on and yes people do change through out the years, whether your involved or single. that goes with maturity. if she can't understand that that's her problem. and she shouldn't be giving u a problem about her boyfriend not be invited to your party. its your party, your guest list.

Sorry she made u so upset.

cheer up its hump day

Awww don't cry

I'm so sorry to hear this....She really is being immature about this and honestly if she is going to act this way, then maybe it's better that you find out now what kind of friend she has turned into...you wouldn't want all this drama around your wedding day. If she can't act mature about the situation and realize that the your party is about you and your FI, and not about her and her bf, then stay strong in the decision you made. If you invite him now, I think they will both act so immature at your party probably making stupid comments here and there....You don't need that.....Stay strong!!!

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Posted by Andreia



I'm so sorry to hear this....She really is being immature about this and honestly if she is going to act this way, then maybe it's better that you find out now what kind of friend she has turned into...you wouldn't want all this drama around your wedding day. If she can't act mature about the situation and realize that the your party is about you and your FI, and not about her and her bf, then stay strong in the decision you made. If you invite him now, I think they will both act so immature at your party probably making stupid comments here and there....You don't need that.....Stay strong!!!

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you are so right- they would probably show up late and be high or something

thanks all of you for helping me get through this...i feel like a baby but this is very hard

i am NOT into confrontation AT ALL

I feel so sorry for you!!! Perk up and put on a happy face!! Just think of how upset she'll be when she realizes that she's with a loser and how she's lost such a good friend in you. You're right, it's like breaking up with a bf, I went thru something similar recently. But you got thru that and you'll get thru this too!!! I know it hurts to lose a friend but you've gained all of us on LIW, we'll be your friends for the next 7 years and many more!!! This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, enjoy it to the fullest and don't let anyone ever let you down!!!

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I feel so sorry for you!!! Perk up and put on a happy face!! Just think of how upset she'll be when she realizes that she's with a loser and how she's lost such a good friend in you. You're right, it's like breaking up with a bf, I went thru something similar recently. But you got thru that and you'll get thru this too!!! I know it hurts to lose a friend but you've gained all of us on LIW, we'll be your friends for the next 7 years and many more!!! This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, enjoy it to the fullest and don't let anyone ever let you down!!!

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awww...thank you!!

she just sent me an email saying she was going to call me tonight to'put this misunderstanding between us'...great. FH works until 10 every night and took off early so we can go upstate and sign contracts...I am NOT letting her ruin the one weeknight I have with him!!!

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Posted by buggiegirl

thanks girls

i guess it is almost like breaking up with a boyfriend- she has been my 'best friend' for 7 years but i have about had it with all her selfishness

this is my time to shine- NOT HERS

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So sorry Chloe! But you are right... this is YOUR time to shine! I know it must hurt but try to enjoy yourself. On your special days, you should be surrounded with those who love you and are happy for you.

Im sorry this is happening to you right now If you and your FH have made a decision I say to stick with it. It just ***** that these thing always seem to happen around weddings

I'm sorry!! I wish i had something to say that would make you feel better othe rthan I'm so sorry you have to go through this!!

To me, it sounds like she is definitely jealous. She may have a great boyfriend and every thing but she's lacking some thing that you have and she's being very selfish about it. Definitely don't let her ruin your special day and make you cry. You are right, this is your time to shine and you should be enjoying all of these days...not crying. Hang in there and any time you need to vent, we are here. Good luck signing your contracts upstate and enjoy your time with your FH.

Marissa

dont cry over her shes not worth it. If she cant be happy for you than screw her! Just concentrate on the friends that are happy for you.

I do not post much and I do not want to offend anybody, but I must respectfully disagree. I am sorry you are going through and I know all this wedding stuff is a lot to handle, but I think your friend may have a right to feel the way she does. Perhaps she shouldn't have voiced it to you - but I can understand how she is feeling. Before I was engaged (towards the begininning of my relationship with FH) a friend of mine invited me to her wedding without a date. I had been dating FH for about 6 months and did not feel it was her place to judge how serious my relationship was. I understand it is a money issue and you should be the center of attention but I would not want my guests to feel uncomfortable. As much as a wedding is about the couple it is also about the guests who are there for you. Nobody likes to go to wedding stuff alone, especially of they have an SO. I did not go to my firends wedding - maybe it makes me a bad friend, but I did not want to feel like a singleton. Anyway, I am sorry this is so long - just my 2 cents. I hope I didn't offend.


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