So today I find out that my MOH's sister is doing her daughter's chirstening luncheon at my RH the Sunday before my wedding!!!!
I understand her schedualing issues, and that my RH is affordable (her husband gets shipped to Irak the week after my wedding, and she lives in virginia, while all her family lives in NY) she is taking my wedding as an opportunity to be in town and do her daughter's thing too.
HOWEVER...there are thousands of other places, Sugar Honey Ice Tea....host a freaken barbecue...or something...but why do it at my place!!!
Am I being unrealsitic...crazy...or am I right?!!
ZeppsGirl
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Did she definitely know it was the same place as your RH?
mls282
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No... I would be pissed too to be honest. It's ok to be angry... not sure if there is anything you can do about it though if its booked. I am surprised she didnt mention it first to see if you minded since the whole fam will be back there again in a week. yikes!
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She actually suggested I book at this place. She was one of the first people to hear about it, I knew she was thinking of doing the christening, but not at my RH!
I am furious! the only good thing is that only about 20 of my 85 guests are part of her family and will be going to the same event. I am sending my invites this weekend, so likely before her.
I will not be going to her daughter's thing, not only becuase I am mad as hell, but FH and I had planned to have a couples night out the Satuday before our wedding, and will likely be out of town for the entire weekend.
Thanks for letting me vent!
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Not sure what the big deal is. Its not like its your sister, or your MOH...its your MOH's sister. Do you own the RH? If it was available she had just as much right to book it for a christening as you did for your wedding. Sorry, to sound so harsh and not understanding, but really, I don't think you should sweat it.
kat124
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Maybe you're right, but I am very close to this family. I have been friends with my MOH since I was 12, I went to her sister's wedding (the one who booked) and I knew how important this day was to her. I know however that this one day will be all about me, regardless of what took place there a week before...
I will eventually get over it...for right now....still pissed!
Saram
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i would be upset..im mad that 2 people in my bridal party are going to a wedding in august at my place..lol
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Posted by Cacarina
Not sure what the big deal is. Its not like its your sister, or your MOH...its your MOH's sister. Do you own the RH? If it was available she had just as much right to book it for a christening as you did for your wedding. Sorry, to sound so harsh and not understanding, but really, I don't think you should sweat it.
I am going to have to agree I am reading your post I am saying to myself you do not own the hall. I can understand if she was having the christening the day before you wedding them maybe I would be annoyed but she is doing one week before. Christening setup and wedding setup is totally two different vibes. It is not going to take away from your special day. You should not let it get too you.
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I can understand where you're coming from. It takes away from the feel of your wedding, after people have already been there the week before.
However, will there be many people attending both events?
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I honestly don't think it's that big of a deal. I would be flattered that maybe she got the idea b/c I was using the same place. Maybe she trusts your taste and liked the place as well. I mean it IS the week before, I really don't think you should add this to your pile of stress.
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I dont think it is such a big deal, it's not like she booked it the same day as your wedding or anything so she definitely is not trying to take away from your day. i am sure there will be multiple guests that have been to that venue in the past. Just remember every one does their day different so everything will still be special on your day. Don't stress it. Sorry if this was a bit harsh it is JMO.
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I can understand how you would be upset-but her christening is probably during the day and everythign is probably going to be different.
To be honest-you shouldnt be upset-this is your MOHs sister....not your sister-really no relation to you, dont let it get you upset. A christening and a wedding are 2 totally different types of parties with totally different types of people.
bride2be8
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I would be annoyed as well!
goodfriendoflive
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Use the christening before your wedding as an opportunity to scope out everything for your special day o make sure that it is perfect for you. You do have the right to be upset -- look at the extenuating circumstances though...Just think of it as your wedding pregame show. Plus, at least at this party, you'll get to enjoy the food.
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I can understand being upset, but don't be mad at her....everyone knows that parents always want what's best for their children, esp on such an important day....besides, with all the additions, flowers, dj and you and you husband....it won't compare.
Don't let it bother you.....you will still have the time of your life on your special day and so will your guests!
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I get it.....you feel like it will make your wedding seem redundant, plus the food may be similar. I went to an awards dinner on Saturday and a wedding the next day, same caterer, same chicken with capers. I felt bad for the people...even thought only a few of us were at both.
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You have all the right to be upset I would. My cuz is coming to my wedding from out of state and is having her children's christening the next day at 8:00am. So her family will have to leave early the night before (my wedding) so they can get up in the morning. People just dont get it!
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i would be furious, unfortunately there's probably nothing you can do about it.
I wouldnt be upset...especially if she recommended the place to you....it may be good for you. If you have any issues at the Christening then they can be resolved before your wedding!
kat124
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thanks for understanding ladies. I slept on it and I think I will let it go. Right now there is not much I can do or want to do about it. Only about 20 of my guests will be at both events. As for the food, I am set on a menu and likely hers will be different becuase its an afternoon thing.
