I Am Mad! Am I Wrong?

leeserd Posted: Jul 15, 2009 08:47 AM

I Am Mad! Am I Wrong?

2 months until my wedding and my mother hasn't even ordered a dress!!!!!!!! WT*F?????? 6 months ago I did an incredible amount of research. I basically went to every MOB dress designer's website and emailed pics to my mom of like 50 dresses that I though she might like. She ignored me. I offered to go dress shopping with her. She didn't buy anything. She tried to place an order last Monday and on Friday the dress shop called her back and told her that the manufacturer said there was no way that they could get the dress on time. Now she is looking around for a new dress. I advised her that at this point she will probably not be able to get a dress at a bridal shop and will instead have to get something off the rack at Nordstroms. She says thats not true. I am so mad.

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 08:48 AM

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Posted by leeserd

2 months until my wedding and my mother hasn't even ordered a dress!!!!!!!! WT*F?????? 6 months ago I did an incredible amount of research. I basically went to every MOB dress designer's website and emailed pics to my mom of like 50 dresses that I though she might like. She ignored me. I offered to go dress shopping with her. She didn't buy anything. She tried to place an order last Monday and on Friday the dress shop called her back and told her that the manufacturer said there was no way that they could get the dress on time. Now she is looking around for a new dress. I advised her that at this point she will probably not be able to get a dress at a bridal shop and will instead have to get something off the rack at Nordstroms. She says thats not true. I am so mad.

what designer was it? I work at a dress shop and most designers have a 7 week rush...

MrsCM Posted: Jul 15, 2009 08:52 AM

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You can be irritated, yes. My mom kept refusing to go to a dress shop with me or look at dresses 'until she lost weight'. I am under the two month mark as well and she has no idea what she's wearing 'maybe just something I have in the closet' is what she's saying now and it's driving me bananas. You know, her only child is getting married and she can't be bothered to buy a dress, that hurts a little.

I feel your pain. Estelles had a lot of nice things off the rack. Much as I dislike that store I found some great stuff for my mom (who is plus sized) on their plus sized section, not marked MOB and beautiful.

Your mother sounds like mine which means she's only going to do things to her timeline. So maybe suggest somewhere like Estelle's and she'll go in her own time.

leeserd Posted: Jul 15, 2009 08:59 AM

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She likes the Mon Cheri Montage dresses and I do too. My mom is plus size as well which makes it more difficult because most of the samples are too small for her to be able to try on, so you can't even get a sense of what the dress would look like on her and it makes me nervous to order out of the catalog because your ordering something you have never seen in person. They make everything look great in the catelog and then you get it and it doesn't fit the way you thought it would and the color is not what you thought, you know. And oh of course, she wants a dress that magically makes a plus sized woman look like a size 2! Well, I do too but can we please be realistic here?

KittyGags Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:03 AM

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You're not wrong...but I found a great store when I went shopping with my mom...My mom is mini so as far as plus sizes go, I'm not sure, but you can call and ask:

Isles Fashions Inc
(516) 922-3030

1031 Oyster Bay Rd
East Norwich, NY 11732

The people that work there are AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!

MarjorieFrank Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:19 AM

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My friend recently went through this with her wedding and her FMIL and FSMIL. They waited until the last minute to buy a dress and then they bought them off-the-rack.

AngnShaun Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:21 AM

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I dont see the problem with off the rack.... but i would expect my mom to be a little more into looking for a dress for my wedding...

christine2010 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:51 AM

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i am dealing with this too with my mom & FMIL. they both want to loose weight before the wedding (neither of them need to) so they both refuse to go shopping. & my mom has to pick a dress first before FMIL will even consider looking. this is going to go on for months i can tell.

Tori2082 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:57 AM

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Sounds frustrating! I'm sure she can get something beautiful off the rack

geegee827 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:01 AM

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My mom is doing the same thing. It got so bad that I picked out and ordered 4 dresses for her from Bloomingdales. She's itty bitty so it makes a little bit easier. I just checked and they are scheduled to arrive at her house today. I will be going over there tonight for a fashion show!

las1 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:14 AM

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I can understand why you are frustrated. The bridal store that my mother ordered her dress said the dress needed to be ordered 5 months before the wedding. However, other places may have a rush policy where she can get a dress. My FMIL got her dress at Macy's it is really nice. Has she looked at any of the department stores?

little j Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:17 AM

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try davids bridal. my mom is plus and she saw a few decent ones there when she first started looking. they can do a quick turn-around too. and htey have a lot of color choices. its probably worth checking out...

hth

Mici n KC Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:18 AM

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What's wrong with buying a dress from Nordstroms? Who said it has to come from a bridal shop?

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:20 AM

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Id call around because to be honsest im not sure i see why getting the dress in time is so difficult..i have seen them get dresses in and ready in that amount of time! If she loves that dress call around and ask!

GinaZ Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:45 AM

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I don't think its a big deal- a lot of moms don't even want to wear a MOB dress. They would rather go to a dress tore or a department store and pick something out. Im sure she will find something beautiful and look great! Don't sweat it!

Ivansgirl Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:10 AM

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Try Estelles in farmingdale. There plus size section is huge and they have many MOB dresses.

nraboni Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:14 AM

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Also...Davids Bridal has a large plu size section of MOB gowns and you can buy them off the rack.

geegee827 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:26 AM

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Oh and also, at the bridal shops where my mom and I went (we went to 3 of them and she tried stuff on but didn't like anything) the cheapest dress she tried on was $550!

Bloomingdales, Nordstroms, Saks, Neiman Marcus - beautiful dresses - the most expensive one I ordered for her to try on was $388 because it was on sale!

deeva007 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:45 AM

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Posted by seawedding

I feel your pain. Estelles had a lot of nice things off the rack. Much as I dislike that store I found some great stuff for my mom (who is plus sized) on their plus sized section, not marked MOB and beautiful.

My mom got her dress at Estelle's too...off the rack and not even in the MOB section. She has a hard time finding a dress, that fits her body shape and this one worked. I wasnt crazy about it-- she said she would keep looking and she said she has but hasnt found anything better . I personally dont think she looked enough or in the right places and I was annoyed at first that she wasnt trying hard enough to find a 'wow' dress for her daughter's wedding. But at the end of the day it has to fit her style, her budget and her comfort. I realized that its just the way my mom is-- its more important for her for me to look great and the flowers to be beautiufl etc etc than for her hair make up and dress to be 'wow'. I have to love her for that-- it;s never about her (even when i wish it was). So anyway.. maybe take your mom's actions as more of modesty rather than a lack of interest in your wedding day =),