I am mad at fh about a conversation we had last night//

Went like this:

him: I'm going out w/ my friends (for the 5th time this week) wnat to come?

me: Sure!

Him: Actually, no girlfriends are going to be there.

Me: so why did you invite me?

Him: I thought you'd say no.

Uhm... W T F?

Id say 'Oh really, Im not your gf, Im your Fiancee'

That's real nice!! When does he make time for you???

I would be pissed

that's really rude!

actually, like never since the summer started. He said 'for 5 years it's been all about me and now he has catching up to do' he's actually pulled this on me before

him: 'I'm going swimming at my friends, want to come'

Me: 'sure'

him: You'll be the only girl ther, do you still want to go?

me: do you not want me to go?

him: not really, no one else is bring their g/f


He does this a lot... I think it's time we have a talk..

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Posted by esb980

actually, like never since the summer started. He said 'for 5 years it's been all about me and now he has catching up to do' he's actually pulled this on me before

him: 'I'm going swimming at my friends, want to come'

Me: 'sure'

him: You'll be the only girl ther, do you still want to go?

me: do you not want me to go?

him: not really, no one else is bring their g/f


He does this a lot... I think it's time we have a talk..

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I hope you don't take this the wrong way but your FH sounds like an a$$hole. Have you thought this marriage thing through. I am saying that because this is not the first time you made a post about being mad at FH. I wish you the best of luck

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Posted by esb980

He doesn't really seem to care.... I hate complaing about it to him because... I don't know it's weird. We actually aggreed that he's go out once a week and 3x a week he could go out and play hanball (for a hour at a time) and every once and a while WE could go out, but he's not doing it. I don't want to be like a control freak, but c'mon...

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Well you know its different if he goes out and does something recreational like play handball or basketball or whatever sometimes, and its different if he goes out just to hang out. My FH plays softball every Sunday during the summer and goes to the batting cages with his friends, or they throw around the football in front of the house, and Im fine with that bc I want him to have his fun and do what makes him happy (I even join the guys sometimes). But if he does this all the time, and you have talked to him about it and he doesnt seem to care, then yeah like Stephanie said...maybe you should consider re-thinking about marriage to someone who doesnt care about your feelings...dont you think you deserve respect and be heard?

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Posted by esb980

Yes, I know I complain about him A LOT. But only on these bards because I don't want to give my friends ammo. here's the thing.. he was much better until I started wedding planning, so I'm looking at it as... maybe he's just freaked out about getting married....

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my Fh went thru alittle 'engagement axienty'- but he never behaved like that

I am sure there is more to this story, but if he doesn't 'care' able how your feel- that is a bigger problem then you being left home alone

I think you need to talk to him, and I guess you can't talk to your friend b/c they don't like him or the way he treats you?

take this as a sign of things to come...how are you going to feel when he is leaving you home alone with the baby or while you are prego?

you deserve to be treated better then that, he should be ditching his freinds for you, not the other way around

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Posted by esb980

Yes, I know I complain about him A LOT. But only on these bards because I don't want to give my friends ammo. here's the thing.. he was much better until I started wedding planning, so I'm looking at it as... maybe he's just freaked out about getting married....

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I feel for you but honestly, I think you guys really need to sit down and talk before you take that 'big step'. I had a BF like your FH for like 5 years, we talked about marriage and then I realized that he wasn't the 'one'. Please FM me if you wanna talk.

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Posted by Beth1210

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Posted by esb980

Yes, I know I complain about him A LOT. But only on these bards because I don't want to give my friends ammo. here's the thing.. he was much better until I started wedding planning, so I'm looking at it as... maybe he's just freaked out about getting married....

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my Fh went thru alittle 'engagement axienty'- but he never behaved like that

I am sure there is more to this story, but if he doesn't 'care' able how your feel- that is a bigger problem then you being left home alone

I think you need to talk to him, and I guess you can't talk to your friend b/c they don't like him or the way he treats you?

take this as a sign of things to come...how are you going to feel when he is leaving you home alone with the baby or while you are prego?

you deserve to be treated better then that, he should be ditching his freinds for you, not the other way around

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Well said Beth...you always have a way of putting things into perspective

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Posted by esb980

Yes, I know I complain about him A LOT. But only on these bards because I don't want to give my friends ammo. here's the thing.. he was much better until I started wedding planning, so I'm looking at it as... maybe he's just freaked out about getting married....

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I think you need to think long and hard about marrying this guy. If you're worried about 'giving your friends ammo' I think you know deep down there's a problem... and obviously you're friends know there is a problem too. Maybe you could both go to pre-marriage counseling?

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Posted by Jennie0898

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Posted by esb980

Yes, I know I complain about him A LOT. But only on these bards because I don't want to give my friends ammo. here's the thing.. he was much better until I started wedding planning, so I'm looking at it as... maybe he's just freaked out about getting married....

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I think you need to think long and hard about marrying this guy. If you're worried about 'giving your friends ammo' I think you know deep down there's a problem... and obviously you're friends know there is a problem too. Maybe you could both go to pre-marriage counseling?

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I completely agree. 90% of your posts are complaints about your relationship or your FH. This doesn't seem to be the strongest relationship with open communication. I would suggest going to pre-marriage counseling as well.

Sounds like there are some serious issues giong on that you need to resolve before you get married. This isn't the first time you've vented, and if we are the ones you can talk to about it, rather than friends and family, that might be a signal that this isn't the right guy for you.

Also, I believe you mentioned in another post that your self esteem isn't where it should be. Are you settling????