FH and I got in to a hugeee fight, and i dont know whats going to happen, all because of his psycho mother... i truly despise my FMIL, and mind you im not really bitchy or anything, all i wanted was to be treated like im part of the family etc...i have a wonderful realtionship with my mom and i always hoped thats how it would be with my FMIL....fine i know sometimes peoples personalities clash... thats all well and i can be civilized and mature about it..keep a distance but yet still be respectful
but today we got in to a huge fight over something his mom said/did and FH finally came out and said:wellll you and I both know that you werent my mom's top pick ...
ummm all along he's been sugar coating and saying... whats their not to like about you sara, your perfect ...
what the hell yea OKAY maybe im not, maybe she needed a real B*tch as her daughter in law and than she'd realize but cant she just suck it up and be happy for her son?
i dont even know what to do.... [
FutureMrsBeck
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whoa, i can't believe he said that! wow....
FullersBride
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wellll you and I both know that you werent my mom's top pick ...
That comment is totally unfair You need to sit down with your Fh and find out what is going on. He is marrying YOU not his mother and he needs to support you. He needds to realize that in order for the marriage to work he needds to back you up when his mom gets nasty.
Please see if you can talk to him and straighten this situation out before you get married. You need a man that is going to support you and let you know that you were HIS top pick!!! Who cares about his mom!!
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I'm so sorry
The bottom line is that you love your FH, and he loves you, and he should really just worry about how HE feels towards you - not how his Mom feels.
Hope things get better soon.
luvabul
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argh, no hes a 'momma's boy' .... hes one of those that sticks up for his mom even if she was gona rob a bank
LyseeH
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whether or not you were her top pick, its not her to decide whos hes marrying. I would also have been very mad at the comment!
I hope you told him what you said was very un called for! He should appoligize!
I hope things get better for you!
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oh no!!! What a b****!!!!! It is the worst when a FMIL is the reason that you and FH have fights because they have so much of an influence on the relationship and they just never go away, your are permantly stuck with them! All you can do is try to tal it out with your FH and make him realize that you both should NOT fight b/c of his mom otherwise you both will never be happy and it wont work!
luvabul
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its probably her dream come true that me and FH end it.... but dont worry im NEVERRRRR going to give her that satisfaction
milana
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its probably her dream come true that me and FH end it.... but dont worry im NEVERRRRR going to give her that satisfaction
exactly! good girl!
KRISTYRUSSELL
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SORRY TO LEARN OF THIS, HANG IN THERE KIDDO.......
faithandkevin
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Oh honey that's terrible!! That's so hurtful- even if that is the truth, he never should have said that! He was probably just frustrated b/c he sees his mom treating you terribly and he doesn't know how to speak up- he needs to learn. He probably feels caught in the middle.
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what is with sons and their mothers? my friends tell me i should write a book because every time i think his parents have hit a new low, they always seem to top it with something better next time. we've gotten into HUGE fights where one or the other has left the apartment for hours at a time and it's ALWAYS over his parents and how much i despise them. can you make in another 88 days and then just cut her off? does he like his mother? at least my FH knows his parents s*ck, but he still always defends them. it annoys the living crap out of me.
chatxleau24
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your FH just said something really dumb. Maybe he just needs some space to realize what an a$$ he was.
Soon2bMrsI
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ouch!!!
AMJA
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omg I would be furious at that comment,. He def needs to apologize to you, and let him know how hurtful that was. And he's marrying YOU not his mother!!! Hope it works out..I'm sure it will
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its probably her dream come true that me and FH end it.... but dont worry im NEVERRRRR going to give her that satisfaction
you go girl. that was totally uncalled for. i am lucky girl from what i see on these boards i don;t have a fmil she passed away. but what i understand from everyone in the family who i get along with great , that she was a B***h of a woman and i wouldn't of gotten along with her no-one did.
but anyway i am sorry your going through this . if you need to vent you can fm me if you like.
luvabul
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yeah he likes his mom, he knows shes a pyscho but defends her to the fullest
i think i just will SHUT UP until the 87 days left... we have a beautiful realationship its just when she comes in to it, everything goes haywire
lilone9
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EEEKKK! oh i'm sorry honey, hope things work out
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your FH just said something really dumb. Maybe he just needs some space to realize what an a$$ he was.
Bingo. I just told my FW if I ever say something that dumb,
a) it's not true, and b) she should smack me.
when she replied, 'i don't hit people' I told her to call my best man and have him hit me.
That's really dumb. My guess is he's frustrated at being in the middle and let that get the best of him. Not that that excuses it. Cripes, talk about inappropriate. Why didn't he give a nice paper cut and pour lemon juice on it?
-the stealth groom (translating the language of guy for the ladies of liweddings since 10/06)
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FH finally came out and said:wellll you and I both know that you werent my mom's top pick ...
Yeah, well, guess what? His mom doesn't GET to pick. Or shouldn't. It shouldn't even be an issue. Who asks their mom whom they should marry? You've got to be f-ing kidding me. His mom needs to learn her place, which is as the mother of an adult man, not as someone who runs the life of a little boy..
