I am sick over the bachelor party...

blissbride Posted: Sep 04, 2003 05:49 PM

I am sick over the bachelor party...

I adore my FI. I have been very cool up to this point regarding the bachelor party.
His friends are really dumb and have absolutely no regard for the fact that he's getting married. They consider this his BIG night out and I'm afraid they're taking it a little too far. I think they're planning something beyond the normal bachelor party and feel that this will replicate the movie Bachelor Party.
I am really worried about this and I have tried to talk to him. I just want to know what your feelings are regarding your FI's bachelor party.

jags77 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 05:57 PM

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some of fi's friends are like that too. they think it's all just a big game. but fortunately for me fi has told them no strippers or anything like that. so they are going to a steak dinner and then to bars.

i hate bachelor parties after seeing 'very bad things'- i didn't even see the entire movie bc it made me sick.

nj42305 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 05:58 PM

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Bliss Bride,
You are so not alone...I go through the same stuff regarding the bachelor party...I too try to be so cool and understanding about it but when I think of it, it turns my stomach. What can we do?? Nothing...just try not to focus on it too much

Sunny Posted: Sep 04, 2003 05:59 PM

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I hate the whole stripper thing too, but will be will be. I trust him.

He is really looking foward to it- I know for him it is more about getting all his friends together and I know how happy that makes him, so I am excited for him. They are going to foxwoods and staying overnight.

sept20yay! Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:00 PM

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it depends on what this bachelor party looks like.... strippers are the norm and I would say guys are just being guys. But if it's more, I might say something....
I never cared at all the night of his bachelor party. I thought it was his last night out and I trust him and his brother- figured the desire was there for him to see fi and I married and happy. I did get surprisingly jealous the next morning though when he came home- I think I was more jealous than anything.

sept20yay! Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:01 PM

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Its funny.... Your fi's friends are into the strippers and stuff, but trust me your fi is more into just seeing his friends together for him. He would rather spend the night relaxing with you. Mine did.

jenny2penny Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:02 PM

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I used to be worried, not so much as my FH, but the guys, and how they can be pushy for groom to do stuff. I don't like the idea of my FH getting fur muffs, or any of the other sleezy stuff those girls do.

Without me even saying anything, my FH wants to do a joint B-party. I brought up the idea of renting a house on fire island for the weekend. He loved it, I hope the BP loves it too!!!

MrsTC Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:03 PM

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don't you trust your FH

I totally can see where your anxiety is coming from, but I am sure it will be fine. Talk to your FH and let him know how you feel about it.

wowlifeisgood Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:03 PM

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oh my gosh very bad things was very bad....LOL

I think it really depends on what you are comfortable with. I think the idea of having hookers at a bachleor party is insane my fi told a story about a party he went to a few years ago in vegas and lets just say as far as he knew these women were just short of being hookers he told me some insane stories.

And I told him (my fi) that I think that insane. I am confident in our relationship so for me (and this is personal to just me) I don't care about strippers let him have a little fun I DON'T WANT MORE THAN THAT THOUGH like other dirty things (which he wouldn't do anyway).

That night for both gals and guys is supposed to be fun and perhaps a little risque not full on live porn if youget my drift...LOL

so back to first paragraph you got to figure out what you are comfortable with and WHAT YOU WOULD NEVER EVER WANT HIM TO DO. and you have every right to express that to him.. hell your getting married... It's out of respect that he should listen and follow it... His friends are another story.....aren't they all.

were here if you need more advice but those are my two cents

P.S. what r fur muffs? ok now im worried...LOL

jenny2penny Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:12 PM

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Use your imagination. My FH said his friend got a pair. (2 girls on either side of him) EWE

wowlifeisgood Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:14 PM

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EWWWWW

goldilocks Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:21 PM

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Jenny! So gross!!
FH and I have had countless 'discussions' about these events as during our dating, several of his friends have gotten married. Many tears and sleepless nights!
I can't control what his friends wives/FI's allow, but he has promised that there will be no (female) nudity at his bach. party. Some of his friends have been known to strip....
He has requested this to his bro/BM and I trust him. You can't help that little pit of anxiety though!!!
If your FH knows how much it upsets you, he should be able to respect your comfort level.
What I'm worried about is the rest of his pals bach. parties......
I feel your uneasiness.

danigirl0 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:23 PM

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i dont think any of us want to think about nude girls near are guys, but all in all...they asked us to marry them. they made that huge commitment and i think we all have nothing to worry about. whether there are strippers around or not, your man will do what he is ok with. dont worry everyone!

themaninblack Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:25 PM

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C'mon grooms, now's our chance to participate. Or are you Chicken?!

If it makes you feel any better, my recollection of Bachelor Party is that despite the bacchanalian debauchery--fer chrissake, a donkey!?--our man Tom (Hanks) remained quite faithful.

jeannad67 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:26 PM

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I was really bad before my DH's party and am equally as bad as each of his friends has them. My DH's friends are awful. They all do awful things at these parties. I have to trust that he doesnt. but i still hate it!

goldilocks Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:28 PM

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Tom Hanks did, yes, but the aforementioned Very Bad Things was quite a different story....
I think most of us KNOW our honey's won't be b*nging hookers in a bathroom, but the ta-ta's in the face idea is still disturbing.
If our parties were anything like men's they would be the ones writing in for support!!
The stories I've heard....

Maribelle7777 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 06:38 PM

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I told my FH 'no hookers'. That's only because at some bach party he went to (he didn't plan it) there was a hooker. Ick. Even the guest of honor was grossed out by her a bit I think. He didn't do anything with her. I know FH would NEVER..not even if he and I weren't together..he wouldn't do that. I don't know if I can get his friends not to go to a strip club, but I know he wouldn't get into that sort of thing. Pretty much all his friends are married now and while they like to go out to pubs and have a few (and sometimes more than a few) I know he woudln't do anything like that. If his friends want to see strippers, whatever. If they want to touch strippers, hey, that's their perogative. Doubt any will let them touch them anyway.

I'm hoping that they'll have it before alot of his friends from Ireland come over for the wedding. I really don't want it too close to the wedding. If his dad comes at the same time, they won't since his dad doesn't drink and wouldn't approve of going to a strip club. Hee. If it's before the guests fly in, then I know the 2 guys that would plan it and I know their wives so if they do anything I am not happy about....they'll be hearing it But I don't think I have alot to worry about. I'm more worried about him crossing a street drunk and being hit by a car or somthing like that (well i don't worry about that all the time but i'm more worried over that than the party itself!)

shannon326 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 07:05 PM

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My FI is going to VEGAS!! for 6 nights!! I hate it but I trust him. It is all the stories you hear about these parties that make you sick.

blissbride Posted: Sep 04, 2003 07:20 PM

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I do trust my FI, but he has a hard time saying no to anyone. He always wants to please the crowd. He could be exhausted, he'll still stay at the party. He could be really drunk, but if you offer him that last shot, he'll do it.... He doesn't like to disappoint people.
However, it's his friends I don't trust. They're being very secvretive, but at the same time, I'm hearing about the strippers (yes, that's plural) and the hotel suite. Not to mention, they did not want to invite my brother or my sister's husband. This does not make me feel good.

jw11897 Posted: Sep 04, 2003 08:24 PM

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All I know is that I want to have my bachelorette party the same night as his bachelor party so that I don't have to sit at home and wonder about what he is doing.