I am so confused... Please help.

CL122705 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:23 PM

I am so confused... Please help.

I am so confused I dont know what to do first. I am not sure if I have to go to the Church first or the hall?

I register the church yesterday I cant pick a date until 6 months.

Now I am looking for halls.

angel77 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:31 PM

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I think that you and FH should definitely start looking into some halls that you like.You are planning on getting married in Nov '07??? I think that once you narrow down your search and it gets closer to the date that you can book your ceremony then you go back to the hall that you want to book and ask them to hold it for you for a few days. Most halls will do that for you.

CL122705 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:32 PM

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well I am not sure when I am getting married yet.

DA77 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:34 PM

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Go to the halls you like first and see what's available. More people vie for halls then churches, so you have a good chance of getting the church on the date the hall is available.

Sweets14 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:39 PM

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Find a hall first. Places book up real quick.

babybug631 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:40 PM

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I booked the church before the hall. The church was more booked than my hall was.

LBride Posted: Jan 12, 2006 11:08 PM

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Tell the Church you're coming to them first, even if you're not.

CL122705 Posted: Jan 13, 2006 09:34 AM

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okay thanks

SPITSBRIDE Posted: Jan 13, 2006 09:40 AM

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Laura, isn't this church your parish? If so why aren't you registered there?...Your family should be because your mom goes there every Sunday.

chellynyc Posted: Jan 13, 2006 09:42 AM

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Your getting married a couple of weeks after me and I booked my hall first and then the church. I booked both in Nov. 2005 and we were the first marriage in 2007 for the church.

werock0709 Posted: Jan 13, 2006 09:47 AM

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I booked Church first. Believe it or not, for May my church already had 4 dates for 07. Luckily I booked it when I did, and we got the date we wanted. What if you book the hall first, and the date isn't available at your church? That would suck!!! And i would hate to be married in a church I've never been to.

ETAB Posted: Jan 13, 2006 09:51 AM

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I actually lied to a priest yesterday about this. I booked the hall first and then went to call the church and it was booked for the time that I wanted.... and the priest says- well, when you book the hall you can see if you can get an earlier cocktail hour- you did not book the hall yet, did you?

and i said 'No'.... LOL.. that was bad, right?

carlsbride Posted: Jan 13, 2006 10:07 AM

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You should book the church first, that is the whole point of your wedding day right?

agailunas Posted: Jan 13, 2006 01:22 PM

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I looked at halls first, found out what dates were open and then went to my church with options. I found that on LI the places I liked were booked 1+ year out and I didn't want to limit my choices.

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 13, 2006 01:25 PM

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Posted by carlsbride

You should book the church first, that is the whole point of your wedding day right? Churches do not like to hear that you booked your reception place first. If you do end up booking your hall first-don't lie about it-you shouldn't lie in general and definitely not to a priest.

I agree. It should be Church first. If for whatever reason you book a hall and need the date on the Church, tell the priest. I agree about not lying. This person will marry you, be honest.

MattandTricia07 Posted: Jan 13, 2006 01:37 PM

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I would definitely book the church first. You can start to look at reception halls and if you really see one you REALLY want, then ask them if they could hold the date or to call you if anyone else is interested. It's worth a shot. I think in general though, they prefer you to book the church first.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Jan 13, 2006 01:41 PM

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I booked the hall first and then the church, but i didn't tell my church.

conigs25 Posted: Jan 13, 2006 01:46 PM

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IMO, you should pick your hall. Unless you have your heart set on that chrch, you can get another church or get married at your hall. But if you fall in love w/ a hall and then its booked, youll be really disappointed