I wanted to invite one of my mothers friends to the wedding, but my mom said no, becaseu she wasn't invited to any of her kids weddings, and felt like we would be asking for a gift. So I gave in, even though I have none this lady for several years, but I still felt bad for not inviting her.
SO with my wedding in 9 days, we get a card and a $100 check in the mail today from my mom's friend.
I feel bad that she is giving me a gift, and I didn't even have the decency to invite her.
I told my mom, and she was like, call her and act like we sent her an invitation, and it must ahve gotten lost in the mail.
I told her she can if she wants, but I can't do it, since i already wnated to invite her!!!
LImom
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Yes, someone do it - either you or your mom! Personally, I wouldn't stand on principle here. You will feel badly every single time you see her. Tell her you didn't realize she never responded to your invitation until you were making out the seating arrangements and say, 'Gee, I can't believe you never received it.' You still have time.
Good luck. Let us know how this works out.
P.S. I wouldn't have trusted my mother to do this. She couldn't lie well and would have messed things up worse. LOL!
Michelle...this kind of happened to me...someone my mom works with (but not in my mom's 'group') is very good friends with my BMs parents (who were invited to the wedding)
she came to my moms office to give me a gift (and we contemplated inviting or not) so my mom said, that we had a few more no responses and would love if you were able to come....
your mom can BS something like they are trying to keep it small, but would love to have you there...
John's aunt also invited someone 2 weeks before...same way...its not a big deal...
shelzyp
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My mom feels wierd doing it, since i called her and told her she had to call and invite her, since I wanted to anyway, so we will see what happens.
allure
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Invite her
aliciahelene
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Id call her and play dumb as if the invite got lost in the mail..that wsa a great idea!!!
Jen_n_Dale
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Hey I have been in situations where I was invited the day of the wedding. Every one loves a wedding. I would just tell her thank you for her generous gift and it would mean so much to her if she could come to your wedding. Although the whole lost invite sounds good I think just not mentioning it and just invite her.
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Just call her and say, 'Thank you for the generous gift. Oh, and we never received your response card, we were wondering if you were planning on attending?'
Eh, if she's smart, then don't lie at all, just invite her.
nrvbrd
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Invite her.
neesiepie
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PRNCSSRACHEL'S suggestion was the best......just say you didnt get the response card and you want to know if she is coming or not....
LImom
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Shelzyp, it's funny how some threads stay with you. I've been thinking of yours since I first responded. I think Yabbobay had the best suggestion.
Call, thank her profusely for the generous gift that was not necessary, and add that you wanted to keep your wedding under a certain number and now have some who aren't coming. You would be deeply touched if she can come, or at least be in church to see you married. I would not get offended at all by such a call.
You are on my mind. This could happen to anyone. Good luck.
PS We have a family we are very close to who have three sons. I told my daughter initially we wont' invite them. If we see more no responses than expected, I will make exactly that phone call and ask them to bring the boys. Thanks Yabbobay. You helped us out too.
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definitely invite her if you want to - you don't want to have any regrets....its not a lie, just an eageeration - you did want to invite her initially, how is she to know she was off the list???
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I agree with the ladies. Call to thank her and extend the invite. I feel sorry for your situation. Unfortunately with weddings, there are a lot of awkward situations. Do whatever makes you comfortable. Remember you don't need added stress! I think you will feel better once you made the call!
