I am so hurt and angry right now . . . (repost from BHB)

Original post by BriBri529

Jan 18, 2005 07:52 PM

I just had a huge fight with my parents over the size of my bridal party. Yes it is large, but everyone, even all of the kids are important to FH and I and we wanted them in it. Yes, there are a few that we could have gone without asking in retrospect, but it is too late now. EVERYTHING is always NEGATIVE. Nothing about this wedding is ever discussed in a positive light, it's always treated like it is a HUGE inconvenience. Now my parents have never given me a hard time about contributing $$, but emotionally they have been to lunch! 'I can't belive you are doing this, I can't believe you are doing that. People are going to think this and say that.' I am so hurt and upset. As close as I am to my parents they have just not been able to get this whole wedding thing and they are really making it difficult on me and making me feel rotten about my decisions. I guess I am being 'selfish' . . . Is this not mine and FH day? Is it everybody else's? I am on the verge of tears and there is nothing I can do. I never expected that what is supposed to be one of the happiest days in my life to bring misery to so many people (including myself.)

jimmysgrl Posted: Jan 19, 2005 01:43 PM

Re: I am so hurt and angry right now . . . (repost from BHB)

I am so sorry, how wonderful you have such a supportive FH and I guess thats what it comes down to. You are creating a new life/ family with this wonderful man and you're right, your parents don't have a clue what you are going through because they are in this completely different generation of wedding planning. YOu do whats right for you because for the rest of your life, you can look back on pictures and say, that you had everything done just the way you wanted it and that it was literally the best day of your life. You always have us to lean on if you ever need anything!

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 19, 2005 03:18 PM

Re: I am so hurt and angry right now . . . (repost from BHB)

Posted by OSCARtheGROOM

Baby don't worry about it. I have agreed with you on all the decisions we have made together when it comes to our wedding.(even though we made one bad one ) Don't let this get to you. We are all under alot of stress right now. Just let it be. Look at what I've been going through with my health, and other personal matters. Its been a rocky road at times. But we have gotten through all that. I love you with all my heart and soul.
Love always,
Your Oscar

OMG! That alone is enough...sorry you're going through a rough time with your family (why do they act like A S S E S around wedding time) but thank God you have such a loving man in your life. You are blessed and loved...feel better and *try* not to let it upset you too much!

BriBri529 Posted: Jan 19, 2005 04:13 PM

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Thank you all for your kind works! All of you have really helped me to put things into perspective. I am extremely lucky to have Brian! He is amazing! I love him more than anything!

JPC1125 Posted: Jan 19, 2005 05:47 PM

Re: I am so hurt and angry right now . . . (repost from BHB)

as you should...cause a guy that supports you when youre having wedding meltdowns is priceless...believe me--I KNOW!!!

Sweet Pea Posted: Jan 19, 2005 05:54 PM

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angelbear217 Posted: Jan 19, 2005 05:56 PM

Re: I am so hurt and angry right now . . . (repost from BHB)

With a wedding you get a lot of crap. I know it is hard but you need to focus on the positive and from what I just read you are marrying quite a guy who loves you very much. Just remember it about the two of you and no one else. Hang in there!

micmar Posted: Jan 20, 2005 08:20 PM

Re: I am so hurt and angry right now . . . (repost from BHB)

what a great hubby to be!! sorry your parents are not supportive. this is your day & do whatever makes you happy. someone is always going to disagree w/ what you do, but they will get over it!!

Princess047 Posted: Jan 20, 2005 08:45 PM

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I'm so sorry sweatie - I totally understand. My mom also sees things in a very negative way alot of the times, and it hurts so bad. You want this day to be perfect and can't believe all the pain your going through -right? My whole wedding experience has been negative to some people really close to me also and it has hurt but sometimes things get better and it seems ok again, then something else happens and we are back to square one. It sucks but ultimately the decisions are between you and FH. You can't make everyone happy. Things will work out and everyone will be happy at the end - at least lets hope. lol but cheer up