I am so HURT and so ANGRY right now!

I just had a huge fight with my parents over the size of my bridal party. Yes it is large, but everyone, even all of the kids are important to FH and I and we wanted them in it. Yes, there are a few that we could have gone without asking in retrospect, but it is too late now. EVERYTHING is always NEGATIVE. Nothing about this wedding is ever discussed in a positive light, it's always treated like it is a HUGE inconvenience. Now my parents have never given me a hard time about contributing $$, but emotionally they have been to lunch! 'I can't belive you are doing this, I can't believe you are doing that. People are going to think this and say that.' I am so hurt and upset. As close as I am to my parents they have just not been able to get this whole wedding thing and they are really making it difficult on me and making me feel rotten about my decisions. I guess I am being 'selfish' . . . Is this not mine and FH day? Is it everybody else's? I am on the verge of tears and there is nothing I can do. I never expected that what is supposed to be one of the happiest days in my life to bring misery to so many people (including myself.)