One of my Bridesmaids told me three weeks ago that she was pregnant. I was so excited for her at the same time so mad because she told everyone at my shower, but whatever. So I waited about a week to call her and ask her if she would have to exchange her dress or not because her dress currently fits her like a glove. So I called Davids Bridal and they said no problem. They did say thought that is was a popular dress and didn't recommend her waiting. Everyday that she waits was one more day before it would come in. So as of two weeks ago the estimated date was Oct 2 (which is 3 weeks before my wedding). I let her know this and she says she will take care of it.
So I waited another week to give her time and when I asked her if she ordered the new size she says No not yet, why? So I explained to her that they recommended her to go ASAP. We were talking through text message and she never responded. So I waited another week giving her the benefit of the doubt. I leave her a message she never responds.
So I called her again today and she responds the she is on it. I said, you went and ordered a new dress? No response about an hour or so later she calls and tells me that she is 8 weeks pregnant her health and baby are more important at this point than my wedding and its just a dress and to get over it. That she got married last year and she is not stupid and She will take care of it when she has time. I explained to her that I understood her situation and that if she would communicate with me then maybe I would not have asked her so many times. She started screaming at me that I am not her mother and she doesn't have to tell me anything. That it is f***** dress and that she understands that it is my day, but I am stressing her and her baby about a dress and to get over it.
I don't know what to do. I feel so hurt that she would talk to me that way and make me feel guilty about my wedding. I have not asked anyone in my BP to do anything regarding this wedding other than the usual get a dress, shoes and your hair done. I am just so sad. Am I over reacting? what should I do?
Sorry so long- vent over
dplehat
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I am sorry she treated you like that. Pregnant or not she was wrong. I am pregnant now and know all about the hormones. I am high risk and the first trimester was very stressful but even with the hormones you know better then to take it out on people. I was in a wedding in August and was 18 weeks for it. My dress had to be ordered 2 sizes bigger to accomodate my belly and gigantic boobs since it was fitted through the middle area. I know it will be upsetting if she can't be in it at the last minute but you have done all you can do. If her dress doesn't fit she will have to sit in the stands like the rest of the spectators.
carolinebr
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Posted by carolinep24
as someone who has BEEN pregnant... hormones can be a b*tch...
HOWEVER... F*ck her. hormones or not, she should NOT make your wedding any less a priority.. she should KNOW how important your wedding is to you sinces *SHES BEEN MARRIED*
put it this way, let her be... if she doesnt get the dress sorted in time, GUESS WHAT... youre not in the BP anymore.
Agree 100%
jenn122397
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holy hormones! i would be pretty upset! i think maybe i would ask her if it was too stressful with her pregnancy then maybe she shouldnt be in the BP - i kno its not the best answer but maybe that could avoid alot of aggravation between the two of you
Trishthedish
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She sounds like a friend of mine who I've been friends with for 20 years and not that I included her in my bridal party b/c she was moving to Florida. She has become pregnant and made everything about her. One day I said an opinion and now she isn't speaking to me anymore. This was 2 months ago. This girl was a bridezilla for her wedding and was so nasty to me during the whole process. Now that she's preg it has to be all about her and she was getting mad at me b/c I did not make her pregnancy all about her meanwhile I was trying to plan my wedding.
just chalk it up to her being a babyzilla. That's what I am doing. I am sorry you have this girl in your bridal party and I hope you 2 can work things out without hurting the friendship like we did.
Good luck.
P.S., I think you've been very patient and calm about the sitiatuon. I think she just needs to have the spotlight b/c it sounds like she's that kind of person.
