I got a temp job working with my mom and she talks to alot of ppl in the hosp so someone told my mom about a apartment which happens to be on my moms block also but thats not the big problem...The price I think is great because one bedrooms not going through an agent in the areas I live now it hard to find...This apartment is in the range we could afford to pay and isnt a basement apartment like what it would be looking through like craigslist list....It is even cheaper then what my moms pay for her apartment five hosse down. While whatever I am upset right now becuase the only reason why FH doesnt wanna take it is becuase of parking...He is lazy doesnt want to haveto drive around the block if anything to park the car. I mean that is a stupid reason to not want the apartment...I want to cry I dont feel like he is happy with anything with the wedding or anything....I dont know what he thinks we are going to find that has a good price close to a bus for me to get places since we have one car and he takes the car to work we know it is in a good neighborhood. Nice size for a starter.....I mean PARKING thats why you dont wanna take it....
I am soo upset nuttin makes him happy if it was up to him he would livein his house becuase he has a parking spot.....
He doesnt want to listen to anything I have to say
bostonbrideinLongisland
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oh thats horrible! he should at least give it a shot and look at the place.
trust me my FH can be the same way about things. very stubborn and stuck in his ways. hahhaaha. when we first moved in together it was torture trying to get him to compromise on things. and very lazy with things! he thinks you can plan a wedding in 2 months. no lie, everything is last minute with him. after i while it just all falls into place. hahah maybe i wore him down. i don't know.
but good luck. maybe you can persuade him to just view the apt? and then who knows he may end up really liking it..
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Thats the thing we did look at it today....And it was fine....But the whole parking....AND OMG our FH are the same if I had to wirte him up I could say the same things about him that you wrote....
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To be honest, I'm not sure I disagree with your FH.
FH and I used to live in an apartment in someone's house (2nd floor). The only parking we got was on the street, which wasn't a problem. The problem came however, when everyone else on that same block was also renting out their top floors or basements and EVERYONE was parking on the street. There were days that FH and I had to park two blocks down or around the block. And let me tell you, that S*CKS in the winter or when you're bringing home groceries.
I'd still go check it out if you could, but I can tell you from experience that not having designated parking is truly a major inconvenience. You don't think about it at first, but it really is.
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Yea but where we live which is in the same nighborhood I mean I cn walk to his parents house and my mom live on the same block it is hard to park for anyone....He went to check the place out it fine to him just he parking ....It is not like always no parking it depends on the time of day like at night when ppl are home from work if you get home late.....But I dni understand what he wants to do about parking we can get a house or anything like that...I mean if we live far into the nighborhood I would have to walk further to a bus.....This to me is great the price the spot the street everything so what if you have to sometime when you come home late have tp pakr around the corner
I am sorry if I am being bitchy...
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if he gets the car you should get final choice on this...
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Is there a place where he can rent parking near by? Hound him for it lol. I live in the Riverdale in the bronx and don't have a parking space. Its really not that bad.
bostonbrideinLongisland
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does your mother have a parking spot? can he park in front of her house at times?
what does the landlord say about the parking situation?
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That was a issue about our apt...sometimes we find a spot, sometimes we don't....if the pros outweigh the cons than you should get it....
Sorry he's being inflexible
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Are you 100% sure that his real issue is the whole parking thing? There have been times in my life where I didn't like something for a good reason but made up a fake reason bc the real issue might hurt someone's feelings and a bit too personal. Do you think that by any chance his real issue is living on the same block as your mom? Maybe a bit too close for comfort? Not saying he has anything against her but a lot of ppl prefer a bit more privacy and just a bit further away from parents.
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Espo22 exaclty what I was going to say! You can love your in laws or even your own family but that might just be too close for comfort. =/ And that doesnt mean he doesnt love your mom, but maybe he thinks she'll be over a lot and unannounced or clocking your guys moves or something. And maybe he doesnt want to hurt your feelings.
I mean I can honestly say I do see his point about parking as well but that cant be the ONLY reason. I used to live in a neighborhood where there was no parking. I mean it got to a point where I didnt move my car and I didnt. I mean do you know how aggravating it is to get home at 9pm or just have to run out for an hour or EVEN 20 minutes and there are NO spots when you get back. NONE. Not 2 blocks away, but 5? To have to sit outside your own apartment and wait 30 min or more until someone pulls out? THATS how my old place used to be and Ive since moved. Now I have a garage... =)))
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I would make an appointment to go see the apartment anyway. Drag him along (tell him it doesn't hurt to check the place out) or take pics. Maybe he'll change his mind when he sees it. And if he doesn't it's not the only apartment in the world, you'll find something else!
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Posted by Espo22
Are you 100% sure that his real issue is the whole parking thing? There have been times in my life where I didn't like something for a good reason but made up a fake reason bc the real issue might hurt someone's feelings and a bit too personal. Do you think that by any chance his real issue is living on the same block as your mom? Maybe a bit too close for comfort? Not saying he has anything against her but a lot of ppl prefer a bit more privacy and just a bit further away from parents.
DITTOOOO!!!! I always tell my FH that when we get married i want to move away from both families and just be ourselves wtihout anyone intervining.... It can be that he wants privacy...you should talk to him. But if it's just for parking then hmmmm i dont know what to tell you cause that seems to be like an ok excuse but not really a great one. I sorta understand with the parking though so u really need to sit him down and talk it out. GOOD LUCK
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There is give and take to everything. If the place is affordable with limited parking,oh well! I'm sure you can find a place to live with better parking..........but than the rent may be higer thus making it harder to save for a home. Or the parking is good & the landlord is an a-$$oh!#e. If parking is the only negative at this place, I think he should suck it up & stop being so lazy! After all, is this a place you plan on staying at the rest of your life? We rented an apartment for 4 years & did what we had to prior to buying our house. It was a pain in the arse for those 4 years...........now we are very happy.
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Yea but where we live which is in the same nighborhood I mean I cn walk to his parents house and my mom live on the same block it is hard to park for anyone....He went to check the place out it fine to him just he parking ....It is not like always no parking it depends on the time of day like at night when ppl are home from work if you get home late.....But I dni understand what he wants to do about parking we can get a house or anything like that...I mean if we live far into the nighborhood I would have to walk further to a bus.....This to me is great the price the spot the street everything so what if you have to sometime when you come home late have tp pakr around the corner
I am sorry if I am being bitchy...
Men can be so stubborn. If I were you, I would say, this whole apartment search is very frustruating. I have made more than enough effort on my part and my suggestions are not meeting up with your expectations...so maybe YOU should look into some other options. Once he sees how difficult it can be to find the 'perfect' place maybe he will be willing to compromise.
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At first he did say the whole mom thing but we went ot check it out becuase he is the one thats wants to live in this neighborhood (which is close to both parents)...I know that it is close to my mom but would around the caroner be beter for him?? he wants to move to a block that is less crowded so there is more parking but then I get the **** out of luck becuase then it maybe a inconvience for me becuase of the whole bus thing.... I live in BK and if anyone know the neighborhood bergen beach tne you know you can walk to much to anything .... The problem I am having is he doesnt talk...I want him to talk and sit down and have a real convo about it and he doesnt do that all he said was I dont wan the parking becuase of parking.
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Posted by Watever143
Yea but where we live which is in the same nighborhood I mean I cn walk to his parents house and my mom live on the same block it is hard to park for anyone....He went to check the place out it fine to him just he parking ....It is not like always no parking it depends on the time of day like at night when ppl are home from work if you get home late.....But I dni understand what he wants to do about parking we can get a house or anything like that...I mean if we live far into the nighborhood I would have to walk further to a bus.....This to me is great the price the spot the street everything so what if you have to sometime when you come home late have tp pakr around the corner
I am sorry if I am being bitchy...
Men can be so stubborn. If I were you, I would say, this whole apartment search is very frustruating. I have made more than enough effort on my part and my suggestions are not meeting up with your expectations...so maybe YOU should look into some other options. Once he sees how difficult it can be to find the 'perfect' place maybe he will be willing to compromise.
OOO yea that was his job to find an apartment but he doesnt wanna go through a agent he doesnt wanna pay the extra money becuase we really dont have it.....Soo we looks at criaiglist like everyday...We went and looked at other places and like I said before they we not what we were looking for they were attic apartments or basements....This was great and the search could be over...But I dont know what to do his stubborn behave make me think about the future and I am worried that we are always goin to have these problems
