ok I understand everyone's opinions.. I NEVER said I don't trust the FH! so everyone who keeps replying with 'I trust my FH', that's not it.
I just feel if you don't do that now, why that one night?!
If he goes, he goes.. I'm not going to not marry him or get into a big fight over it.
I just think it's disrespectful. But everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
Not to kick up but I highly doubt your man has never been to a strip club. As previous posters said, it's a rite of passage and as long as you trust him, it's harmless.
In the 5 years we have been together, no he hasn't.. and before me, I don't care if he did or not but he was 18 when we first started dating so he couldnt even get into one.
You've been with him every evening for 5 years?
Yes Mam! And the nights I go out with the ladies dancing, he is at my house in my bed waiting for me! I have a good man :0)
and it was a simple question that I was wondering everyone's opinion.. why you are attacking me, I have no idea.
so if our FHs go out they are not good men.
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Anyone else think she's sugar coating that a bit??? what guy waits home in bed??? I mean, unless there's some realllly good pornn on!!
she wouldn't answer the question about if he watches porn or not.
This just begs the question why anyone would feel the need to lie to a bunch of strangers on the internet? Like I really care if her FH goes to strip clubs or not. It's just silly.
i am sure the night of her bachelorette party, he will be sitting home waiting for her. i wonder if he sends her daily text messages updating her that he is still indeed sitting waiting for her.
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for some strange reason she reminds me of one of those chics from bridezilla
definitely agree!!!
one of those who has the FH following two steps behind.
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she is obviously stressing about the wrong things for the wedding that is 3yrs from now.
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Anyone else think she's sugar coating that a bit??? what guy waits home in bed??? I mean, unless there's some realllly good pornn on!!
i just assumed she was joking about him staying home every night! LOL
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Anyone else think she's sugar coating that a bit??? what guy waits home in bed??? I mean, unless there's some realllly good pornn on!!
she wouldn't answer the question about if he watches porn or not.
Yeah because he's one of those creepy porn obsessed weirdos since his FW won't let him out of the house!
she also thinks that at 18 he wouldn't of been able to get into a strip club. there are these things called fake ideas.
also she says that the groomsmen are all married & i am sure at their bachelor parties not 1 of them went to a strip club.
18 to party 21 to drink... a lot of strip clubs allow 18 year olds in
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I just don't understand why she deleted every comment that she posted on that thread. And why is she worrying about this when she has 3 years still! That's what's bothering me about this post more then anything else.
Thisssss...I really don't even think about this at all and we are 9 months out. At 3 years out I probably wouldn't even be thinking much wedding stuff beyond 'oh I want to try on dresses!!!' but even then....why commit to anything 3 years out?? What if you change your mind??
we have 6 months before the wedding & i am so damn busy with everything else FHs bachelor party is the last thing on my mind. i agree with the why would you commit to anything 3 years out. we got engaged & where planning a 2 year engagement. we didn't actually book anything until 15 months before the wedding.
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the wedding is in 3 years...
silly girl
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she should worry about invitations....now that is stressful!!
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Not for nothing, my FH hasn't been to a strip club once since we've been together (5 years) he's been to a few before we started dating. But he's just not into that whole 'scene' he doesn't like clubs, bars, etc. he's def NOT pusssy whipped he just doesn't like them.
he does want a stripper for his B-party though... I don't want him to have one, but w/e.
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I just don't understand why she deleted every comment that she posted on that thread. And why is she worrying about this when she has 3 years still! That's what's bothering me about this post more then anything else.
Thisssss...I really don't even think about this at all and we are 9 months out. At 3 years out I probably wouldn't even be thinking much wedding stuff beyond 'oh I want to try on dresses!!!' but even then....why commit to anything 3 years out?? What if you change your mind??
we have 6 months before the wedding & i am so damn busy with everything else FHs bachelor party is the last thing on my mind. i agree with the why would you commit to anything 3 years out. we got engaged & where planning a 2 year engagement. we didn't actually book anything until 15 months before the wedding.
This! I think it's a little crazy to be booking things so in advance. I mean we've all seen ladies come on here and tell us the wedding has been cancelled. It's sad, but it happens. (Especially when one party to the marriage isn't allowed to leave the house without the other party!)
We'll have been engaged for 18 mos. when we get married and we waited until a little over a year to start booking. In the beginning we just wanted to enjoy being engaged. It's not a race!
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Not for nothing, my FH hasn't been to a strip club once since we've been together (5 years) he's been to a few before we started dating. But he's just not into that whole 'scene' he doesn't like clubs, bars, etc. he's def NOT pusssy whipped he just doesn't like them.
he does want a stripper for his B-party though... I don't want him to have one, but w/e.
But that's totally different. FH hardly ever goes and it's usually because his brother and his old roomie are trashed and drag him along. And I've seen him at strip clubs- I got a lap dance and he didn't! He's extremely shy and self concious. But he's ALLOWED to go. And I'm sure your FH is allowed to go out (to places other than strip clubs) without you, too!
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Not for nothing, my FH hasn't been to a strip club once since we've been together (5 years) he's been to a few before we started dating. But he's just not into that whole 'scene' he doesn't like clubs, bars, etc. he's def NOT pusssy whipped he just doesn't like them.
he does want a stripper for his B-party though... I don't want him to have one, but w/e.
But that's totally different. FH hardly ever goes and it's usually because his brother and his old roomie are trashed and drag him along. And I've seen him at strip clubs- I got a lap dance and he didn't! He's extremely shy and self concious. But he's ALLOWED to go. And I'm sure your FH is allowed to go out (to places other than strip clubs) without you, too!
lol. honestly, i was a total control freak the majority of our relationship. I would FLIP out, but honestly within the past few months.. I like NEED to go out without him, and now he's totally taken over my role. maybe one day we'll be 'even' lol...
ETA::: but I never told him he COULDN'T go out, I just gave him a hard time... ::sigh:: now I feel bad.
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that doesnt sound like a good man to me
sounds more like hes pusssy whiippeed BIG TIME!!!!!!
That's my girl
oh snap
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Not for nothing, my FH hasn't been to a strip club once since we've been together (5 years) he's been to a few before we started dating. But he's just not into that whole 'scene' he doesn't like clubs, bars, etc. he's def NOT pusssy whipped he just doesn't like them.
he does want a stripper for his B-party though... I don't want him to have one, but w/e.
But that's totally different. FH hardly ever goes and it's usually because his brother and his old roomie are trashed and drag him along. And I've seen him at strip clubs- I got a lap dance and he didn't! He's extremely shy and self concious. But he's ALLOWED to go. And I'm sure your FH is allowed to go out (to places other than strip clubs) without you, too!
lol. honestly, i was a total control freak the majority of our relationship. I would FLIP out, but honestly within the past few months.. I like NEED to go out without him, and now he's totally taken over my role. maybe one day we'll be 'even' lol...
ETA::: but I never told him he COULDN'T go out, I just gave him a hard time... ::sigh:: now I feel bad.
i am sure at some point in our relationships we have given our FHs a hard time about doing something with the guys. but to say, 'no, you can't do that' IMO is a little much.
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that doesnt sound like a good man to me
sounds more like hes pusssy whiippeed BIG TIME!!!!!!
OMG!! A little pee came out I laughed so hard. (JUST KIDDING)!!
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that doesnt sound like a good man to me
sounds more like hes pusssy whiippeed BIG TIME!!!!!!
OMG!! A little pee came out I laughed so hard. (JUST KIDDING)!!
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that doesnt sound like a good man to me
sounds more like hes pusssy whiippeed BIG TIME!!!!!!
ros he's not completely pusssy whipped, he's allowed out to look at RH's with her!
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I don't think its good form to bash on any other bride here or her thread for that matter. She's 22, not 16 and what she does in her relationship with FH is her business.
If her FH waits for her in bed and thats what she likes - all the more power to her. Who are we to judge what other brides do or don't do with their FH's? Let her express her opinion, why add fuel to the fire??
-my 2 cents
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Not for nothing, my FH hasn't been to a strip club once since we've been together (5 years) he's been to a few before we started dating. But he's just not into that whole 'scene' he doesn't like clubs, bars, etc. he's def NOT pusssy whipped he just doesn't like them.
he does want a stripper for his B-party though... I don't want him to have one, but w/e.
But that's totally different. FH hardly ever goes and it's usually because his brother and his old roomie are trashed and drag him along. And I've seen him at strip clubs- I got a lap dance and he didn't! He's extremely shy and self concious. But he's ALLOWED to go. And I'm sure your FH is allowed to go out (to places other than strip clubs) without you, too!
lol. honestly, i was a total control freak the majority of our relationship. I would FLIP out, but honestly within the past few months.. I like NEED to go out without him, and now he's totally taken over my role. maybe one day we'll be 'even' lol...
ETA::: but I never told him he COULDN'T go out, I just gave him a hard time... ::sigh:: now I feel bad.
i am sure at some point in our relationships we have given our FHs a hard time about doing something with the guys. but to say, 'no, you can't do that' IMO is a little much.
Don't feel bad! Like Christine said, we've all had our moments where we would PREFER if he doesn't do something and given 'em a hard time about it. But I'm not his mom, I have no authority over him. He can do what he wants. But you've learned and grown from your experience, haven't you? You're in a much healthier place than that other chick on BHB is.
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Her post is actually amusing to me that a strip club is sooooo awful ,lol.. to be completely honest.. I have been to them. Fh has been to them.. We have been together to them and i have been to the guy ones at a place and in a hotel room.. ITS HARMLESS!!! Its not something we do on a regular basis but once in a blue moon, for bach parties/ hangin with friends/ client parties.. yes Ive seen it all.....
its all in good fun!! my fh isnt goin to go home with any of these girlz.. and to be honest if he decided to go to one for his bach party i wouldnt care cause im sure my bro and dad will be there and my fh is not stupid enough to do something to disrespect me!! I try not to let little things like that bother me.. everyone has their own idea of fun and we have to respect that.. JMO
