I broke up with - update and guilt

a DOC planner

Some of you remember I was trying to decide btwn 2 vendors last week.
1- pricey but perfect

2-affordable but went to the wrong place for our 1st appt (15 min late). Couldnt meet to SIGN a CONTRACT because of a flat tire. I would have picked her up OR we live close enough for a cheap cab.

I kindly declined to work with her just now. Feel guilty but relieved. Looking into NEW AND AMAZINGLY Professional Options!

Just wanted to share
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Vendor just told me that I was rude (in so many words) for making them wait 6 weeks before saying yes to the contract. And that I should research before making a decision. If she had another person that was looking into the date then she could have taken it and I would have missed out. Those 6 wks I was looking into the vendor and options. Also I work VERY long hours with a long commute. Is this wrong?

Yay!!! Good for you. You don't owe anyone anything. This is YOUR wedding and that's IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Youd on't need to put up with anyone who isn't make you comfortable................

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Posted by joctorre

Yay!!! Good for you. You don't owe anyone anything. This is YOUR wedding and that's IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Youd on't need to put up with anyone who isn't make you comfortable................

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thank you! it's like a weight off my shoulders

I also wanted to reply to your post today... going to now..

Do what you gotta go!

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Posted by brittndave

6 weeks is a pretty long time to put off signing or giving up a contract so i see where they're coming from, sorry...

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Thank you for being honest. I didn't tell her that she couldn't sign on with another client though. She can let me know that she would not be available. My video guy told me that in our inital meeting

wait you SIGNED the contract and they told you you were rude?

i agree that six weeks is very long, but they could have given you a deadline if they had another customer. i've been told that another client was interested in my date so i had to make a decision.

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Posted by vv117

wait you SIGNED the contract and they told you you were rude?

i agree that six weeks is very long, but they could have given you a deadline if they had another customer. i've been told that another client was interested in my date so i had to make a decision.

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No I didn't sign the contract. I was looking into another DOC and firming up some of my vendors. Plus work deadlines were crazy for a big project. I was not given a time frame for the contract signing nor if there was someone else looking into the date. She followed up with me and I told her that I was not ready to make a decision in between this time and I would like references which was provided.

they are just bitter. who gives a shyt. u clearly did the right thing by not hiring her.

dont let her get to u

ummm i actually think the vendor was rude in the situation. I mean yes 6 weeks might be a long time, but you have every right to take ur time and make a decision. You wouldve just had to understand if someone else came along and booked on your date since you took that time, but I think its rude that she makes u feel guilty about waiting

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Posted by MrsC2010

ummm i actually think the vendor was rude in the situation. I mean yes 6 weeks might be a long time, but you have every right to take ur time and make a decision. You wouldve just had to understand if someone else came along and booked on your date since you took that time, but I think its rude that she makes u feel guilty about waiting

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I agree. That's the nature of the business, brides take their time and shop around for the right price with everything. If it takes 6 days or 6 weeks they shouldn't make you feel bad. That's just rude and unprofessional.

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Posted by brittndave

6 weeks is a pretty long time to put off signing or giving up a contract so i see where they're coming from, sorry...

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yes thats true however, if they had another client, im sure they would've been pressing you for an answer and if someone else was looking into the same date i doubt they would have turned them away without a signed contract from you... theyre just pissed cuz you didnt go with them and they thought it was in the bag, you do whats best its your money and your decision

thanks all for all of your feedback and support.
Your opinions are great and honest

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Posted by brittndave

6 weeks is a pretty long time to put off signing or giving up a contract so i see where they're coming from, sorry...

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I agree with this...also, having recently had a flat tire, I understand that situation...there's no way I would have abandoned my car on the side of the road to make it to a contract signing...I absolutely would have rescheduled.

Sorry, JMO.