i came so close to having a breakdown today

i will spare you all the details. my sister/MOH continues to be a thorn in my side with the planning. i tried talking to her & nothing seems to work. i feel like this is wedding is an inconvenience to everybody i just sat my desk today & cried. i know i shouldn't feel this way but i can't wait for it be over with now.. i am making an appointment with my doctor tomorrow to go on Xanax to get me through the next few months. i swear i have not been difficult at all.. maybe too understanding. i didn't have a BP so i can avoid the drama. what a joke. one person is causing me so much stress...... my own sister.

thanks for listening.

sweetie im sorry. Have you tried talking to her and telling her how she is making you feel? maybe if you get it out inthe opne you will feel better and maybe she will back off......


feel better

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Posted by cherish83

I am sooo sorry you are going through this. It boggles my mind how it is so hard for people to understand it is your wedding and to be happy for you! I hope it gets better. Just think in a few months you'll have a DH!

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thanks

I'm so sorry. It's always the ones closest to us that cause the most pain. I am going through the same thing and it doesn't get better.

Lean on your FH more, MAKE him get excited with you.

And be a bittch. That's why sometimes you NEED to be bitchhy. And become 'bridezilla-ish', sometimes it's necessary...

And it's OK to have a breakdown.. You need to..

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Posted by angl2001

sweetie im sorry. Have you tried talking to her and telling her how she is making you feel? maybe if you get it out inthe opne you will feel better and maybe she will back off......


feel better

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i have tried everything. she continues call me & tell me details about my shower.. i have told her i would luv for it to be a surprise. then she complains about it .. ' i don't have the time for THIS'.. thats all i hear.... all the time..

thanks.. i could go on with examples. just not worth it anymore

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Posted by shoegal68

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Posted by angl2001

sweetie im sorry. Have you tried talking to her and telling her how she is making you feel? maybe if you get it out inthe opne you will feel better and maybe she will back off......


feel better

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i have tried everything. she continues call me & tell me details about my shower.. i have told her i would luv for it to be a surprise. then she complains about it .. ' i don't have the time for THIS'.. thats all i hear.... all the time..

thanks.. i could go on with examples. just not worth it anymore

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You're the one planning a wedding! You're the one with no time for this crap!

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Posted by shoegal68

i have tried everything. she continues call me & tell me details about my shower.. i have told her i would luv for it to be a surprise. then she complains about it .. ' i don't have the time for THIS'.. thats all i hear.... all the time..

thanks.. i could go on with examples. just not worth it anymore

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Oh my god. I would freaking kill her.

Nevermind, re-read your post.

Just kill her. No, that's too much. Beat the crap out of her.

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

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Posted by shoegal68

i have tried everything. she continues call me & tell me details about my shower.. i have told her i would luv for it to be a surprise. then she complains about it .. ' i don't have the time for THIS'.. thats all i hear.... all the time..

thanks.. i could go on with examples. just not worth it anymore

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Oh my god. I would freaking kill her.

Nevermind, re-read your post.

Just kill her. No, that's too much. Beat the crap out of her.

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lol.... you never know.. i might be on the cover of the daily news tomorrow..

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

Seriously, b/c I'm psychotic when I'm mad.....I would call her up and say, 'I'll do it, don't do anything more for my wedding, just show up ON TIME and sign as my witness - do you think you could spare the time for that?' Because I'm a hothead. And I would probably swear too, drop the f-bomb a couple of times. But I don't recommend that.

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trust me i can be.... but i bite my tongue for 2 people. my mother and my nephew. she is the type that when she is mad at me.. how wuld i see him. i am trying my best to not have any dealings with her. i will never forget what she is doing. this is supposed to be a happy time...

any chance you're a scorpio?

I am so sorry you're dealing with this. It really hurts. Especially if you are so good to her and your nephew, you think 'oh, piece of cake, I'm so good to her.' Even though you don't do things in order to get them in return. It just hurts. A lot. I am so sorry.

If you need help with anything, FM me, or if you just want to vent. I have serious bride brain and love to plan.

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

any chance you're a scorpio?

I am so sorry you're dealing with this. It really hurts. Especially if you are so good to her and your nephew, you think 'oh, piece of cake, I'm so good to her.' Even though you don't do things in order to get them in return. It just hurts. A lot. I am so sorry.

If you need help with anything, FM me, or if you just want to vent. I have serious bride brain and love to plan.

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nope.. actually i am on the cusp of aries and taurus. April 21.

thanks sweetie... its not that i need help. she doesn't even ask how is the planning going. for example if i tell her i am going to order invitations. the next time i speak to her, she won't even ask how it went. i just never expected this from family.. thats what hurts the most.

i appreciate your kind words.. i may take you up on your offer ;) ... i just hate when we have these fights because its ***** the life out of you.


thanks again

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Posted by shoegal68

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

any chance you're a scorpio?

I am so sorry you're dealing with this. It really hurts. Especially if you are so good to her and your nephew, you think 'oh, piece of cake, I'm so good to her.' Even though you don't do things in order to get them in return. It just hurts. A lot. I am so sorry.

If you need help with anything, FM me, or if you just want to vent. I have serious bride brain and love to plan.

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hey i am sorry to be reading this sometimes i think its come to people ( in this case your sister ) being jealous. People need to be happy for what others have and not what they dont have.. Its bothering me that you dont wnat to know and she keeps tell you ..

nope.. actually i am on the cusp of aries and taurus. April 21.

thanks sweetie... its not that i need help. she doesn't even ask how is the planning going. for example if i tell her i am going to order invitations. the next time i speak to her, she won't even ask how it went. i just never expected this from family.. thats what hurts the most.

i appreciate your kind words.. i may take you up on your offer ;) ... i just hate when we have these fights because its ***** the life out of you.


thanks again

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the strange part about my response was that i wrote a ton and nothing was there.. so here it is again..

its sad hwen peopel ( in this case your sister) can not be happy for you and instead they need to be jealous. This seems like jealousy to me, and its sad that you have to go through this

I'm so sorry you are going through this... just know that you are not alone. I had a break down yesterday. I couldn't go into work, I just sat in my car hysterical for a while... all this stress is getting to me so much lately, and I feel almost depressed. Not really just the wedding planning, but school, work, and figuring out what we're doing next year and where we're living. Just hang in there... we will be ok!

i UTTERLY & COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND!!!!!!!!!!!

My friend Katie & I were talking the other day & she said that she's realized & has been telling others (not people i know) that i have the most apathetic bridesmaids she's ever known....

She is the SINGLE most helpful person in the wedding...

thanks girls

feeling better this morning.. unfortunately i still feel the tension in my head & stomach.