I can't be the only one.....

Ever since FH and I started planning this wedding, we have been fighting. This is not something we ever did before we were engaged. And 9 times out of 10 it has to do with money or the wedding, or money relating to the wedding. We have been really good with our budget, and scored some great vendors. But I feel like every time we have a payment due at the hall, or another deposit is put down, or something else is bought, it's an argument.

There are days when I feel like why the hell are we even doing this. I have my moments when I think I should not be getting married because of all the stress. I finally realize what my other family members went through. FH and I have agreed on every single vendor, but on small things we can't agree for our lives. And the arguing is carrying over into other things. I know we're happy for 90% of the time. But it's times like this that get me frustrated.

Is anyone else going through this? He's the positive one and I'm the typical female worry wart. He keeps telling me not to worry. But I feel like he has been so non chalant about everything, I have to worry. Because if I don't do it, no one will.

Augh.....thanks for letting me vent. I didn't feel like creating another account for the sake of anonymity.

Your so not alone! My FH and I fought a lot about the wedding, more so because he doesn't want to hear about it.

Mine does not want to hear about any money relating to the wedding. I was tallying up how much we will have already paid to our hall by the time our final payment is due, and how much more we will have to shell out, and he just kept saying 'I don't want to hear it'.

I can understand he doesn't want to think about it right now. But considering my savings is quickly depleting, it's all I can think about!

I just looked at the calendar....and now I think I know why I am having this mood....freaking Aunt Flo is about to pay me a visit.....

The ***** Aunt Flo better stay the freak away from me for the next 2 weeks!

Janna--Don't worry, I think you are going through normal stuff. My FH has been pretty good about doing stuff, but it is always after I explain to him all that we have to do. So, last week I told him that I am giving up my position as 'manager' of the wedding and he has to take over that position. I haven't been able to entirely give up the 'manager' job but he got the idea.

As for $$ issues, we got some gifts from the 'No' RSVPs and those gifts are helping to make final vendor payments. It's not enough to put a dent into what we owe the hall, but for the video and photog. it was great.

FM or call if you want to chat.

And tell Aunt Flo to leave us both alone!

My FH and I fight also. He thinks every conversation we have is wedding related and it bothers him. I've been trying to talk about other things besides the wedding but sometimes it's hard. SOmetimes I'll just get an idea or a thought and of course I wanna talk about it!
We haven't really been fighting about money because my dad's paying for mostly everything but I get upset that he doean't seem to worry about anything. If I don't worry, he won't..so I have to.
UGH..MEN!

You are so NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!
We have been arguing about money too. It's terrible. Sometimes I feel like I am planning this wedding alone.
When I feel too much pressure about wedding planning, I take a step back and just relax.

I think it's just men!!!

You are not alone, hun. This is so normal. I guess its *gods* way of testing us. If we cant get through minor things like this, then what about the bigger challenges in life? It is so unfortunate that money causes so much pain & stress in relationships. Hang in there sweetie. You can always vent on this board. We are all here for you.

I wish you and your FH the best and I know you two will work things out.

Janna,

to you! You and Andrew will get through this. It's just hard because $$$ stresses some people out big time.

Money seems to be what we are also fighting aboutlately. He is so lax about it and I am worrying constantly about it. He hates the $$ topic and every time I bring it up he walks away. I have to worry about because if I don't, I know that he won't and then we won't have enough for the wedding.

Hang in there. You are definately not alone. I think that if a couple can make it through the stress of planning a wedding, then they can pretty much make it through anything.

Your not alone!!! It is very stressful!!!!!!

Janna, me and Anthony argue sometimes over wedding things, too. It's normal, believe me!! Weddings are a HUGE stress factor!!

We kind of went at it the other day b/c he 'forgot' that the photographer was $5000. he got pissed b/c I told him we cannot afford a big screen TV when he siad he wanted to buy one.l 'But we can afford $5000 on pictures?' He argued.

We haven't been fighting about the money issue... yet.
We have been arguing over his job because he has to work late a lot. We won't live togther until after the wedding, and i keep having these visions of me as a newlywed sitting home alone all the time because he is working, so I keep giving him sh*t about his job even though I know I am wrong, I can't stop myself.

I had this problem as well. Now things are much better. We were fighting a lot b/c we were trying to close on our home and all of that stress plus the wedding was craaaaaazy. Now that we have closed on our home things have gotten so much better. Now we argue like once a week but not huge arguments like before.

JUst remember that u both love each other very much and those feelings of wanting to call of the wedding are only temporary. I had them like everyday when FH used to get on my nerves. The road will be rough but just stick through b/c the reward will be great.

Don't worry, I think this is normal. FH is not the most active participant in wedding plans, so sometimes he forgets what planning the wedding involves. We have our minor fights and it's usually $-related, or over the guest list or something minor. But we get past it, and I'm sure you will too. It's a fun and exciting time, yet stressful too b/c everyone has the idea of the 'perfect wedding' in their heads and even though we know nothing is perfect, we still stress to get as close to perfection as possible.

I agree with another bride, sometimes I think it's just men.

Sweetie,
you are not the only one. Sometimes I feel like all we do is talk about this wedding. It drives me nuts
I look at our budget as it flies out the window and I freak. We have now both agreed that one night a week is dedicated to just us. No family, friends, wedding talk, no nothing.

you ae not the only one...chris and i fight about money...more so now then before. he keeps saying we have enough, and i say um, no we don't. and we are not going over the top for our wedding either.

try not to let it stress you out too much.