I cant believe my MOH!!!! (very long sorry)

My MOH, ericka, is one of my best friends. I have known her for over 10 yrs. We are practically like sisters, except we never argued until now. I have three other best friends who us 3 have all known each other since we were 2 yrs old our entire families know each other. But for the past 5-6 yrs we have gotten distant due to moving far away, babies and relationships. However we all know that no matter what we would be there for each other. I chose Ericka over the other 3 because we have been inseparable for 10 yrs even though she got married, got 2 kids and has moved constantly. I thought she deserved to be my MOH. Boy was I wrong. Lately she has been so flaky, all of a sudden her phone dies for a WEEK!!!! or she could only receive incoming calls, or only receives txts or leaves her phone at family house. She missed helping with my invitations because her phone was dead for a week and my BMs, who Ive have known longer, all showed up and even took day off from work, lone eft child with babysitter and one had to move out of her mans house due to break up but was still there for me. They were asking ME about my bridal shower cuz my MOH hasnt contacted them at all. Everytime I invite my MOH for anything even a BBQ, all of a sudden her daughters are sick ,or her machista husband is fighting with her , or that phone thing again. She has become so unreliable and its stressing me out. I know my BMs must be asking themselves why I chose her over any of them but wont dare tell me anything. They have been great. One actually offered to pay and take care of my wedding programs and place cards becuase she saw how stressed out I was. I really regret chosing ericka as my MOH. FH and I doubt she will even show up at my BS , bachelorette party or even wedding because thats how unreliable she is. The thing with her is that she doesnt even tell you if she cant make it, i have to txt her all the time or call her just to see if shes coming. I dont even mind that she doesnt attend our gatherings I just hate that she never calls and says 'i cant make it.' I was gonna chose her as our first child godmother but FH wants me to get someone else because hes afraid ericka wont be there for our future child.
I hope she proves me wrong. BS is supposed to be in April and she apparently is starting the whole planning process. Its amazing how ones true colors come out during a wedding or maybe I was just blind the whole time.
Sorry its sooo long girls, I just had to vent.

I'm so sorry! I don't have any advice just

Unfortunately, my entire BP have their dresses and even altered. I would hate to drop her and pick someone else and make them feel like sloppy seconds. I know my FH spoke to her and told my BMs to set her straight if need be because I was almost crying to him so upset about all this and he got really mad at my MOH. Dont know what to do yet

im sorry u r going through this..imo b4 u cut her out i would at least talk 2 her..maybe she has no idea she is hurting u,maybe she does..but if guys r that good of friends at least give her a chance to explain herself..if she gives u the runaround or still does not give a crap thenmaybe think bout asking her to bow out ..i mean ur moh is a big deal..noone expects her to stop her life 4 ur wedding but she should care bout whats going on..hth good luck

you need to flat out ask her what's going on. tell her it's very important that you feel like she will be there for you, and her flakiness is making you doubt that she will even show up at this point! you have to be honest with her and let her know how you feel, otherwise you will be very disappointed in the end and she will continue getting away with acting like this. you can understand her not being able to participate in everything because she has children etc, but all the important things leading up to your wedding are a big part of your life, and she can't be like this. excuses, excuses... many of us have gone through this and feel for you. it's very hurtful. just bring it out in the open if you want her to change, or at least back out. don't let it wait any longer because the closer it gets to the wedding, the harder it will be, and the damage to your relationship will be unforgivable. i'm sorry i'm very passionate about this right now because i'm going through something very similar with my sister, and i am extremely hurt at this point, and i don't want it to keep happening to all of us brides who lose friends over our weddings. if she can't respect you enough to take care of her responsibilities, then she doesn't deserve to be your MOH, and she needs to be told the truth.. that it's not ok to treat you like this and brush of your wedding.

I'm soooo sorry!!

Im sorry, she shouldnt be your moh looks like she really doesnt want the job.

I was thinking the same things as others. I was going to say to make another BM your mOH but keep her in the wedding as a second MOH or move her to a BM. But I also think you should talk to her and see what's going on with her. I hope everything works out for you.