I can't believe this is happening.............(UPDATED)

Well It is 23 days before we close on our new house
45 days before our wedding.
I have to move to CT byt he end of August
I have to look for a new job
Pack up our townhouse myself
and move to a town where I've never been; I don't even know how to get to my new house!
FH has been slacking off for the last few weeks and my mother calls me today to tell me:

After 27 years of marriage she is DiVORCING MY FATHER


I've been so stressed for the last few weeks and now this, I feel like I'm having a nervous breakdown. I'm so upset I don't want to buy the house or get married. I feel like I want to curl up in a little hole where everyone can just leave me alone. I'm feel so hopeless girls I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm always the happy positive one in my family and I feel as if all the life has been ****** out of me and drained away. I feel like my heart has been broken into a million little pieces and I will never feel happy again.

I don't mean to DUMP on anyone or vent but I feel so lost and heartbroken.


(UPDATE:)
I thank EVERYONE of you for your tremendous support and well wishes. I came up to CT for a few days. I have a Dress fitting tomorrow and my final florist appointment tomorrow. I'm still very sad. I'm pretty much just very angry and numb right now. My mom keeps trying to talk but I'm not ready. I'm thinking that the day of the wedding I may not want to get dressed in my parents house. I'm so uncomfortable here now, its really strange and sad.

FH has been great!!! He started doing stuff and has finally realized I can't do it all anymore. He extended the lease on the townhouse so I don't have to do the move before the wedding and he took the Wedding binder from me today and is going to start working on more wedding stuff. In the meantime I keep praying that I will be happy again in a few weeks.

Many Of you ask why my mom did this now?? I ask myself the same question. I knew they were having problems. My father has some issues he needs to resolve and has yet to do so. THe sad thing is that my mother is very much in love with him, but is tired of getting her heart broken by him because he doesn't take care of himself.

I don't know if they will work this out. I don't have the strength to even talk to my mom about this right now. I just pray that I start to feel happy again sometime soon and can learn to take care of myself.

I love you all, you have all bea a TREMENDOUS source of strength and hope for me and for that you will ALL hold a special place in my heart.

Thanks Again
~Maria~

omg, I'm so sorry to hear how stressed you are and about your parents' marriage!!!!

You really have to take it easy - you don't want to make yourself sick.

im sorry that you're going through all of this. i know what you're going through in terms of having to look for a new job and plan a move all just before your wedding, i mean getting married is a huge change as is moving to a new house and taking on a new job, its tough to have to do everything at once but have faith that things will turn out for the best. as for what your parents are going through, i know its hard but dont let that ruin your big moment. 2 years ago my parents had a huge fight i dont even know about what but they were seriously talking about separating and it was horrible i cried like a little kid for days, but they opened up and started communicating again and things turned out better then ever, i know its scary esp when you think that hey theyve been together and solid for 27 years, we'll last too but you guys arent your parents and can only learn from their mistakes. anyway sorry to ramble on but i hope you feel better.

i am so sorry that you are going through this. i wish i had some words of wisdom or could say that i know what you are going through. you will get thru this, and just remember you do have your FH to lean on.

oh boy.... so sad. Your parents divorcing definitely puts a damper on your wedding celebration....

All things happen for a reason. Maybe both of your parents will be happier? You never know, it could be a good thing.... I know you don't want to even think of it now, but it is definitely a possibility.

your relationship with your parents won't change much... they still love you and the rest of the family, and likely each other... they just need a change.

All other things happening in your life are stressful, but GOOD. Try to focus on the good things, and just be there for your parents

sorry , it will all work out in the end! dont be so stressed... look forward to your wedding... and whatever was meant to happen between your parents is happening... my sympathy goes out to you. Parents splitting up at any age is disheartening...

Sorry to hear that, but I live in CT and if we are in the same area I would be more then happy to show you around.

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Posted by mrspatry

Sorry to hear that, but I live in CT and if we are in the same area I would be more then happy to show you around.

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That's sweet, I know this is no consolation but your parents will probably be happier apart. My parents were not happy for years and after a fight I had with my mom she asked my dad for a divorce, I heard the whole thing! But I knew it wasn't my fault and they are much happier with thier sig. others. It feels like crap now, but it will work out in the end. FH will step up, it just takes them longer for some reason. Took my FH 2 months to move in! They do thing at thier own pace, not ours unfortunately! I am so sorry you have all of this on your shoulders right now, but they say 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!' I don't know who 'they are' but they seem to know what they are talking about. I hope this morning dawn finds you in a better mood and a bit happier. FM if you need to talk. My mom and sis live in CT, if you should need anything let me know

I'm so very sorry!!

i'm so sorry!! you'll get through all of this though! i truly believe that we aren't given more than we can handle. we'll be here for you!!

awww swwtie i am so sorry you are going through this and feeling like this

omgosh maria i am soo sorry to hear this!!!

I am so sorry...I will not say that I can imagine how you feel because I cant......If that's what you need to do is go in a corner and take some time...then do so....you have alot of positive things happening around you. As for FH, that's a man and they usually snap out of it too...heres a hug for you

I am sooooo sorry for everything you are going through...,. the stress of moving to a new town, trying to find a new job, planning a wedding and now your parents getting divoriced. Please just try to relax and not get toooo worked up over everything because you are only going to make yourself sick. Everything happens for a reason and you will get through all of this. Just remember that your marriage is about you and your FH. It isn't about all of the little stuff before hand that you have to do for the wedding. It is all about the marriage. Be strong and I hope everything works out for you!!!!

You poor thing!!! Talk about bad timing! I almost want to yell at your mom for being so selfish! She could have stuck it out until after the wedding and pretended everything was fine so that you don't have to deal with all this crap before your wedding! Stay strong and try not to be upset, I know it's easier said than done, but you just have to think of all the great things you have going on... buying a house is awesome and you and your FH will have a lot of fun fixing it up and making it your own! And you are getting married to the man you love! I've had a lot of drama going on and everytime I get upset I just remember that all that matters is that I am marrying my FH and that usually cheers me right up! I hope everything works out with your family, but don't give up on yourself!!!!

I'm so sorry sweetie. I'm a firm believer in 2 things. The first is everything happens for a reason. And the second is that you will come out of this a much stronger person.

I'm so sorry about your parents.