My mom and my SIL are going to look at prospective places for my shower next Monday. And my mom was asking me if she should invite FMIL along. I said sure, it's nice to include her so she doesn't feel left out. So my mom called her and invited her and she said she wouldn't be able to come cause she's already had plans. Which both me and my mom totally understand. So my mom told her that she would keep her posted on everything. So FMIL said 'thanks and please do that' but didn't outright offer to help.
I know that planning and organizing the bridal shower is my mom's responsibility but I'm a little hurt and offended that she didn't offer to help. I'm close with her and we get along really well so i kinda of assumed she want to get involved somehow. I also get that the party is for me but seriously its not like we're registering for handbags for shoes - its all stuff her son is gonna use too.
Am I over reacting?
Pacie
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thanks girls i really appreciate it. i'm gonna try and not let it bother me. If so many of you are saying it might be because she doesn't want to step on my mom's toes I guess you may be right. She knows how close me and my mom are.
BlushandBashful
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Maybe she just doesn't want to step on your mom's toes or something?
smilesjc81
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aww, i can see how you may take that, and get hurt, but try not to be offended. She may not have wanted to intrude. thinking this is mom/daughter time and not wanting to get in the way.
maybe she isn't a big planner and doesn't feel like she will be any use for the shower and wants to focus her energy on the rehearsal dinner.
for your own sanity, don't dwell on it too much. she loves you and there are gonna be a lot of ways for her to convey that and help out in the wedding process.
Use this time to just bond with your mom, cause in a way she is losing her little girl.... one on one time planning your shower may be really nice
CristinD83
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Posted by quirkybride
I'm sorry you're hurt. Maybe she thinks this is your mom's role and doesn't want to be pushy. Maybe she'll be very involved with planning the rehersal dinner.
Exactly what I woulda said. Its the FMIL and FFIL who will be more into the rehearsal dinner. I get how you're a little offended though I would def be alil bit too. If there's something your mom needs, have her call FMIL and ask for help. I'm sure she'll be more than willing to participate
