I can't sleep.

The stress continues.

My mom had the audacity to call my grandmother up and tell her my wedding is canceled.

First of all, it is MY say, since me and FH have paid for everythng so far to say if it's canceled.

Secondly, it's not canceled, period.

I am just so tired of everyone ganging up on me and putting words in my mouth. I was outraged with my sister about her lack of interest and communication, and the lying she has been doing lately. I'm not allowed to be upset?

Then, my father calls my FH, and yells at him for no reason. FH, was calm, and just said 'yes sir' at the end of every word.

I called my grandmother, thinking maybe I can have some sort of relief, of course, none there.

Why do I have to bend and apologize for something I feel I am allowed to be upset over?

I'm so hurt by my family right now. I don't know what to do. My FILs are actually acting more like my family and making me feel much better and agree about that my frustrations are legitimate.

I wish this would blow over. I refused to talk to my parents unless they stop sticking up for my sister, and apologize for spreading rumors about a canceled wedding that they aren't even hosting.

I have been crying, non stop since 11 this morning. this just isn't fair anymore. This isn't fun to me anymore and I'm ready to say the hell with my family and uninvite them to show how hurtful I can be right back.

I'm awake too.

I think you should just distance yourself and wait till everything blows over. They're still your family and *should* be on your side.
This is assuming at least one of them has common sense. Then maybe they will rethink what is going on. I mean, have'nt at leas one of them had to plan a wedding? Its major stress.
In the end you may wind up having to apologize even if it's not ur fault..just to keep the peace. But for now, it sounds like there are a lot of feelings hurt and you will need to give it time to heal.
HTH

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I agree you are going to have to distant yourself from family. Take two weeks out of planning and talking to family. I undertsand it's hard, but it really need to be done. Stay strong it will all come together. No family is prefect.

OMG Hun! I am so sorry you are going through this.!! But why is your mom calling people to tell them the wedding isoff???
I agree with the other girls- distance yourself from the family- take some time off from planning. You have to remember- thisday is about you and FH and your love for each other. It will all come together

I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

I'm just so confused about why your family is behaving this way.

Like whatever... your sister is a brat. Fine.

Okay... your mom takes her side. FINE.

But why the fack would your dad call you FH and yell at him? I thought he was staying out of this?

And what does you and your sister getting into a fight have to do with FH... at all?! In any way shape or form?

And WHY would they say the wedding is CANCELLED?!!!



Ughhhhh... We are here for you, girl.

Poeple behave like morons.

(When people = your family.)

Seriously... I will throw eggs at their house if you want.

thanks ladies.

I woke up to a text message to call my dad when i had a minute. the problem is, I'm still heated. i still have that know in my throat from controlling my crying, and i know if my dad were to stay certain things I will lose my cool. i am in no condition right now to speak to any of them.

on a good note, FSIL & my BFF have made the arrangements for my bparty. My FSIL explained to my sister she is still invited on the planning but its clear she needs the help and that I am mad and she should just apologize and let me be....of course, my sister doesn't feel shes wrong and everyone is 'pounding her to the ground', whatever. come or dont come, but dont think ur get ting sympathy from my friends and FILs.

FH had nothing to do with it aside from hearing me vent, and he tried to call my sister 2 days ago, calmly, and say to her that'd he'd like to know the plans so that he can help in his own way too'...seriously, that's ALLL he said to her.

last night, FH told me if he can vouch in anyway shape or form that i have been pretty calm and cool with things and i am in no way shape or form a bridezilla, in fact, lol, he said that word is made up and its stupid and childish to use. lol.

Its clear that your sis has put her own spin on the situation. Shes too old to act like shes the wounded party here.

And your parents have no right to tell people your wedding is cancelled. They just overstepped their boundaries.

Id maintain radio silencr for a few days. Trust me, it will make sis insane and her true colors will show through. You cant be wrong if youre not saying anything.

In a few days call your dad and politely tell him your ashamed of him for treating FH that way...especially when he was so polite to him.

Also tell him that youd appreciate them stopping telling everyone the wedding is off. Make sure he realizes in the end they'll look like crazy people once you tell everyone the truth. Also stress the point that you are his daughter too and expect his support as your dad.

Im sorry youre going through this. Be the classy one and in the end theyll realize theyve acted inappropriately and unfairly.

I just want to give you lots and lots of hugs.



Weddings can be stressful enough- you dont need your own family making it worse! You always have LIW to vent to- so remember- vent away!!

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this

I hope everything has settled down a little. This is your wedding and you shouldn't be going through this.

thanks so much ladies!!!

I can definitely relate to this! I am not sure I know the whole situation, but I do know that my sister told me that she did not want any part of my wedding I had asked her to be the Matron of Honor and she had said yes but then changed her mind! I started doing everything myself until it came time to planning my own shower!!! Then I thought to myself, I should just ask my BFF to be my Matron of Honor...why would I worry about offending my sister at this point??? So, that's what I did. And my BFF is doing an amazing job at helping me with all of the planning, etc. Family sometimes makes everything more difficult! It shouldn't be this hard!!! I am sorry you are going through this...I am sure that everything will fall into place for you. Keep your head up and remember...this is YOUR time!