I cant stand my Bridesmaids!!!!!!:o( (Vent)

2003OCT10 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 02:01 AM

I cant stand my Bridesmaids!!!!!!:o( (Vent)

Okay.. that was my angry face in the title...

ANyway... Here it is ten days before my wedding.. Brian just came home from his weekend Bachelor Party... He had a blast!! What are my Bridesmaids doing for me NOTHING!! First I have a shotty shower that NONE of my friends were invited to, and now theres NO bachelor party?!?!?!? THe part that Pi$$es me off the most is that my cousins and sister are the people in my BP...All of my cousins are going to be getting Engaged soon and will be planning their weddings .. AND i KNOW that it wont be this crummy.

Why cant anyone (besides me) rejoice and see that its my Fricken WEDDING!! I am getting Married... Its not something thats gonna happen a dozen times in a womans life, (unless youre liz taylor)....
I just feel Like no one is happy that this day is almost here... I feel like they all have their heads up their a$$es and are too self centered to care about my feelings..

This is supposed to be a celebration of our marriage, and I CANT WAIT for this day to be OVER!
(Edited for spelling)

ChristineC68 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 06:12 AM

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I don't really have anything great to say but I'm sorry all this happened and here's some hugs

aug9bride Posted: Sep 29, 2003 06:26 AM

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IS therer anyone in your BP that you can talk to and ask why they are not having one for you. Since your BP is made up of family, maybe someone will talk to you about this.

Good Luck.

July2004Bride Posted: Sep 29, 2003 07:07 AM

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I'm sorry... You would think that their turn is coming up soon that they would understand how important this day is for you.

Please don't feel like you want the day to be over just because of some people that have their heads up their a$$es.. enjoy the celebration of your marriage. You worked hard to get to this point and you should enjoy that day as much as you can!

I say to all your bridesmaids! and to you..

jvs77 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 08:29 AM

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I'm sorry. Maybe your could have a heart to heart with whomever your closest to in your bridal party? Explain your feelings to them. (Maybe they even have something wonderful planned for you and are doing an amazing job at keeping it a secret!)

louise3rd Posted: Sep 29, 2003 08:44 AM

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Dont say that you cant wait for the day to be over.You will have a great time on your wedding day.I would just go up to them and say HELLO is there anytime soon were going out to celebrate my getting married.We only have so much time left DUH ! And you are to funny about liz taylor.

julybride444 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 09:03 AM

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It sounds as if your bms are unmarried, and having had 3 single bms myself, I understand now that they really didn't know what was entailed in being bms. By the time they realized it was late. We still had a great time, I still love them all! Also, I understood that they each had financial constraints (all grad students), so we didn't plan a ton. We had my showers at family homes, and my family chipped in for cost. In order for them to plan my bachelorette party without hardship, I paid for their dresses as their gifts.

Perhaps you could talk to your MOH and just let her know what you'd like to do for your bachelorette party. Maybe as their gift you could buy each of them a mani/pedi and they could buy you one and all of you could go to the spa, then they could buy you dinner and drinks, or you could just go to a bar and have a good time?

franksbride Posted: Sep 29, 2003 09:04 AM

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Your day will be wonderful...try not to let this bother you...

neesiepie Posted: Sep 29, 2003 09:17 AM

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Maybe your bridesmaids are planning something secret for your bachelorette party? I would toss out some hints....like, 'WHEW! After all this planning, I think we all should get together for some drinks before the wedding. Oh YEAH! And maybe a male stripper....that would be cool...OOH! And MAYBE a limo! WOW!'....

OCT1203 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 10:25 AM

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I feel your pain....up until Wednesday I wasn't sure if I was having one either. I was so depressed last Sunday because nobody could get their act together and plan anything so i finally said i didn't want to do anything and to forget about the whole thing. I was in tears the whole day After my BP found out how miserable I was they finally got their butts into gear and planned something!! You should definatly say something...talk to your MOH. Have they all been in BP before? Maybe they don't know what to do or who is suppose to plan it.

My MOH is a little older than everyone else and she had no clue on what to do, so finally one of my BM's took over. Seriously, talk to someone...maybe even say something to your mom and she can talk to your BM's. Don't worry...everything will be fine!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 10:33 AM

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On top of all the last minute things you need to do before the wedding, you should not have to stress over this.

There's one more weekend before your wedding, maybe they are planning something then?

Can your FH do some spying to find out if your BP is doing something? And maybe suggest they should?? I think it's only fair. You had a lot to put up with with your shower being not what you had hoped.

I hope they do something for you!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Sep 29, 2003 10:42 AM

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I am sorry you are so upset.

They are probably going to surprise you.

shelzyp Posted: Sep 29, 2003 11:25 AM

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I would drop hints to them, or have your mom or another family do it. Does you FH know you are this upset, maybe tell him to mention it to them.

Tammy5-03 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 11:52 AM

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I had a very similar experience. My bridesmaids let me down so many times and so many ways. I wish I could say don't worry, they'll come through. They might not. But I still had the best wedding ever. I was marrying my DH and that's really all that mattered.

2003OCT10 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 05:44 PM

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I know that I am going to have a blast, because I am marrying my best friend... But THEY TOLD me FLAT OUT.. THEY HAVE nothing planned.. everyone kept ticking everyone off.. and My sister told me when I called her today to invite her to Okey Dokeys on Friday that they had nothing planned, and that my cousins were difficult to work with.... Its just soooooooo frustratimg because they have let me down so many times... Thanks for letting me vent...

OCT1203 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 05:54 PM

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I'm so sorry!!! Why don't just you and your MOH go out then? For mine it was just me. my MOH and 2 BM. Two other BM's just met us for dinner they didn't want to go and do the rest of the stuff so we said scr*w them and we just went out....and I was so glad that they didn't come because we had a great time and I got to bond with my future SIL! Just have your MOH plan something and if anyone wants to join great if not then you two go out and have a great time without them..

Diane Posted: Sep 29, 2003 06:53 PM

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So sorry that you are going through this.
Can you talk to your sister and tell her you would like a party??
This is YOUR day, if no one is going to plan it, I would call the people eho YOU want there.

kkfeb04 Posted: Sep 29, 2003 07:42 PM

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I am so sorry for you. I would feel the same way you do if it was me. Sometimes people we expect so much from really let us down. A friend of mine is in my BP and the BP of our mutual friend, and I never thought she would be so completely not caring about our weddings but she has not done anything for my friend and she is heading in that direction for my big day. I would drop some hints, and see what your MOH says/does. Good luck and remember try to not stress out too much.