Ahhhhhhhhh!!!! My FMIL is the most evil person I have ever met in my life!!! I always had the feeling that she did not like me. She'd always make stupid, vulgar remarks and always find ways to insult me in front of people or just in general. No matter how bad she treated me, I never, ever told FH how I really felt about her. I just sucked it up in hopes that she would change. It wasnt until recently that she just blew my lid and I finally told FH that I thought his mother was a jealous witch. She was constantly causing fights between us. She was the reason my New Years was ruined.
Well, yesterday FH was talking to his grandma and she blatantly asked 'While you were in Iraq.. What do you think that little girl of yours was doing?!?!?' (Implying that I was cheating on him!!!) She was talking all this crap about me (without even knowing me) and told FH that if she lived near me she would follow me like a detective. I wish she would have so she could have seen me work all day then go to school until 10pm. Then FMIL started yelling and telling him that was cheating on him and that she nor the rest of her family was going to the wedding cuz she had already booked a trip to the Domincan Republic for 2 weeks so she could have her own little wedding with her new boyfriend and would not be coming home until August 14th. We get married on the 13th!!!!
How dare they say those things about me when they dont even live near me or know me!! They were not there when I cried in bed every night when he was away. They were not there when I spent all my weekends at home crying cuz I wished he was home with me. How dare they acuse me of such things. Of course, FH did not believe her cuz he knows how she is. If anything she's the one who has always cheated on her past husband's!! All 3 of them! She knew our wedding date since July... and she knew since a month ago I was using FH's little brother and sister in the bridal party. How could she do that to her son on purpose?? What kinda mother could say such a thing to her first born?? She hasnt involved herself or called me to see how the planning is going. NOTHING!
I have never said anything to insult her but this was the last straw. I called her and asked her what kinda mother could do such a thing to her first son?!?!.... and she hung up on me!!! So I called her back and told the Stupid biatch to go to hell. Bleh!! I was soo sad I cried. More because for FH cuz I felt bad for him, but also because I was insulted in being called a floozy when all Ive ever done is love her son unconditionally and stuck with him when times were the worst in his life.
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As hard as iti s and as frusrtrating it is for you keep in mind its probably 10x's worse for FH. I couldn't ever picture my mom not being happy for me and wanting to be a part of this very special day. As long as you are there for each other you will have the most magnificant day of your life!!
Just remember to...BREATHE and vent as much as you want here. THat's what we are all here for!
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Thanx for all the advice ladies. Im trying not to think about it.... but I just cant help it. It feels like its me against the rest of the world. Its sad... I wish things were not like this. Why cant I have nice FIL's?!??! But Thanks again girls!! Youre the best
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That sucks!!!! What a B!!! So how is your FH dealing with the argument you 2 had?? I hope this doesn't affect your relationship and upcoming wedding.
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I am so so so sorry that you have to go through something like that. Hold up your head. Don't let her know that she got under your skin.
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i am SO SO sorry about this!!!! you make my fmil seem like a saint now just remember you're marrying your fh, not her.....good luck with everything
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I am so sorry that she is such a horrible human being The best thing you can do is stick by your FH's side-what kind of mother would do that to their son-terrible lady. Again I'm so sorry
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I know my FMIL is going to give me a run for my money but yours may take the cake. Hang in there and have faith in your FH that he knows the type of mother he has. It is so obvious that she is jealous. I bet she knows that you will have a solid relationship - something that she is apparently incapable of!
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That is just so terrible that you have to go through this. At least your FH is behind you and helping you through this..Sometimes that could cause relationship conflicts. What she did is just awful and I am so sorry you have to go through this!
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That is just insane how spiteful and malicious someone can be. So is your FMIL going to your wedding or not?? It just doesnt make any sense. Have you guys been dating long? What about his dad? Do you guys get along or is the mother just a total wack job?
I am sorry you have to deal with that--just go to your own family and friends for support and just try to as much as you can to not put yourself with her Agony....the lady apparantly has massive issues....could be a huge insecure issue if shes known to be the 'cheater of husbands'--her biggest problem sounds like she is very unhappy with herself, and cant stand the fact to see someone else happy--that is where 'misery loves company' comes in.......STAY AWAY!
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That is so awful
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Sorry to hear about that!! Her negative comments towards you will only hurt her relationship with her son.
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I'm so sorry. I hope that you and FH can focus on your relationship and leave her to stew in her own mess. What a nut!
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Posted by tray831
That is just insane how spiteful and malicious someone can be. So is your FMIL going to your wedding or not?? It just doesnt make any sense. Have you guys been dating long? What about his dad? Do you guys get along or is the mother just a total wack job?
I am sorry you have to deal with that--just go to your own family and friends for support and just try to as much as you can to not put yourself with her Agony....the lady apparantly has massive issues....could be a huge insecure issue if shes known to be the 'cheater of husbands'--her biggest problem sounds like she is very unhappy with herself, and cant stand the fact to see someone else happy--that is where 'misery loves company' comes in.......STAY AWAY!
Well she says her and the rest of the family are NOT going. How spiteful. Argh! Ok FINE, she hates ME, not her son... so she should go for him. We've been together for 2 1/2 years now. FH's step father (who has been divored from FMIL for a few years now) cant stand her and is totally on our side. He knows what a nut she is and she cheated on him several times.. each time with married men.... thats why they divorced. Heck, just because she's a hoochie doesnt mean I am too.. ya know! FH and I just stick togther and we are not letting her destroy us... since thats exactly what she wants. Me and him have been through thick and thin. We have always had long distance relationship.... and we are doing great. He was in Iraq this past year... and we made it. Our relationship is like no other... and I will never let that witch get the best of me.