i cant stand when....

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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I think she may have just been complaining and venting about something that has bothered alot of us, even the majority of those on the boards.... ALot of us are struggling with paying for the entire wedding, so, like me, she is probably upset that some people can not just be greatful for what they have been given...

with that being said

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exactly.........im complaining about someone who is VERY ungrateful and is constantly comlplaining to me and comparing their situation to mine and today was the final straw....had to vent!

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Posted by Bridezilla2009

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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I think she may have just been complaining and venting about something that has bothered alot of us, even the majority of those on the boards.... ALot of us are struggling with paying for the entire wedding, so, like me, she is probably upset that some people can not just be greatful for what they have been given...

with that being said

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exactly.........im complaining about someone who is VERY ungrateful and is constantly comlplaining to me and comparing their situation to mine and today was the final straw....had to vent!

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I really think everyone will run into someone like that throughout the wedding process. I haveon more than one occasion, however I also have two friends whose parents paid for their entire wedding, and who did not complain once. They were so very greatful for everything that was done for them and used the money they saved on a house. I think some people just get very used to getting taken care of, and so when it comes time for them to take a step in a grown up direction and pay for something, it bothers them and they can't handle it. But, i also come from a family where, if you can't pay for a small wedding they tell you you have no business getting married! Everyone comes from differnet backgrounds, and everyone comes from different situations. And so, with those i know who are getting married and are complaining about something as simple as 'they cant believe theyhave to pay for their flowers for the bridesmaids/gm' it does make me upset. Espesially sicne I know they are not struggling and can afford to be generous and buy the flowers without a complaint!!!

Everyone has a bad day...And i believe we have all had our chance to vent, and deserve to without hurting anyones feelings...

I agree. If my parents were paying for the entire wedding I would be thrilled. I'm very fortunate that FH's parents are helping us with majority of the RH cost. My own parent's aren't paying for anything, and I wish they were, not because I'm spoiled, but because of my mother's chip on her shoulder. While some parent's who don't have much growing up want to provide for their children so they can have what they never did, my mother feels that if she didn't have something, why should I. My father paid the deposit on the RH because I think he felt guilty, and my mother allowed that they would pay for my dress and veil 'because her mother did for her, so she should for me'. Other than that, they won't help, because they weren't helped.

I'm obviously grateful for what help we are getting, but it bothers me the reasoning behind WHY we aren't getting help, not the fact that we aren't getting help. If that makes any sense.

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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i think its just about those who are not grateful.

Its hard no matter what, but its also great when you are getting ALOT of help. There is NOTHING wrong with it, hey its great if youre getting so much help but hate when people don't appreciate it. I have seen some girls on here who complain even when their parents are giving them SOOO much. Such as complaining about not getting enough money, now that is just ridiculous.

I know it can be hard maybe to pay 1 vendor. But i also remember how hard it was when I had installments to pay my Rh every 2 months and we paid for our RH, then on top of that had to put deposits down on EVERY vendor and had to pay installments towards EVERY vendor. The worst is towards the end when you have to pay 50% of the RH at once and pay all the balance on vendors all at once, including paying off the HM, final balance on dress, favors, shoes and just about everything. I was about to lose my mind towards the end. It would've been great if i didnt have to worry about half the things, even if it would still be hard with just half, but EVERYTHING it just becomes ALOT! I mean every dime i made was going towards the wedding, especially the last few months. Then it S*CKS when life happens and doesnt go as planned and you have to deal with it yourself. I had paid for half my dress and dad wanted to pay other half, but he was in the hospital for a month when my dress came in so of course plans changed and now i had even more money to give which threw everything off balance, and things just kept adding up. And if god forbid anything happens, if you a responsibility of 2k its different than lets say $30k or more, or lets say now youre off by $10-15k and trying to come up with it. Its hard when things go wrong and you only have yourself to turn to

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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I didn't want to say anything, but I kind of agree here. Even if someone only has to pay for a small part of their wedding, its still rough. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding, but there is still money that FH and I will have to make up for and its rough. I am not going to lie, I do complain about the money we have to put out ourselves. That's not to say I complain about my parents not paying for the entire thing, its more complaining that we have to put in money we barely even have. But even paying a few thousand dollars is rough...we are dead broke and live in the city so its hard to even come up with the small portion of money we have to pay. I think its hard in any situation...

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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i think its just about those who are not grateful.

Its hard no matter what, but its also great when you are getting ALOT of help. There is NOTHING wrong with it, hey its great if youre getting so much help but hate when people don't appreciate it. I have seen some girls on here who complain even when their parents are giving them SOOO much. Such as complaining about not getting enough money, now that is just ridiculous.

I know it can be hard maybe to pay 1 vendor. But i also remember how hard it was when I had installments to pay my Rh every 2 months and we paid for our RH, then on top of that had to put deposits down on EVERY vendor and had to pay installments towards EVERY vendor. The worst is towards the end when you have to pay 50% of the RH at once and pay all the balance on vendors all at once, including paying off the HM, final balance on dress, favors, shoes and just about everything. I was about to lose my mind towards the end. It would've been great if i didnt have to worry about half the things, even if it would still be hard with just half, but EVERYTHING it just becomes ALOT! I mean every dime i made was going towards the wedding, especially the last few months. Then it S*CKS when life happens and doesnt go as planned and you have to deal with it yourself. I had paid for half my dress and dad wanted to pay other half, but he was in the hospital for a month when my dress came in so of course plans changed and now i had even more money to give which threw everything off balance, and things just kept adding up. And if god forbid anything happens, if you a responsibility of 2k its different than lets say $30k or more, or lets say now youre off by $10-15k and trying to come up with it. Its hard when things go wrong and you only have yourself to turn to

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u took the words out of my mouth...i tend to ramble and forget my point.

But it is the truth. I never complain about the money because fh and I decided that we would not get engaged until we had our budget in the bank.

So it may be easy for us, but we kept to a strict savings plan etc. Now, there are bigger issues, and with my mom sick, the money may be needed towards more important things.

Having to think of how much we will have to save to make up any different makes my stomach churn. But I am greatful that fh puts us on a set plan...

So some people, although they may be greatful for what they have, just don't complain, while there are others who are ungreatful to the extent of not seeing how blessed they are to begin with...

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Posted by Cacarina

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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I didn't want to say anything, but I kind of agree here. Even if someone only has to pay for a small part of their wedding, its still rough. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding, but there is still money that FH and I will have to make up for and its rough. I am not going to lie, I do complain about the money we have to put out ourselves. That's not to say I complain about my parents not paying for the entire thing, its more complaining that we have to put in money we barely even have. But even paying a few thousand dollars is rough...we are dead broke and live in the city so its hard to even come up with the small portion of money we have to pay. I think its hard in any situation...

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But look what you just said, you are obviously GREATFUL for what you have been given. You know you are lucky for your parents helping you


In most situations, both of mine for example, they did not have any other expenses and just were not greatful and complained about something simple...because they did not know what responsibility is... one went as far as FIGHTING with herparents because they didn't want to pay for a cigar roller. After spending 60,000 dollars she still was not satisfied...

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

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Posted by Cacarina

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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I didn't want to say anything, but I kind of agree here. Even if someone only has to pay for a small part of their wedding, its still rough. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding, but there is still money that FH and I will have to make up for and its rough. I am not going to lie, I do complain about the money we have to put out ourselves. That's not to say I complain about my parents not paying for the entire thing, its more complaining that we have to put in money we barely even have. But even paying a few thousand dollars is rough...we are dead broke and live in the city so its hard to even come up with the small portion of money we have to pay. I think its hard in any situation...

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But look what you just said, you are obviously GREATFUL for what you have been given. You know you are lucky for your parents helping you


In most situations, both of mine for example, they did not have any other expenses and just were not greatful and complained about something simple...because they did not know what responsibility is... one went as far as FIGHTING with herparents because they didn't want to pay for a cigar roller. After spending 60,000 dollars she still was not satisfied...

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Yea, I totally see your point. It can be frustrating to see girls who are so ungrateful for what their parents can do. I am sure most people's parents will give their children all that they can. I have grown up my entire life in a town with a bunch of rich girls who have way too much and are never satisfied with what they get. I even have friends who are 25 years old with full time jobs and their parents are still paying their rent!!! Then they complain when daddy says they can't use their Amex to buy a new dress

I find the more a girl gets from her parents, the less grateful she is.

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Posted by Cacarina

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

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Posted by Cacarina

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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I didn't want to say anything, but I kind of agree here. Even if someone only has to pay for a small part of their wedding, its still rough. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding, but there is still money that FH and I will have to make up for and its rough. I am not going to lie, I do complain about the money we have to put out ourselves. That's not to say I complain about my parents not paying for the entire thing, its more complaining that we have to put in money we barely even have. But even paying a few thousand dollars is rough...we are dead broke and live in the city so its hard to even come up with the small portion of money we have to pay. I think its hard in any situation...

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But look what you just said, you are obviously GREATFUL for what you have been given. You know you are lucky for your parents helping you


In most situations, both of mine for example, they did not have any other expenses and just were not greatful and complained about something simple...because they did not know what responsibility is... one went as far as FIGHTING with herparents because they didn't want to pay for a cigar roller. After spending 60,000 dollars she still was not satisfied...

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Yea, I totally see your point. It can be frustrating to see girls who are so ungrateful for what their parents can do. I am sure most people's parents will give their children all that they can. I have grown up my entire life in a town with a bunch of rich girls who have way too much and are never satisfied with what they get. I even have friends who are 25 years old with full time jobs and their parents are still paying their rent!!! Then they complain when daddy says they can't use their Amex to buy a new dress

I find the more a girl gets from her parents, the less grateful she is.

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yeah please dont take offense bc this doesnt apply to everyone getting help. And honestly not even just towards weddings. I know ppl who arent planning a wedding, complain about being broke, but meanwhile i know they spend ALOT of money on clothes and other things like that, go out alot, go away alot and then wonder why they're broke. Then bills come and its like OMG i cant pay it, well the problem is that you need to sacrifice a bit. So if somebody says its hard to come up with x amount in x amount of time but the whole time before it they didnt do much to save for it, then i dont feel bad. My dh had problems with this too, yeah he had bills and still was paying off a very large college loan and i get that. If it was JUST that i would understand. But when i was paying things off, and he talks about all the bills hes had to pay, i would turn around and say 'ok what about your new hats, sneakers, shirts?' that money could've been used towards other things that are more important. Of course its hard when you wait until the end and have to come up with alot of money in a short period of time, its better to save a little each month way beforehand. I didnt want to hear when i hadnt bought myself something in the longest time, i didnt go shopping unless i HAD to, such as getting a gift for somebody, and only necessities such as new pants for work, new shirts for and only if i really needed it, stuff like that. Wasnt going out spending money on anything unless i had to. So some situations just get frustrating, but its on an individual basis.

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

ya know I remember this (or something like this) coming up a long time ago regarding affording to live on Long Island or something. I think it is all about prioritizing. If you know you want to save x amount in x amoutn of time then you figure it out and sacrifice. You ahve to decide what is important. Yes its hard and yes it ***** but i can be done. I always get frustrated when I hear people complain about their lousy salaries, about housing etc...anything can be done you just have to prioritize!

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so very true. At my last job that i had when i was planning my wedding, i wasnt making a fortune, theres many who make alot more than me but if they were asked to save they couldn't. It is about sacrificing, thats all it comes down to. I have to say i learned alot and dont regret it. I will admit that before planning, I wasnt that responsible with money. I didnt really need to though, but i was happy to see that when the time in my life came that i needed to, i was able to.

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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If paying for the DJ is going to put them in the poor house, maybe their parents should give them money to live, not pay for a wedding.

To the OP, I completely agree!

I totally feel you on that one!!!!

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

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Posted by kimiequa

or maybe we just don't need to b**ch about people at all?

just remember that there are all kinds of girls on here and you don't know where they are coming from. maybe paying for the dj is really hurting them.

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If paying for the DJ is going to put them in the poor house, maybe their parents should give them money to live, not pay for a wedding.

To the OP, I completely agree!

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I don't completely agree with you about that. FH and I make enough money to live and pay our bills/rent/food, etc. but that does not leave a lot of extra discretionary funds. It will be difficult for us to come up with the extra cash that we may need for the wedding, but we don't need our parents to pay for us to live.

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Posted by bluegreen08

i know the grass always seems greener (and i'm not saying it's not in this case) but you get to call all the shots when you are paying. you have to accommodate what other people want when they are contributing.

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I agree with this. Me and the fh said from the beginning that we didnt want our parents to help for that one reason. We call the shots. BUT it would be great if I didnt have to pay for anything!

Ughhhhhhhhhh!!!!! I totally understand!!! I hate this!!!!!!