I cant take it anymore!!!! LONG vent!

Girls Ive had enough!!!!! I am stressed out up to my eyeballs!!!!
I went today to pick up my dress... and just like I had said 5 months ago when we were ordering it ... its WAY too big!!! Its so abnormaly huge on me and is going to need MAJOR alterations!

THEN I FINALLY picked a BM dress... they tried on a few narrowed it down.. and I picked one.. I was only there with my maid & matron of honor but the other girls didnt care what we picked and my fsil has actually tried the gown on awhile ago and had liked it.... well Im not 100% crazy about it... its pretty and it looks great on them... but its not really 'elegant' to me or really go with my dress whatsever... well I am happy to have it out of the way.. so I get home and tell fsil sorry we went without you it was last min. and I was picking up my dress.. blah blah I knew you already liked it and so you have to go to the store and leave the deposit and let them measure you... and shes making a big deal b/c its like $30 cheaper on net.bride and some other store near her has it a little more $$ but includes alterations and now shes gunna have to go someplace else for them to alter it. Well I told her that the place she wants to go has gotten bad feedback for alterations.. and she ROLLED HER EYES at me and huffed!!!!!!


THEN my fmil heard me talking about how my dress is too big and needs alot of alterations and shes making it so much worse!! going on and on how shes seen so many dresses be destroyed and look so horrible after its taken in so much and be crooked... she went on and on till i was about to cry!!! then I showed everyone the tux my fh and I picked out for him and the one for the groomsmen... and she goes HES WEARING A BLACK TIE?? in such a nasty way it took all my stregnth not to punch her in the mouth. I really cant take this stress anymore!!! His family is literally driving me nuts and I dont have the stregnth or pacients to ignore it or brush it off like I have been doing the last year... im really gunna hurt someone

sorry to hear you are having a hard time with FIL's..Remember..its your wedding. You do what you want to do. I know its easy for me to say, I just don't get why families cannot be supportive and happy!
Just take lots of deep breaths and you can get thru it! Good Luck!!

They can't complain what they don't know about.

Aint it the truth! That's why I only have a MOH, and have been quiet with my plans.

soon2bemrsz- your mil sounds like mine!!!!
They mean well but can come off as mean-
(I really believe that they do have thier heart in the right place)

AS far as your dress don't worry a good seamstress can get it right.

As far as your bm's - that to me was a miniseries as well, as long as they look and fell good in thier dresses thats how the pics will come off. Its hard when you are dealing with more then 2 girls.

Hang in there- it will all work out.

from my experience:

shop where they're good to you and remove problem BMs.

if you dont LOVE the BM dress i'd change it since you have some time until the wedding. you dont want to be thinking for mos about what you should have gotten.
as for your dress do not worry about it. a good seamstress can work miracles. my dress for some odd reason was ordered 4 sizes too big but now it looks perfect.
as for your FILs, tell your FH to have a talk with them a tell them to lay off a bit. they may not realize that how sensitive you are to their comments.
hang in there

Thank you ladies!!! you made such good points and said ALOT of things that are so helpful to me!! lots of hugs to you