My mother is trying so hard to make my wedding planning miserable, now she is complaining because i dont want just some smo jo fh and i never even met coming to our wedding, she screams i'll pay for the f*ing plate, not the point !! I am so ready to dis invite her. and I hate to say this but she LIES. I do not know what to do, god, forbid it is not about her.
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i'm so sorry. i went through something similar with my parents, and i ended up caving just because i didn't want drama with my family. even though fh and i got into a fight about it - which really bothered me.
who is paying? we told our parents they could invite some friends if it didn't get out of control; fh's mom invited 3 couples and my parents invited 4. not terribly unreasonable - why is your mom giving you such a hard time?
i felt the same though - i had a rule, no strangers at my wedding.
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catsgirl
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fh and I are paying for everything, my parents did not even offer a dime, nor did I ask or want them to. she even complained about the cost of the tux, for my dad. she is so out of sorts and is being very mean. and ruining everything.
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I'm sorry you're going through this. Remember at the end of the day since you're paying you're the boss. Don't let her get you down.
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Posted by catsgirl
fh and I are paying for everything, my parents did not even offer a dime, nor did I ask or want them to. she even complained about the cost of the tux, for my dad. she is so out of sorts and is being very mean. and ruining everything.
i would tell her to stop! you dont want strangers at the wedding! and i dont blame you!!!! keep your head up it will be fine!
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Just tell her you don't want to say to anyone at your wedding 'It's nice to meet you!'
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i'm so sorry you are going through this! I've had similar arguements with my mom. There is a horrible divorce going on in my immediate family and its causing so much drama. My mom has never acted this way in her life and even threatened to not come to my wedding if i invited a certain person who totaly deserves to be there. She acted like a lunatic and the only way that i got my way is that i had to scream and cry and make her realize how horrible the things were that she was saying and doing to me. She's been better now, but now she's calling me and telling me that certain family members are requesting who they want to sit with! What???!!!! sorry, had to vent, just know that you are not alone and it will get better!
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I would let her have the guest. It's not worth it. You'll just make yourself more upset and she'll just keep giving you grief.
I'm so sorry...
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I'm so sorry your mom is doing this to you. Since she isn't paying for the wedding then just stick to your guns and say no. However, if she is offering to pay for the plate in the long run it may just be less of a headache for you to let her have her way. It totally s-ucks that she doesn't get that this is not about her. Hopefully she will calm down and realize that this is your wedding, you are paying and that you get to decide who will be there and who won't.
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boooo!! sounds like she's being selfish. i'm sorry!!
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Posted by catsgirl
My mother is trying so hard to make my wedding planning miserable, now she is complaining because i dont want just some smo jo fh and i never even met coming to our wedding, she screams i'll pay for the f*ing plate, not the point !! I am so ready to dis invite her. and I hate to say this but she LIES. I do not know what to do, god, forbid it is not about her.
I'm sorry to hear about all this drama I remembered you're Tux drama. I don't understand how she'll pay for a plate, but not for your dad's $100.00 tux rental?
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Posted by catsgirl
My mother is trying so hard to make my wedding planning miserable, now she is complaining because i dont want just some smo jo fh and i never even met coming to our wedding, she screams i'll pay for the f*ing plate, not the point !! I am so ready to dis invite her. and I hate to say this but she LIES. I do not know what to do, god, forbid it is not about her.
I'm sorry to hear about all this drama I remembered you're Tux drama. I don't understand how she'll pay for a plate, but not for your dad's $100.00 tux rental?
you hit the nail on the head, she will pay for someones plate before my daddys tux, i cant even imagine what my dad has been going through, he has to live with her through this, lol. and one thing i cant tolerate is drama, that is something i always avoid. my mom usually is not like this, she is turning into MOMZILLA, she is scaring me.
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Posted by catsgirl
My mother is trying so hard to make my wedding planning miserable, now she is complaining because i dont want just some smo jo fh and i never even met coming to our wedding, she screams i'll pay for the f*ing plate, not the point !! I am so ready to dis invite her. and I hate to say this but she LIES. I do not know what to do, god, forbid it is not about her.
I'm sorry to hear about all this drama I remembered you're Tux drama. I don't understand how she'll pay for a plate, but not for your dad's $100.00 tux rental?
you hit the nail on the head, she will pay for someones plate before my daddys tux, i cant even imagine what my dad has been going through, he has to live with her through this, lol. and one thing i cant tolerate is drama, that is something i always avoid. my mom usually is not like this, she is turning into MOMZILLA, she is scaring me.
I guess she wants it to be absolutely perfect too. But she needs to calm down (no offense meant) I think she's turning this into her wedding, I still say talk to your dad and find out what's really going on. Like you said he's with her everyday, maybe he knows??
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I'm sorry your going through this. I had a problem with my mom because she got a little too excited and wanted to invite her co-workers whom I never met. I love her but I had to put my foot. I had to explain to her that it wasn't going to happen. She proceeded to call me bridezilla but I made her understand that FH and I are paying for it and we want just important people that we know and love to be there. I did cave in alittle and let her invite some cousins of hers whom I never met.
Maybe you can come to some sort of agreement with your mom. I came to realize that my mom was happy for me and just wanted to share it with everyone. So try compromising with your mom. I hope you guys can work it out because you don't want something like this to make you unhappy
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Posted by catsgirl my mom usually is not like this, she is turning into MOMZILLA, she is scaring me.
Ooookay. I've been reading everything she's been doing to you and I was going to respond 'WHAT IS THIS WOMAN'S PROBLEM!!!!' Now I think I know.
Could it be she's having a hard time letting you go and it's coming out in this way? Even if you may have not been living with her for the past few years, you've been HER girl. Now you'll be someone else's.
