Ok, normally, I do not think aboutt his EVER because there's no reason to, but I have been a lot lately. My parents have given JT and I a very generous amount of money for our wedding. While it does not cover the cost of the wedding completely, they have also allowed for us to live with them for VERY LITTLE rent so we could save the remainder of the money. So in essence, they're giving a whole lot more than the monetary value. On the other hand, we have JT's parents. JT's parents are not giving us anything. Not a cent, not a dime, not an anything....and somehow, this has never been contested. JT never even got a chance to ASK them if they could help us out even a little with anything because they already threw in our faces that they will have nothing to do with our wedding monetarily. I can't say I was surprised by this, but what DOES surprise me is the fact that his mother wants a say about everything with the wedding. I avoid her and ignore her, but I feel like, who the hell are YOU to even talk to me about my wedding that you claimed you wanted nothing to do with? I feel so resentful lately towards his family, so much so that I won't go to their house becuase I'm afraid I will blow up in their faces. I just feel like my parents are bending over backwards to help JT and I start our new lives together and they are doing NOTHING. I know there's nothing I can do about it, and this is not about money, but I just don't understand how you can NOT support your own son? I'm just so mad at them. And his mother has the nerve to b!tch at JT that no one ever does anything for her! WHY would we EVER doing anything for HER? She has NEVER done anything for US. I MOVED TO MASSACHUSETTS to help support HER son when he was in college because SHE TOLD HIM she would never help him again if he went away to college. And she wants to know why WE don't help HER? I just don't want these people in our lives. I know I have no choice, but I honestly think I hate his mother. His father I can deal with, but his mother, I truly think I hate her. I'm a terrible person for saying that, but god it feels good to have said it. I REALLY needed to get all of that off my chest. I try not to think about it ever because I get so angry and intense about it, but I was ready to explode. So thank you for letting me vent.
MrsJ
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I think his Mom is a control freak and she doesnt have full control so she is flipping out. I'm in pretty much the same situation with my FILs. All I can do is NOT pick up the phone when I see their # on the caller ID and count my lucky stars that they live 45 minutes away and not in the same town! Good luck! Dont let her be successful in ruining your wedding though.
btrflygrl
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Oh Rach....
If she is confrontational about having a say...you or JT could easily say that she can have an opinion but you won't consider it because she is not contributing. I did it with my own mother. She wanted certain friends there...I said you get one table...that's it. You're not helping us and you get no say. She shut up real fast.
It is SO hard not getting along with the MIL..I know it because right now, she blames me for moving. Although, she asked DH about me, but I don't think she'll talk to me for quite awhile.
Kriss2c
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I'm officially joining this club. I can tell you so many stories about my FILs. It sounds to me like she is having trouble with deciding on whether she really wants to cut the apron strings.
OctBride05
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i am sorry you have to go through this.
SandraLynn
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I have no in- laws, she passed away and he is -well--not around...but I do have my own parents, and even though my father has helped out, I think he could have cracked open the bank account a little bit more! And my mother--well, she has not contributed one penny, nothing, but she did tell me to pick out a penjoir (sp?)...and she'll pay for that, heck, i need real wedding help, not a nighty, I am sounding very ungrateful, but my mom's priorities are a bit weird at times...I am grateful, but it is very frustrating !!!! She asked me last night if i was wearing a vail and I said i could not afford a vail, i was waiting for her to chime in on that one --but nothing..oh well...Thanks mom, (do i sound angry? yep).
