I don't know what to do anymore....

I will try to keep this as short as I can.... My ONLY stress so far has been my FiL's. They only thing they are doing for us is the RD, which I'm very grateful for, but they are turning it into a nightmare for me. They wouldn't give me a budget, then every restaurant I gave them they said was too much. They finally agreed on one place, but is now trying to dictate who we can and can't invite. At first, they were saying ONLY BP...not even Grandparents! Now they agreed to invite Grandparents. My ONLY problem is that I have ONE out of town Aunt (my mom's sis) that is staying with my mom...her daughter and 2 granddaughters are in the BP so they will be at the RD. I just cannot leave my aunt sitting home alone while we are all at the RD, and my FiL's are giving me a hard time about inviting her. I even offered to pay for her on my own, but they are saying it's not the money, its that they don't want out of town people, b/c then they feel obligated to invite their out of town guests. But my aunt has NO ONE else...at least their out of town guests will be with each other...There's no way I can leave my aunt home alone. Then my FMIL tells me ok, but not to tell my FIL about my aunt coming...but he's the type that will go over to my aunt at the RD and be like 'Why are u here? you're not in the BP' So now I will have to worry that whole night that he's going to say something. I'm so ready at this point to just tell my FIL's thanks but no thanks for the RD and just do it on my own!!

Any advice???

I'm sorry your going through this...I have no advice because honestly my advice would be bad..I have no patience for people, I'd tell them to screw it I'll throw the RD myself.
Hope you can come to a resolution so theres no uncomfortable moments.

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Posted by SoonToBeEMM

wow. Sorry your dealing with this. What does FH say about it? Cant He speak with his dad and talk some sense into him. If its not about the money then i dont see why your aunt cant just come. How will any of his OOT guest know your aunt is at the RD?? I hope everything works out.

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FH just keeps telling me not to worry about it and to stop stressing. I mentioned to him my fear about his dad saying something and he just says 'he won't say anything.' His parents are divorced and FMIL just keeps telling me that FFIL is hard to talk to and hard to deal with...

Just invite her and be done with it.
If they want to be a holes to their out of town guests- DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO!
You obv. have family values- and you're a good person.

Follow your gut- invite your Aunt and IGNORE THE BEASTS that are your inlaws!

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Posted by DANAnPATRICK

I'm sorry your going through this...I have no advice because honestly my advice would be bad..I have no patience for people, I'd tell them to screw it I'll throw the RD myself.
Hope you can come to a resolution so theres no uncomfortable moments.

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me 2!

i would tell them thanks but no thanks i will pay for the rd myself but thanks for the offer

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Posted by DreamyD

Just invite her and be done with it.
If they want to be a holes to their out of town guests- DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO!
You obv. have family values- and you're a good person.

Follow your gut- invite your Aunt and IGNORE THE BEASTS that are your inlaws!

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Seriously...I have decided that I can't stress any more over them. I'm just gonna do what I want and that's that!!! LOL

i would have your fiance talk to his parents about this.