I don't know who I want to hurt more FH or FMIL

mls282 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 12:59 PM

I don't know who I want to hurt more FH or FMIL

Steffie Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:03 PM

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I'm sorry for things is happening to all at once......
Is there anybody else that can help, like MOH, BM????

Mrs B to Be Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:05 PM

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i'm so sorry your so frustrated.....take a deep breath, and make a list of what needs to be done....i think you need to tell FH that the 'pick up arrangements' for FMIL and grandma needs to be handled by HIM since you have to clean, shop, and cook.....is there anything you can cook now and get it out of the way? i also suggest target or walmart for paper goods they are cheaper than the supermarket.....and for decor just pick up a big bunch of pretty flowers to put on the table it'll be cheaper than balloons and paper signs and stuff and you wont mind look at it for the next few days!

can you recruit your BMs to help you at all???GL!!!

NickandTara426 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:05 PM

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I hope you feel better! I'm speechless .

mls282 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:06 PM

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ace730 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:07 PM

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I don't know about your budget but do you could always have it catered. FH and I did this and to me it was less stressful than actually having to cook. I priced around some places and you can find packages for as cheap as $8.00 a person. Hang in there. It will all be ok!

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:14 PM

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I would pass around little appetizers, make some mixed drinks and serve cake and coffee and that's it....get a few balloons and streamers at party city and thats it.

Don't drive yourself crazy, things always end up falling into place. I definitely agree with you that it's not nice of FMIL to throw everything into your lap.

Why can't FH go pick up his mother? Let them both know that you will have to get things ready at the house so you cant go running around.

Hope things work out...

mls282 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:18 PM

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vicky1125 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:21 PM

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i'm sorry things aren't going right. maybe your MOH can help you. why not do a BBQ if you have a grill and just get frozen fries so that there's not much cooking involved. BJ's & Costco have salads and other things in bulk that you can buy. hope things work out.

ace730 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:22 PM

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Finger foods and BBQ sounds like a good idea. Get a cake and call it a day, lol!

Good luck! Hope everything works out!

longislandlibrarian Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:37 PM

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OOO MY GOD!!!! definitely keep it light.. and see if there is anyone willing to maybe bring something? another family member who might help?????

you poor thing you must be ready to lose your mind!!!!!!!!!!!!

HUGS!!!!

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:54 PM

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WOW!!!!!!!!!!!! That is unbelievable that your FMIL is doing this to you! I'm soo sorry!
I would just have a simple BBQ and a yummy sheet cake.

flairforfashion Posted: Jul 09, 2008 01:57 PM

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I am sorry this is all happening! I don't know what to say but I hope the E Party works out. A good money saving tip is to go to BJ's. Buy a lot of bulk food and whatever you don't use can be returned. As for your Dad and Step Mom- I am sorry you are going through that- BIG hug for you! Some people don't just get the importance of a wedding which blows. I am sure you have other family that are supportive and I would focus my time with them if I were you.

littlepixie12 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 02:00 PM

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Cant your FH help you with this? I mean he has to see how unfair it is that they dumped this on you. You shouldnt even have to work for your own party. I wouldnt say anyhting to your FMIL, I would talk to your FH because he is the only one that can say anything to her at this point.

dont stress, do the best you can with the 70 dollars and thats it. You cant kill yourself doing this.

Nuvia97 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 02:11 PM

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hey there
I would def try and see if someone (anyone!) can help you out with anything. I def think you should sit down with FH and let him know he needs to help out with the 'transportation' of his mom, grandma etc.

Not an easy task but I would say go with EASY fingers foods, coffee, tea and cake.

Go online to the food network channel site and see what apps you can cook up with little ingredients (n

Checkout if you guys have costco/BJ's nearby. Sheetcake is CHEAP, good and they can have it within 48 hrs if you let em know.

Hope this helps and KEEP YOUR HEAD UP...everything will be fine.

Jsquared279 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 02:45 PM

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Wow! I am not really sure what to say here but I am gonna give it a shot:

1. Don't apologize for venting that is what we are here for

2. Your FMIL has some NERVE!!

3. Your FH needs to step up and be on your side and understand that this is an unexpected expense and hassle for the BOTH of you, not just for you.

4. I am praying that things change and your FMIL offers more $$ at least. Do you think you could ask your parents for help to through it??

5. I am sorry this worked out this way and I would just as irritated if not more so, if I were in your shoes. Hang in there! We are all here to help in any way we can!

mls282 Posted: Jul 09, 2008 02:46 PM

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MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Jul 09, 2008 03:27 PM

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Posted by mls282

Posted by littlepixie12

Cant your FH help you with this? I mean he has to see how unfair it is that they dumped this on you. You shouldnt even have to work for your own party. I wouldnt say anyhting to your FMIL, I would talk to your FH because he is the only one that can say anything to her at this point.

dont stress, do the best you can with the 70 dollars and thats it. You cant kill yourself doing this.

Thanks everyone!!!

And that is exactly what I did. I spoke to FH and said this is getting ridiculous can you step in here and talk to FMIL. He couldn't understand why he had to as he likes to call it 'mediate' and then sent an email to her about it. She then responded with what is wrong with that girl can't she communicate to me herself... blah .... blah... blah.
And then I got that email forwarded to me. It felt great to read him and FMIL talking about me like that after all of this BS!

I find it very rude the FH talks about you to his mother behind your back. I would be livid and make the two of them plan the freakin party. It's for his family, he should be taking charge W T F! I'm sorry you're dealing with such drama.